To wonder if this guy knows his baby DD's grandad is a convicted paedophile?

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A relative of mine is still in touch with her dad despite him being found guilty of child sex offences. She has a partner and a baby and I feel sick at the thought of this baby being anywhere near her grand dad.

The offences he were found guilty of were against young female relatives.

Do you think this guy knows who his baby daughter is spending time with?

I know it isn't malicious and I know that we can't assume that the mother is protecting the child. But personally I would want to give the mother or father a chance to explain themselves before going to SS.

The OP is not in contact with them. It is perfectly possible that the situation is that she took the baby once for ten minutes to meet him but she has never been back since, or only talks to him on the phone, or only visits him alone without the children.

It is possible that a parent can protect their child from a situation like this while still maintaining some level of contact with a person like this. If the mother is doing that I think it would be a shame for her to end up on social services books. I would give them a chance to explain. I wouldn't assume that just because they had kept up some level of contact they weren't aware he was a danger.

Well this sounds to me like a dysfunctional family situation, with all kinds of minimising and denial going on so I don't think anyone can trust that the parents know best.

While I understand where you're coming Seasick, I think the needs of the little one here outweigh everything else. And just to emphasise again the devious and manipulative nature of paedophiles.

And it really isn't the job of the OP to start investigating , she could be opening herself and her DC up to all sorts.

Hope you're ok OP and don't forget to get support for yourself. Please take care.

OP report to SS but in my experience they won't do anything unless you think the baby has been abused by this man. I don't think the fact he has a previous conviction and is being visited by his DD with his GD is not enough to actually do anything other than flag it up on their radar. Maybe a current SW could confirm procedure.

I still think more power could come from the DF of the baby knowing his previous conviction because he may decide he doesn't want his DD visiting plus he has the right to know as does every parent who is in contact with this man.

Is he still on the Sex Offenders Register? If he is, phone the police and ask to speak to the Sex Offenders Management Unit, as he should be informing them of any children he's in contact with. They should liaise with Children's Services so that any appropriate action can be taken should the child's parents not be safeguarding. If he isn't, I'd be speaking to Children's Services as at very least they need to be making contact with the child's parents to ensure that this man is having no unsupervised contact (and depending on the circumstances, CS might recommend no contact at all) with the child, and that the parents understand the risk and are capable of keeping the child safe.

EarlyMorning789, I'm so sorry about what happened to you, and congratulations on finding the strength to report it once you realized your brother's kids were spending time with your abuser. That must have been unbelievably hard.

And while we're on the subject, congratulations to the OP on being pro-active and wanting to protect the next generation from also being abused. That also must be very hard, and is most definitely not shit-stirring. Far from it.