To not answer my door

[jessieagain]

Another thread (neighbours parking problem) got me wondering.

In my flat you can't see who is at the door (no nearby windows/or peephole) so I never answer the door if someone knocks (unless I'm expecting someone and even then I call out first to ask who it is. If it is just someone knocking at a random time and I have no idea I just ignore and pretend no one is at home.

I thought this would be what most people would do. Aibu?

YANBU.

If someone knocks on our door unexpectedly it's usually post that won't fit through the letterbox so I do answer the door. It's only rarely been someone spouting religious monologues or trying to sell me something, in which case I just say no thank you.

Do you live in an area which makes you feel unsafe or do you just get a lot of nuisance callers?

I'd always answer the door - and (without wanting to go into details that would out me) it was once possibly a lifesaver that I did.

Normally it would just be a neighbour, though.

Your door, YANBU to not answer it if you don't want to.

Yanbu.

If you want to, then buy a peephole ( around £5) and install it in your door. Then you can just look who it is and if you want to answer the door to them.

I would want to add something like a peephole. I always look before answering the door so I wouldn't be happy with one that had no way of seeing out.

I think YABU. It's what a security chain is for - do you have one?

On a recent similar thread, I outlined how I'd once had to knock on a stranger's door when I needed immediate medical attention. I am always grateful that the woman who answered wasn't so, what? Lazy? Unsocial? Afraid?

YABU - everyone answers doors where I live!

I don't understand why people don't answer the door. Might be some post that needs signing for/doesn't fit through letterbox. Maybe the police saying someone you know has been injured.

one time in the middle of the day I opened the door to a charity man who wouldn't take no for an answer he actually walked straight in to my hall and tried to sit on the stairs.
After that I either don't answer or take my big dog with me if I do

It depends on your past experiences. I once had a bailiff barge in and refuse to leave, until I paid my "debt" (which wasn't mine.)

Things like that can make you pretty wary.

Oh God I never answer the door if I can possibly help it! Live in London though, everyone who has a reason to be there can phone the mobile, everyone else can go whistle.
As for parcels, we all work full time so Saturday visits to the sorting office are a bit of a given.

I always answer the door without checking who it is. People tell me I shouldn't but can't help it. I hear a knock and I open the door.

I also go out if hear noises

If the door bell is ringing insistently, then I'll stick my head out of the window to have a look, so any police would be answered...!

Definitely get a chain.

I always answer the door. I'm more nervous about not answering tbh - we were burgled a couple of years ago and my next door neighbour saw the guy knocking on our door to check whether we were in (but thought nothing of it). As it happens I was on the school run (we think they knew but were just checking - they were after a specific car parked outside and wanted te keys). So came back to demolished back door and the front door bolted from the inside. If I'd been in and answered the door (with chain on as usual) I think they would have pretended to sell something, according to police. If I hadnt answered the door and was in it could have been v scary.

yanbu there is no law to say you have to open your door if you do not wish to.

Do you lock your door from the inside though Pooka? I always do.

Yabu to not even try to set up a system so you can see who it is before deciding whether to answer or not.

YANBU.

Its your door, if you don't want to answer it, don't.

They battered the locked back door in. I'm very glad that I was out when they came because at least I didn't have to confront men/man battering the door down to get in. The front and back doors are locked when I'm home, though sometimes I don't lock the back door if I'm going in and out of the garden.

It has a mortice lock and frame bolts (back door). It was a concerted effort on their part to get in!

I always shout through the door and ask who it is, if it is a waste of my time (chuggers, politicians or faith promotion or door to door sales) then I just shout that I'm not able to open the door. I'm a bit cheerless though!

Where do you all live?

Genuine question as I'm baffled as to why people are saying they don't answer their front door

The only time I ignore the door is if I'm in the bath/shower/unwell in bed etc.

I have sellers and charity collectors who I just politely decline; local PCSO's have been known to knock, neighbours, friends calling round on the off-chance, dc's many many friends, the postie, the list is pretty long.

Justanotherfucker:

I basically don't answer my door because i Know that at after 5pm at night the only people calling will be charity, faiths, salesmen etc.

Charities: i don't need a pissant at my door trying to sign me up to a direct debit, if i want to support a charity then i will find that charity to support.

Faiths: I have my own core beliefs and some numpty disturbing me of an evening when i'm trying to spend some precious time with my DD is not going to coerce me into thinking Jehova is a good idea.

Salesman: be it kitchens, windows, vacuum or whatever else. if i need any of those things then i know where to go find what i want, the chances of some oik convincing me i need a new bathroom, when i actually don't, is very slim. if i did need a bathroom, i'd source it perfectly well with out some shite hawk disturbing me.

Honestly, who gave all these people permission to disturb us in our own homes?

besides, being ignored when they knock is better than them having my full, annoyed, attention.