aibu to think its not acceptable to leave a 3 year old in the bath alone for long stretches of time and out of earshot?

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my husband seems to think its perfectly alright to go to his study and sit on ebay on the other side of our fairly large house when 'doing bathtime'.

i just dont think you leave children alone in the bath and it makes me really uncomfortable - aibu??

dh thinks im being, and i quote 'ridiculous'

Op
It makes me feel horrified, not just uneasy.

YANBU.

YANBU....I think part of the problem is people think that someone drowning looks like something in the movies etc - lots of splashing and flailing arms etc- when (so I've been told) it isn't - it is silent...
At 6 I'll leave DD2 in the bath when I'm sorting washing out in the bedroom - but I can hear her and I chat to her constantly...
No way would I go out of earshot ...at 3 I wouldn't even leave the room.

Yanbu and you are most certainly not 'ridiculous' my dd same age we would never leave her in the bath.

Yanbu. He is.

A friends little boy was left alone in the bath at 3. He managed to turn the hot tap on and was badly scalded.

Don't let him do bath time anymore. I am sure that the dishwasher could be emptied or something like that instead whilst you do the nice job.

Your DH is an arrogant fool.
Sounds like my ex who thought it was fine to leave his kids 5 & 6 alone in the play area of the park whilst he went off to the car park to check the football results on the radio.

thanks team mumsnet - case closed. and i showed him this thread!!

well done. I hope he understands now how dangerous it could be. I never leave my 5yo unattended in the bath.

God, ya really nbu!

Its not ridiculous - your Dh is an out and out idiot
Child drowning stats

Thanks for this - I have been leaving DD (4) & DS (18 months) in the bath while I popped into their rooms to sort pjs etc. but after DS turned on the cold tap right under my nose yesterday there's no way I will be leaving the room for the foreseeable future! It could easily have been the hot tap.

And the story of 2 siblings watching the other one drown is terribly sad.

Well done OP.

Time to repost the 'drowning doesn't look like drowning' link.
Essential reading.

www.winnipegfreepress.com/world/drowning-doesnt-look-like-drowning-210736971.html?device=mobile

Yanbu wouldn't dream of doing that, he needs a fucking kick up the arse, sorry.

I do leave DS (3) in the bath while I change DD but I force him to sing baa baa black sheep constantly so I know he's alive.

Yanbu. Glad you DH looked at the tread.

Props to Trucks for the link. Never forgot the first time I read that. Essential reading for any parent.

This is how not unreasonable you are as I think YANBU, and on most of the "is it safe..." threads I'm usually of the " yes it's fine"

This isn't.

I had got into the habit of letting DD (4) play while I dress her baby sister in my bedroom next door and I am reconsidering this now. I always make her sing so I would (theoretically) know immediately if there were a problem, but the phrase "otherwise very sensible mother" has struck terror in my heart. Also hadn't thought of the taps.

your dh is an irresponsible arrogant fool.

So glad you showed your DH this thread. Normally I don't advocate showing the person being talked about the thread (leads to hurt feelings, in my experience), but in this case it's a serious safety issue. I'm sure your DH didn't mean any harm, but he needs to understand that drowning can happen very quickly and very quietly, as other posters have mentioned.

If he still doesn't get it, then you need to supervise bath time and he needs to do a different household chore instead. There's absolutely no wiggle room on this. And I'm a pretty laissez-faire parent when it comes to most stuff.

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Oh FFS.

Glad it's sorted, hope your DH has seen sense and won't do it again, adding my voice to the chorus of "it's ridiculous and unsafe to leave a young child alone in the bath". I don't leave my 5&7 year olds alone in the bath, I sit in the bathroom and talk to them. And when they're too old to have me sitting in there I'll be in my bedroom with doors open talking to them.

Get an ipad. He can ebay in the bathroom.

These threads make me ill.

How could anyone take such stupid risks with something precious and irreplaceable?