Aibu to give dd (8) and empty stocking for Christmas...

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Well ,empty apart from concert tickets to see one direction?

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Don't understand why you bought three tickets either!

Sell one - one of you take her and spend the ticket money on a few other bits for her.

Because we do things as a family?

What's odd about that. She will be thrilled that we are all going, and that noone gets left behind

Is it really so odd that both parents may choose to go?

Df and I have both been to a few kids-type events that could easily have been done by just one of us.

BUT it's nice to have that family time, even when it's an event that neither df or I particularly enjoy.

You could have taken her on your own. Then you would have £60 to get her loads of extra little presents.

YABU.

Well I understand doing things as a family of course. But if you don't have to and the tickets 'clean you out' then I don't see the point.

Of course it's lovely to do things as a family, but when you have really stretched yourself moneywise, surely it would have been better to spend £140 instead of £200 and get your daughter a couple of extra things to open?

it's only really so odd that both parents choose to go when it's' something very expensive that's clearly stretching them beyond means and into the realms of not being able to buy her any other christmas presents. Not sure when the actual shows are either - how long does she have to wait to actually get her present with absolutely nothing else? She'd probably have more fun going with a pal who knows all the words and their names and will SCREEEEEAM along with her too.

Maybe both of them are going with their dd so they have someone to share the pain with!! I can imagine many families where the parents would be fighting tooth and nail not to have to go and see 1Direction! [win]

I'm so confused (and in Ireland so maybe we do things differently) isn't the stocking just for little extra bits and bobs?? The main presents are left under the tree? If so, I can't possibly understand why people think this is mean?

cider made my point exactly . Unless your DH really likes them ,in which case give him his ticket for his Christmas present .

YABU fill her stocking with small gifts like toiletries.craft stuff silly bits ane pieces and give her the one direction tickets as a main present. When our DDs were small only stocking stuff came from FC and all other presents were from us and relations. Anyway I'm getting away from the point. At the age of 8 my DDs would have been very upset with an almost empty stocking.

That is what happens in this house STD. I can confirm it's NOT my turn to see 1D this year

And what will she play with on Christmas Day?

Don't you think it will give her a great memory? A great story to go with it?

She's All into the backstory atm. Don't you think she's going to get a lot of milage out of the story too....you know the actual emotions and feelings rather than the greed of how much.....rather than WHAT she got?

Could just fill it with some wrapped chocolates like Roses, snazzy stationery and the tickets. I would have loved that at about her age and it wouldn't be expensive.

it'll give her just as great a memory if she goes with you and a friend. or just you.

AIBU?
yes, yabu.
No, IANBU
ad infinitum.

She will play with the mountains of prezzies she always gets!

I'm talking about specifically avoiding the tat and prezzies for prezzies sake in a stocking and putting one VERY decent prezzie

I don't think it's meant to be cruel - I think it's meant to be exciting / puzzling leading to a big surprise.

I love the cracker idea! Wondering if I can nick that

Dear Goodness. Somebody has been pissing in an awful lot of Mumsnetters chips this morning. OP YANBU. I am doing pretty much the same thing for a different concert and I know that DD is such a great kid that she won't throw a strop because she hasn't got a load of tat as well as her tickets.
Can't WAIT to see her face. Am beyond excited Enjoy!

Not all the small things are tat though, stationery would get used and sweets eaten and enjoyed - if she likes them.

I see the point of going as a family, but I do feel that its mean to give her the three tickets as her Christmas present. whether shes 8 or 10, i'm sure she'd still love to open a few little bits and pieces on Christmas day rather than an envelope with 3 tickets in, of which only one was for her, maybe slightly less mean if it was 2 tickets so she could choose friend to take with her.
In our house the stocking is on the end of the bed for when the dc wake up and has small gifts, such as socks, pens, small stationery items, bangles, bracelets, that kind of thing. easily filled for not much more than £10-15 in poundland, Tesco, primark etc. (set of three animal shaped lipbalms primark £3, pen set £1 poundland giant tube of smarties £1 Tesco etc) and then the main present/presents is downstairs to open as a family.

Seriously, don't ask about this shit on here. If YOU think SHE will like it, do it, stand back, and wait for the Squeeeeeeeeeee!

Honestly you can go from feeling like a fab, kind parent to calling social services on yourself in about 5 seconds in this place sometimes.

You can get 1D chocolate bars. Maybe you could slip the tickets inside the wrapper.