To think my "d" h is a horrible twat?

[Pinupgirl]

Far too much background to go into but dh and I are having a seriously bad patch. I actually really dislike him at the moment.

Anyway we go to the inlaws on a sunday for dinner.We get ready to leave to go to inlaws and our street is like an ice rink-literally. You cannot get to the car park without going down 2 flights of stairs which are treacherous at the best of times.

Dh marches on ahead despite me asking him to hold toddlers hand. So toddler I and I try to get down the stairs slipping and sliding everywhere. An elderly gentlemen coming along the street very kindly stops and asks if we did his help. I decline politely and point out that my dh is sat in the car watching us,to which the old man replies-"you should ditch him my love"

And you know what I just thought he is so right!!! I mean would your dh sit there and watch you struggle? Is that normal?

I managed to get toddler to the car and told dh I was no longer going to his parents as I couldn't trust myself not to lose it in front of them.

I am now sat here in tears and don't really know why

[MoldieOldNaiceHam]

Someone asked me what I was hanging on for when I live with ex-twat. I realised I didn't know and I couldn't remember the last time he had done something kind for me but I could remember the lists of insults an belittling.

Then I left him. It just seemed so logical suddenly.

[YouTheCat]

I planned my escape for years. Planned and saved.

Well worth it in the end. Never been happier.

[Sunflower49]

If you're feeling sick and shaky, that spells to me that you've been feeling hurt and oppressed for some time.
And YANBU. My partner would go out of his way to make sure I'm safe in that situation, and as somebody else said above, if he watched anybody struggling he'd help if he could (remembers him running up a 'down' escalator recently when an old lady had dropped her handbag)!

This man isn't a nice person. I know how scary it is to think of going it alone, but with a bit of research you can find a way out for yourself. Don't put up with being unhappy.Good luck!

[ChippingInLovesAutumn]

I remember the other thread when you were ill :(


That man in the street - listen to him. That is what normal, decent men are like.

I know it's hard after so many years and when you have children - but you wont regret it, I promise.