AIBU if you have a two year in nappies and they do a stinking poo on the bus do you get off?

[RoseRedder]

Just wondering as this happened yesterday.

A mum got on with a toddler about 20-24 months old ,who did the poo face and burst into tears (poor wee girl) however the smell was awful.

We got off the bus early (because of the smell) but the person with me thought IWBU to ask us to leave the bus and the mum should have been the one to leave.

My point was it was easier for us to get off as she had a two year old. His argument was if he had trodden in dog muck and was stinking out the bus he would expect a passengers to ask him to leave

He is being unreaseonable isn't he!

Kiriw why is changing a nappy on a bus disgusting. To put it into context it was a 50 min bus journey through the middle of nowhere and an hourly service and quite early into the journey. Are we all too sensitive that we can't cope with something so natural as changing a nappy? I wouldn't change her in a restaurant but yes pretty much anywhere else if I didn't have access to a changing room.

Obviously massively U to expect the mum and child to get off. Best thing to do is to get home (or to their destination) and deal with the nappy there.

OP you could get your friend a couple of THESE

I have four kids and I never ever got used to the disgusting smell of toddler shite. I used to pay my babysitter a hardship 'bonus' if she ever had to change a dirty nappy

So you got off the bus because a baby filled its nappy. What would you have done if you had been on a plane?

Because it's a bus, not a toilet? However much a shit stinks in a nappy, it stinks 10x worse once you take the nappy off. Plus I think it's really horrible and humiliating thing to change a child of that age's nappy in public.

Milk-fed babies - okay. Toddlers eating proper food - absolutely not.

I got off the tube once and changed DS on the platform. It was vile. Totally and utterly vile, I couldn't keep him in the carriage smelling like that. Mind you, some knob with a dog on a piece of string bitched about me changing his nappy in a quiet corner of a deserted platform. You could barely see anything past me and it took about ten seconds. Then his dog tried to eat the farking nappy. Bet his dog craps in public too.

I wouldn't change a nappy on a bus! Never. Quiet corner of a platform, yes - sometimes in decent weather the outdoors is the only option, and you can find a secluded spot. Confined space, no way on earth, I think that's incredibly selfish I'm afraid. You move to somewhere appropriate or you cope until you can.

The OP's young male friend is being an eejit, though. Of the unused-to-children variety. Innocence of the childfree, in fact. Love to hear his take on this when he's actually got one! I suspect it would change.

How was she and the toddler meant to get home?!

er no, I wouldn't get off the bus because my child had done a poo. that really has to be one of the most ridiculous suggestions I've ever heard!

"continue my journey in stink-free comfort"

:o

It's a basic human right!

Some posters have the right arse on!

Yes, your son wbu, 20 is adult and more than grown up enough to realise he no longer gets the privileges of childhood - allowances made and his needs met first - and it's time he extended them himself.
I have no idea why you are getting such ridiculous comments about getting off the bus, if that was more comfortable for you so what? You said nothing to the mum in question just quietly exercised your right to choose how to end your journey the best way for you. I really didn't think anyone would care so much that you did.
You did nothing wrong but some people seem to have read 'and I slapped them both around the face as I left'.

Are people really so deluded that they think their immunity to their own child's shit means it actually doesn't smell? Some poo is not so bad, some smells like an animal corpse has been matured in a plastic bag for a fortnight. Most adults will politely not acknowledge it, but if you are stuck in a hot metal tube with the smell of someone else's warm faeces rolling around your sinuses then I don't think it's a problem to opt out if you can. It doesn't make you a lesser person to not appreciate the bouquet of a stranger's toddler's nappy. You'd think you lifted your bus fare right out of their pocket I'd come and fart in both your faces you think you've read the most stupid thing on MN, then you realise you aren't even close.

Of course she couldn't get off, that's just daft
Last year dh was on train and a homeless guy sat next to him, he smelt so bad dh couldn't stand it but he didn't want to offend him so rather than getting up and moving seats, he waited till train stopped at station, pretended to leave and got back on further down the train, rather than hurt the guys feelings. I expect your friend would have asked the guy to leave the train.

Totally

bunbaker

*So you got off the bus because a baby filled its nappy. What would you have done if you had been on a plane?

Planes have toilets

ROFL at people who believe a 2-year-old's poo "does not smell that bad". I understand that when you get used to your own DC's poo it may "not smell that bad" for you (same as our own shit does not smell that bad to us either). But please be assured that, for everybody else, it still smells like shit.

I wouldn't expect the mum to get off, these things happen. But so fucking what if the OP wanted to get off a couple of stops early because she didn't want to bask in the smell of some kids cabbagey shit? It doesn't make her immature. If it was me I would be retching until tears came out. It's a REFLEX.

"Erm you both obviously don't have children, what an over reaction, you sound like two drama queens"

I have done adult personal care and have had three children, but since not having to encounter Human meat eating poo, I find I now retch, at the smell.

I can clean put after my pets and that includes a half digested thrown up rat and a raw diet fed GS.

I can also muck out horses, but once you are over the toddler stage yourself, you can react differently to a person's poo, who eats a full diet.

It is natural to gag at smelling some smells, it makes us be aware of hygiene.

Nothing dramatic about it, if in walking distance if stop.

Life seems simple with toddlers, from the outside, unless you have had a few to deal with, you just won't get some of the problems.

I was once stuck on a long haul flight with a woman who was fully mobile ( just done a holiday in my hotel), who wore pads, I spent a lot if time in the toilet spraying perfume in my wrist and then sniffing it until the smell took over again.

"Erm you both obviously don't have children, what an over reaction, you sound like two drama queens"

I have done adult personal care and have had three children, but since not having to encounter Human meat eating poo, I find I now retch, at the smell.

I can clean put after my pets and that includes a half digested thrown up rat and a raw diet fed GS.

I can also muck out horses, but once you are over the toddler stage yourself, you can react differently to a person's poo, who eats a full diet.

It is natural to gag at smelling some smells, it makes us be aware of hygiene.

Nothing dramatic about it, if in walking distance if stop.

Life seems simple with toddlers, from the outside, unless you have had a few to deal with, you just won't get some of the problems.

I was once stuck on a long haul flight with a woman who was fully mobile ( just done a holiday in my hotel), who wore pads, I spent a lot if time in the toilet spraying perfume in my wrist and then sniffing it until the smell took over again.

a 2 year old doing a poo on a bus I can handle
but 20 year olds with verbal diarrhea, that's a different matter
sometimes people that age just have to have an opinion on everything

I might have got off, as either the mother with the toddler or as a fellow passenger. It would depend on how much further I had to go

What TotallyBursar said.

Been there, done that Yesterday. DS2 coming into land sat on my knee.

I would have got off if it was my toddler, but that's just me-always thinking of how others feel.