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To laser my (crap) tattoo off?

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Chuckthefucklebrothers · 05/11/2013 20:54

Help me out people, my DS (nearly 4) has put me on a massive guilt trip & now I'm not sure what to do.

I have a quite a large, very 90s style tattoo on my arm, which I had my first laser removal treatment on last week. The plan is/was to lighten it up enough that I can have a new & much more lovely design over the top. However... When DS noticed it looking red & scabby after the treatment he asked what was wrong, so I explained. and told a little fib when I said it didn't hurt He gave me the full wobbly lip & big sad eyes treatment saying 'but I don't want you to get a new tattoo, I like THIS one!', thus instantly making me feel horribly guilty. He's repeated this several times since (including just now while going to bed), out of nowhere.

I don't want to traumatise the poor child, but I don't want to be stuck with a rubbish (and now partially removed!) tattoo either! It's my skin, right?? But I know that if he's upset by my new ink I'll feel bad whenever I look at it. What to do??

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owlbegoing · 05/11/2013 20:58

Have you decided the design of your new tattoo? Maybe you could get his input. Yes I do know how silly that sounds, asking a 4 year old's opinion on your tattoo Grin

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Chuckthefucklebrothers · 05/11/2013 21:03

Nah, doesn't sound silly at all! I've got a rough idea what I want because I want it to combine the elements of the original in a less crap more aesthically pleasing way. He seemed more upset about losing the 'strawberry' (it's a heart with a rose thru it - gives you some idea of the quality!) than anything. I'm sure I could work some strawberries into the design!

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HellonHeels · 05/11/2013 21:05

Can it be completely removed so you don't need to cover it? If you have a new one would it be possible that in 20 years' time you will want to remove a "crap very noughties style" tattoo?

My little nephew gets upset if my DSis changes her hairstyle Grin

LondonInHighHeeledBoots · 05/11/2013 21:08

He's four, he's used to it on mummy and it looks like it is hurting mummy so he wants it to stop! He really won't remember in 6 months. Get what you want done! Careful asking too much of his opinion unless you know an artist who is very good at bob the builder sleeves Wink Grin

BadgersNadgers · 05/11/2013 21:16

Go for it. My six year old had an idea to extend my backpiece and I went out and did it. I'm really pleased with it, so's he. I'm just waiting until inspiration strikes him again Grin

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Chuckthefucklebrothers · 05/11/2013 21:16

To be honest, I don't think I'll mind as much if the new one looks dated in 20 years coz I'll be, bloody hell, pushing 60! Whereas the one I have now was done when I was underage very young, so makes me look older than I am iyswim? Getting it removed completely isn't really an option anyway. And it's not my only tattoo.

Hopefully he won't remember by the time I've finished getting it zapped - but I'm imagining him getting sadder & sadder as it fades away...

Ha, Bob the Builder sleeve! Think he'd prefer Postman Pat - now THERE'S something I'd regret in 20 years!

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Chuckthefucklebrothers · 05/11/2013 21:18

That's awesome Badgers, can I ask what his idea was?

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BadgersNadgers · 05/11/2013 22:31

I have a duck and a goose together, DS1 thought that the goose should be giving the duck a flower so I got a few cocoa flowers added and one put in the goose's mouth.

It sounds ridiculous Grin. It's on my profile if you want to have a laugh at it.

HellonHeels · 05/11/2013 22:47

Aww the duck and goose are super!

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Chuckthefucklebrothers · 05/11/2013 23:14

That is so sweet! And all the more so coz your DS contributed to the design... That settles it, I'm getting strawberries! Grin

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Chuckthefucklebrothers · 05/11/2013 23:17

Just worked out how to put photos on my profile - feel free to point & laugh Grin

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QueenStromba · 05/11/2013 23:19

When I was about that age I cried because my mum cut her hair. He'll forget all about it soon enough.

QueenStromba · 05/11/2013 23:20

You need to make your profile public Chuck.

BillyGoatintheBuff · 05/11/2013 23:21

Your profile is private, so I can't click on it.

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Chuckthefucklebrothers · 05/11/2013 23:24

Oops, bear with me...

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Chuckthefucklebrothers · 05/11/2013 23:28

Can you see it now?

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mortuusUrsus · 05/11/2013 23:29

No Sad you are still unclickable.

Hi btw Grin

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Chuckthefucklebrothers · 05/11/2013 23:29

Queen - he didn't like it when I changed my hair colour either.

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mortuusUrsus · 05/11/2013 23:30

It works!

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Chuckthefucklebrothers · 05/11/2013 23:32

Really Mortuus? Well I'm stumped. Confused

And hello! Smile

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Chuckthefucklebrothers · 05/11/2013 23:33

X post! So what do you think?

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QueenStromba · 05/11/2013 23:37

Has he gotten over the hair colour change?

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Chuckthefucklebrothers · 05/11/2013 23:39

Yes, and is the first to tell me when my roots need doing!

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QueenStromba · 05/11/2013 23:43

He'll be fine with you changing your tattoo then once he gets used to it.

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Chuckthefucklebrothers · 06/11/2013 07:56

I really do hope so.

And is everyone too polite to comment on my lovely tribal mess?

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