How soon would you expect to hear from a very close family member about a new baby?

[Thurlow]

Genuinely unsure if anyone is being unreasonable (and the situation has the potential to spiral) here so would like the MN jury to help.

If a very close family member i.e. sister/in-law, brother/in-law had a baby (say DC4), and given mobile phones and the ease of sending a text or email even if it's not a phone call, how soon would you expect to hear the news? Or alternatively, how soon did you send a some sort of message to parents, in-laws, siblings, best friends etc?

I think your best bet is to be fully supportive and let them lead. Text 'wonderful to hear about the arrival if baby xx. I hope the labor was ok. Do let me know if we can help in anyway or when we can chat for a catch up. Expect things are very busy your end' xxx

Really the birth of a new baby isn't about meeting the grandparents needs. It has to be about mother and babies needs,, followed by introducing babies siblings and partner

Oh, completely, I do agree retro. That's why I was asking - so far everyone I know has texted or emailed very soon, but I was just asking for other opinions to see whether that was normal or whether actually most people wait longer.

My baby is nearly 7 months old now. I still haven't texted or emailed anyone to let them know. My husband told my mum which is on a par with taking out a full page ad in a national newspaper though.

Now that I think about it, my brother still hasn't let me know that his son has been born. 18 bloody years and I'm still waiting. :o

I would expect the grandparents (so either my DPs or ILs) to be told within an hour or so assuming everything went well, and then to hear second hand from them within a couple of hours.

Ime, the grandparents are the first ports of call and they pass the news on as soon as they can to everyone else. I wouldnt expect a call or texts from the new parents themselves for several days minimum, I would text them saying congratualtions and did they need me to do anything such as shopping, childcare etc.

My mum was looking after the other DC so she knew I was in labour :) and I expect she and my DH rang everyone between them but frankly I have no idea. But this was 21, 19 and 17 years ago, people expected less instant contact and we had no mobiles or email then.

Probably the same day, but I know when I've had mine I've relied on other people to get the news out there. Ultimately though, I don't think it matters how quickly you've been told. What matters is that there is a new baby and that is a cause for celebration.

I feel telling them to email photos could be a clue.

You seem to be thinking this is all about you and there is a massive problem. Just back off and see what transpires. If it is all fine and they are rather busy then no problem. If you go in all when can we chat, can I have a photo, what is the issue? then you run the risk of pissing them off properly.