To think my dh is a thoughtless fuck.

[Dietfail]

I need to loose weight. But mostly, I want to. Im unhappy.

DH has just had a major go at me for not sticking with my exercise classes and eating rubbish. Fair enough except he didn't seem to care when he wanted me to have a burger with him while out to lunch earlier, and following this lecture has just plonked himself down next to me and is eating a huge bag of crisps.

he can't possibly have any fucking clue how difficult it is to have the willpower to loose weight, Since he eats what he wants and never gains an ounce.

now, I understand that I'm the one who said I wanted to loose weight, even though he's made it clear he really doesn't care either way and loves me how I am. Great. Honestly, great. But who the fuck made him the diet police, Oh and only when it suits him. Should he feel like it he'll suggest a takeaway as I return from the gym for example, but tonight he thinks its ok to lecture me on my failings and then eat a giant bag of crisps less than a foot from me.

ok. so im probably being unreasonable and get a flaming but im so bloody annoyed I feel like throwing all his rubbish food from his crap cupboard out of the window and tell him to go fuck himself.

OP I am also trying to lose weight. There is no way I could do it with all that rubbish in the house. Let him keep it in the car boot and eat it out of your sight.

I am trying weightwatchers by the way and she suggests leaving stuff in your partners boot ie. children's treats etc. Anyway, that is neither here nor there but if you go somewhere like weightwtatchers or that, you can have the odd packet of crisps or a burger. So it might be something to think about.. Also is is supportive as you can talk to the men and women there.. Have a bit of a laugh and get good ideas for meals that are low so you can treat yourself.

In terms of having to put up with criticism etc. tell him where to go. Refuse to talk to him about your weight. Maybe go out with friends etc that sitting on the sofa with him acting like a dick insensitive soul.

Instead of sitting on the sofa I meant

Does he think he's supporting you by telling you off? Maybe talk to him about how you would like to be supported as an alternative to him telling you off, ie saying well done when you say no to a chocolate etc.

I don't blame him for saying let's get a takeaway etc, that's part of enjoying life enjoying food with your partner. If he wants a lunchtime Burger, could you try to find a place that does jackets or some such so you can have a healthier option?

I can't recommend weight watchers enough, I lost 21lbs and my DH lost over 3 stone and we could still eat takeaways and go out for drinks etc. There's also loads of recipes you can get which are great for the whole family and lots of advice on healthy eating and support for your efforts from others.

Good luck OP!

Hmm I think you are being a bit UR.

He probably think he's supporting you by trying to make you see that eating crappy food doesn't help. I know its really hard to lose weight, I'm on that journey myself, but it can be annoying for the other person to hear you moan about being overweight and then eating a packet of biscuits 2mins later.

I think you've got to expect him to have an opinion so just don't tell him what your doing!

I understand where you & your dh are coming from. In my relationship im the skinny one who eats what I like. Dp is very overweight. Im talking something in the region of 22/23/24 stone I don't know how much he weighs. I don't care actually as im more concerned with his health & happiness.

Last January I gave up smoking. 20 a day for 22 years & its 16 years since I'd even attempted to stop smoking but I did it!

Dp complains about being fat, lethargic, unhappy but he won't do ANYTHING to help himself. So he eats so he gets fatter, more unhappy & eats again...

I love him but he's so bloody annoying. I never ever say anything about his size, weight or what he eats. I will agree with him when hes says he's overweight or unhealthy.

Like my smoking, my dp needs to CHOSE to do something about his lifestyle.

Good luck op& stick with it!

You don't need to smoke to live but you have to eat to live so you can't just stop eating. It's a fine line and very easy to eat a lot.