To think that fancy dress is just..urrgh

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That's it really. I am going away on a hen weekend next week organised by a close friend. Two themed nights. I would rather eat my own hair than dress up as a pirate or a nun. Or Star Wars character. I am mad and passive aggressive..why can't I just say I would rather wear my own (very nice) going out clothes that I don't get to wear very often.

Sorry, that's it.

I hate fancy dress for adults.

I refuse to take part.

I love fancy dress! We always have a themed fancy dress party for DH's birthday. Our friends always throw themselves into the spirit of the theme and we have had some amazing outfits.

My sister always does a 'sexy' version of whatever the theme is, I always go full on ridiculous.

I think it is fun in someones house, mind, I would not be so keen to go to the pub in fancy dress.

I feel your pain OP, the last hen night to which I was invited involved pubbing and clubbing dressed as a granny.
I rarely do either these days and if I did I would like to get dressed up, not look like a granny because I am one
Thank feck I was going on hols on the ferry early the next day so had a good excuse not to go.
Ferry and hangover is not a good combination.

What annoys me is if you object you get called boring or a misery etc which is bollocks. Not enjoying going around pubs dressed as sexy nurse or whatever doesn't mean you're incapable of having fun.

I find it manipulative. Nobody wants to be described with words that have negative connotation so I suspect twats people who say these things do so in order to get you to back down so they get their own way.

I hate fancy dress so so so so so much. It's cringey at its best, attention seeking and tarty at its worst (sexy pirates / sexy airline pilots - no thanks, I do not want to dress up as an Ann summers reject).

I have to admit that, while I love fancy dress in general, I am not keen on the idea of "sexing up" the costumes. What for? Cannot see the point of that, all it does is perpetuate the myth that single women out drinking are obviously on the pull, compounded by the hen-night myth that they're all gagging for a last-minute shag. And what right-thinking woman wants to buy into all that shit?!

My fancy dress stuff makes me look like a "normal" version of the witch/vampire/zombie/pirate/whatever. Not some sexed-up version.

I've not been to a fancy dress party for yonks, and I live in what I regard as the world's home of fancy dress. Australia is bloody unbelievable; every suburb will have a well-stocked dress-up shop. Even in the sticks.

A weird place. And upside down.

Oh and OP, soooo U. Though tarty versions of any fancy dress are a bit bleurgh.

I hate fancy dress, a fancy dress hen party is my idea of tacky hell!

I agree OP.

There is nothing more tragic than adults in fancy dress.

I wore fancy dress today. All black with a vampire cape and a bit of eye-liner for an evil kind of look. Fun.

There is nothing more tragic than adults in fancy dress.

Really? I can think of plenty more tragic things than adults in fancy dress. Truly tragic things.

My cousin was invited to a party by a guy. He told it was fancy dress. She met him there dressed as something or other. It was, in fact, black tie!!

"I find it manipulative. Nobody wants to be described with words that have negative connotation so I suspect twats people who say these things do so in order to get you to back down so they get their own way."

What? Unless you mean using words such as "slutty, desperate and sad"?

If anyone needs a fancy dress stand in, Liverpool ways, then I'd be happy to stand in. "Tits out"? I'm happy to oblige, as for sexy, well that's a given.

My morals are not dictated by what I put on (or leave off) my body. If I am with a partner, I still dress what I consider sexy, for my own benefit, if I feel attractive, I have better sex (I demand good sex).

I have to be conservative every day, in work, I like occasionally like to let loose, when I'm let off my leash.

Attending events are optional. Why the need for the put downs towards other women, because their tastes are occasionally different to yours?

I am in my 40's, I have worn every costume imaginable, last year we dressed my 84, wheelchair using Mother as the Queen (she looks like her) and her chair as a carriage. My DD's were sexy horses, I was the footman, we had a ball.

Agree OP.

My heart always sinks when I see 'fancy dress' on the invite. And YY to women's fancy dress usually involving tits and arse - what is that all about??

I hate it and usually have a prior arrangement