To facebook this poor womens friend and ask her to tell her

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I work in a very busy accident and emergency department. It has come to light that one of the staff nurses has gone into staff records and taken telephone numbers of a student nurse and a newly appointed nurse and pursued them. He has had affairs with both of them. He was married in August to a really nice young women. I know she is hoping to have children. She is in her early 20's and is hoping to have children soon.

I am disgusted. There are photos circulating around the department of her DH handcuffed, the whole department are talking about it and the newly qualified nurse came into work for the day after spending a sleepless night in her car.

I am shocked at the unprofessional behaviour which could put peoples lives a risk and also the dis respect being shown to the DW of this nurse. (She is known to some of the team as she is also working in the department)

Should I tell her that her husband is a totally calculated philandering bastard?

He'll have to tell her when he loses his job and possibly his registration.

It is a breach of data protection imo - the data was given to the organisation for a specific purpose - work contact. It's been accessed by a ?unauthorised person - is it his job to fill shifts? Either way he's then used it for the wrong purpose AND acted unprofessionally and possibly in a predatory manner - not supposed to shag the students!

If I was managing that area I would be talking to HR about throwing the book at him. This is dangerously destructive behaviour.

Most nursing areas do have phone numbers easily accessible btw - probably should't do!

Think his wife will probably find out when he's sacked......................

Most Hospitals would have a zero tolerance policy when it comes to breech's of the DPA - if he thinks its ok to do this with staff records then he'd also think nothing of doing the same with patients.

I agree don't go near Facebook and don't discuss with any of the wife's friends or ANYONE else for that matter. It sounds a gossipy workplace - don't get sucked in to the gossip.

I think I would contact HR and say that you are concerned. I think I might tell the wife too. I would want to know if I were the wife.

Don't tell anyone what you have done and reguse to let anyone discuss it with you.

I can understand that you are angry with him and that it is frustrating to see people get away with things. However, it does seem to me that you are effectively proposing to use his wife as your instrument of revenge. Don't get in contact, directly or indirectly with the DW and certainly not through FB!

It is none of your business and you should leave his wife well alone.

Your problem is with him, so use the proper channels and complain.

You're not proposing to tell her because you actually care about her feelings, it is disingenuous of you to claim that is the case.

Yup it is for real. The office has holds staff phone numbers. They need to contact people to cover shifts etc.

Was going to comment. Not accessing staff records as you first stated but Tiredmamma already commented on this. Hiding this thread because I feel as if you are using it just for the personall drama.

I wouldnt say anything now as it will make your work situation worse. But if you get a new job then tell her the day you leave your department.