I must point out DS is now 9yo and in year 5. He's been extremely ill and diagnosed with tonsillitis at surgery. He was lying down on me but constantly twitching his legs and twiddling his fingers and occasionally instead of frequently! making noises.
Saw his old year R teacher - she was a complete cow to him and memorably punished him for pretend stinging a girl with a 'bee puppet' they had made - the girl cried. He was 4.1yo at the time.
School did point out he had poor social communication but despite my insistence thought it was 'something he'd learn as he matured' and she seemed to preferred the 'punish it out of him' approach. 
as opposed to something that he needed an IEP/support for.
Anyway she retired as he left year R and he left the infants just over 2 years ago.
She said Hi to DS who didn't recognise her. I reminded him she was his teacher in year R. DS just said 'oh' and laid back down. She asked him how juniors was and he said "fine".
She then said "your much quieter than you use to be but I see you still don't sit still" 
My simple reply was "I see you're still as judgemental as you use to be and continue to misunderstand children"
Ironically my DS is not quiet - he's quiet socially but is always talking to himself, his Ipad 
or generally making low level noises. He does sit very well now.
Most importantly thanks to the correct support he's getting is doing extremely well in school and is part way towards a diagnosis of ASD.
AIBU?
To have said this to DS' Yr R teacher in GP surgery today?
youarewinning · 08/11/2013 22:19
You're still holding a grudge because he missed 10 minutes of golden time for pretending to sting someone and making them cry?
Why don't you read the whole thread before commenting? 
I sat next to her as no other seats - I smiled and said Hi as it would be rude to ignore her. Then DS asked me who she was. She then continued the conversation. Bet she wishes she'd kept quiet now?
Thanks claig We may not have agreed through the thread but its great when debate leads people to see it from both sides. I am glad I said it because its made me realise lots of things. But I agree I maybe jumped the gun on her meaning of the comment - and could probably have handled it better.
I still dislike her though 
Yes, youarewinning, I don't blame you because your reaction was instinctive, based on the latent resentment. But now please cut her some slack 
Shame it was 5 years too late
I regret letting them make me feel like I was the one making a fuss at the time and that I should have let them "do their job".
I knew something wasn't quite right with DS - hence why I'd already sought support from HV when he was 2 and was under ENT for hearing checks.
Whoever said hindsights a wonderful thing - should be shot
He has SN - so not great at recalling people at the best of times. I can still remember teachers I had. My DS couldn't remember the nursery teacher who he loved when he saw her 3 years after he left.
And why are you questioning my DS behaviour. We are disussing my response to a teacher that failed my DS and made his first year of school hell. Not once have I claimed my DS is perfect. In fact his HT told me I was imagining his behaviour to be worse than it actually was and "to stop getting myself in a tizz about it"
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