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Because I didn't dress my son up for nursery?

32 replies

Mouthfulofquiz · 31/10/2013 12:35

Dropped DS off to nursery this morning - all of the other kids are in some kind of spider / ladybird / pumpkin costume. My little one is dressed as himself!

I half feel guilty for not bothering, then l looked at all the other kids sweating in their plastic outifts and trying to pull off various headbands and then I don't feel so bad!

Aibu for not bothering? He's 17 months so hardly going to notice is he??

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AnyWetCuntweaselsInTheFuckerGr · 31/10/2013 12:37

YANBU.

If it bugs him - he can raid the nursery dressing up box.

But it won't - cos he's a baby not a dolly .

Latara · 31/10/2013 12:38

YANBU. If he was 3 for example then he'd be bothered, but he's just a baby so it doesn't matter.

harticus · 31/10/2013 12:38

No he won't notice. Stop worrying - he's comfortable that is all that matters.

YoureBeingAnAnyFuckerFan · 31/10/2013 12:51

He wont notice.

Last year my ds was 3 and his nursery was visiting my older ds' primary to see their hallowe'en show (poems and songs and a very short drama)

As i was going to the show anyway i told nursery i would just bring ds2 along with me and he could join his class when we got there to save me making multiple journeys.

So we arrived and ds joined his class. Every single one of them dressed up. I felt bad but thought 'who cares- no-one's paying any attention to them' then the teachers announced there would be a few shorts songs from the visiting nursery school and off they all trotted onto the stage. As if that wasnt bad enough, the woman next to me leaned over to her partner and said " aww look there's one not dressed up. That's not fair. Poor thing." Blush i could have cried and just sat there holding back the tears til the whole thing was over. But ds didnt care and no-one actually said anything to me so as long as he was happy im happy.

mrsjay · 31/10/2013 12:54

I thought you were going to say he was 3 or 4 but he is a baby yanbu to send him in his own clothes, if he was in preschool i would have said you were a bit mean not to send him in a costume, but at 17 months he will not care a jot

themaltesefalcon · 31/10/2013 12:57

Sheer vanity on the parents' part; nothing at all to do with the best interests of the babies. Just about acceptable if you squeeze them into the wretched costume, take a couple of vanity pictures, and then set them free- but to consign them to an entire half-day or day at nursery in that get-up? Horrid.

YANBU; this sort of thing drives me bonkers.

pudseypie · 31/10/2013 13:05

YANBU ive sent my 2 yr old ds to nursery dressed as himself (which is scary enough in my opinion). As his nursery won't carve pumpkins due to fear of offending other religious beliefs, not due to elf & safety, I saw no reason spending money on an outfit and dressing him up when they won't even carve a sodding pumpkin! We did a pumpkin at home instead which he loved scooping out.

TinyTear · 31/10/2013 13:05

My daughter went dresses as herself, but I did make a witches hat from black cardboard and TONS of sellotape and a broom from a giftwrap tube and cut up newspaper as she loves Room on the Broom...

MrsSparkles · 31/10/2013 13:34

My daughter refuses to dress up at all, not even a hat. We tried last year (for a party) and she had the tantrum from hell. Each to their own!

We have however spent all morning carving pumpkins.

MrsTerryPratchett · 31/10/2013 13:37

I bought a very comfy, warm monster suit. I hate uncomfortable looking outfits.

Callani · 31/10/2013 13:39

He's a baby, it's not gonna make a blind bit of difference what he's wearing this year. YANBU

ToysRLuv · 31/10/2013 13:42

My 4year old also refuses " fun" costumes. He did wear his furry bear hat t nursery, though. He couldn't care less about what everyone else dies. Sometimes it can be a but embarrassing for me, because some parents will assume that I've just not bothered and that ds will be feeling left out. There were a few other children in regular clothes at nursery today, as well. Some probably for religious/cultural reasons.

BionicEmu · 31/10/2013 13:42

YANBU. My DS has just turned 3 & this is the first year he's dressed up - & that's only because he asked to!

ToysRLuv · 31/10/2013 13:43

Oh dear.. that is "does"- not "dies" (even on Halloween), of course..

Handbagsonnhold · 31/10/2013 13:44

Pudsey really about the Pumkin thing! ....just unbelievable! who would be offended I wonder 'Church of Pumkinologists' awful! OP yanbu he is only young remember rocking up to nursery with dd at 18m in some ghastly fairy thing from Tesco by lunchtime she had ripped her foot through side seam and developed an itchy rash all over Shock

ToysRLuv · 31/10/2013 13:44

But=bit etc. Sorry.

Middlesexmummy · 31/10/2013 13:45

ynbu I forgot !

littlegem12 · 31/10/2013 13:45

Nah, hes too young to care.

mumofweeboys · 31/10/2013 14:03

Nah, my nursery was very sweet. They always have loads of seasonal costumes they bring out eg Halloween,Christmas, Easter so any kids who aren't dressed up can wear one of these. I never bothered until mine were 3 as they didn't care and I wasn't willing to wrestle them into a costume at 7.30

NatashaBee · 31/10/2013 14:17

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Mouthfulofquiz · 31/10/2013 15:02

Good - feel much better about it as when I picked him up just now none of the kids were in fancy dress. Apparently they lasted until about 9:30!!
:-)

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beanandspud · 31/10/2013 15:09

DS would never dress up for nursery 'events'.

I just used to put a sticker on his t-shirts for a laugh -"pumpkin" for Halloween, "Shepherd" for Christmas, "Dinosaur" for come-as-your-favourite-animal-day. Not sure that nursery saw the funny side though.

Even now, DS doesn't like fancy dress and the sticker thing doesn't work so well for school!

zipzap · 31/10/2013 15:41

Ds1 had a pair of glow in the dark skeleton pyjamas that I picked up for peanuts after Halloween one year. He loved them to bits and did wear them into nursery once in lieu of proper fancy dress - but as they were proper pj's they were comfy to wear. This is the first year in 6 years they haven't fitted ds1 or ds2 so for a pound they have been incredibly good value as they've been favourite pjs of both boys and been worn hard, not just at Halloween.

Ds2 wanted a skeleton costume this year but was happy when he found an old Tshirt of ds1's with a jolly skeleton on. I asked ds1 if he wanted a costume - nope he replied, not bothered and then you can use the money we've saved to buy me an extra Christmas present... Well I guess it's a start in realising there is only a finite pot of money and that once you've spent it, that's it!

FryOneFatManic · 31/10/2013 18:32

My DS, now aged nearly 10, hates dress up days at school and doesn't bother to participate. He just takes the donation in, and keeps his uniform on.

The next event is to do with a book fair, and dressing up as a book character.

He said to me he was going to wear uniform to school as there are loads of kids in books wearing uniform Grin

It's the dressing up that bothers him. Days when it's just dress down he quite happy to go in without uniform.

TwitTwooShoe · 31/10/2013 18:56

Much better that he's comfortable than dressed up like a doll. He's a baby, he can't care and he probably fared a bit better and didn't get too hot than the rest!

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