AIBU , friend @ xmas

[proudmummyof2munchkins]

so me and my friend are both single mums, and she asked if we would like to do xmas with eachother this year as kids r really close.
discussing the other day she stated that I buy the kids too much and that she would prefer it if I didn't this year if her daughter is there as she doesn't want her daughter asking why they got more.
I stated that maybe it would be better if we did xmas separately as I wasn't willing to change what I have got my children or at least do presents first and they can come over in the afternoon , now she is stating that I am making her spend xmas alone due to wanting to over spoilt my spoilt brat of children :0.

who was being unreasonable.
p.s we have been friend since 4 yrs old and now 19 so not like she is a random mate.

You have the right to spend Christmas in your own way. I'd be saying 'thanks but no thanks'.

After she spoke to me like that I wouldn't have her over if I were paid.

On the one hand I see that she doesn't want to be outdone or made to feel bad but really?!
How bloody rude of her. I don't see anything wrong with doing presents separately and then the rest of the day together. Most kids tear the paper off everything in 0.5seconds so what's an hour alone?!

Not to mention calling your DC a brat, that's just vile. Yanbu.

Tell her to fuck off! Cheeky bitch! It's none of her business what you buy for your children.

I imagine it will only be the start of her demands if you acquiesce...

Did she call your dc spoilt brats ?

Did she actually call your children spoilt brats?

YANBU by the way.

see the thing is I wouldn't want her daughter there in case she did get upset hence why I asked about doing presents separately, there is no money divide as I actually earn less than her lol but she doesn't do stockings etc. she says her daughter will feel like she is naughty because she didn't get as much.

well she called my eldest one . my youngest is 18 months lol ....

Let her be alone.

She has no manners.

Bollocks! do exactly what you want with your DC - it's Christmas!

She is totally unreasonable and I wouldn't spend Xmas with anyone who thought my children were brats.
Honestly it sounds like a recipe for disaster so I'd just cancel the whole thing now and give her time to make other plans.

She's no friend.

She's a nasty, rude, demanding, manipulative and entitled little madam.

An ex friend suggested my dc were spoilt brats. That's partly why she's an ex friend.

It's ok to have different parenting styles, but for her to judge you and your children like that, not ok at all.

now she is stating that I am making her spend xmas alone due to wanting to over spoilt my spoilt brat of children

I wouldn't be her friend anymore. Call me what you will, but call my kids something.

Well you better fucking duck

I do feel bad, I only offered because I know it will just be the 2 of them. oh well my children will get what I want to get them!

You are well rid.

Well, if anyone called my dc spoilt brats. I would never speak to them again. She sounds very immature. Hope you and your dc have a wonderful Christmas.

How old are your children? If you are are only 19 I doubt your children will be old enough to notice how many presents they got.

However, she does sound rather rude and I would have a separate Christmas.

my dd is 4 and ds 18 months.
her dd is nearly 4 ( in January )

A 4 year old really won't notice the difference. You have to ask yourself is it worth losing a friend over?

Her language may not have been very nice but I see the point she was trying to make. She's clearly worried about money and so doesn't want her DD to feel left out. Is 'spoilt brats' language she normally uses in a throwaway manner? Maybe she doesn't realise quite how rude she's been?

Honestly, I wouldn't lose a friend over this. It sounds like she feels inadequate. You could do the extra stockings etc on Christmas Eve/ Boxing Day.

Can you not just do the dinner part together and presents just with your own kids?she is out of order asing you to not get your kids as you want to and calling your child a brat is pretty unforgivable tbh but im presuming it was heat of the moment and maybe she is a bit envious?

Hi

Iv got a very blunt friends who thinks I buy my children too much, it's her opinion I just shrug it off as I know what she is like.

Could you do some presents Christmas Eve then your Santa ones Christmas morning? Tell your friend to come over say around 11 on Christmas Day.

Iv started spreading presents over three days as they get so much from our family. So we do grandparents presents on Christmas Eve, then Santa presents Xmas day and friends presents Boxing Day. This started because I found once they had opened one present my boys just wanted to play with that toy and not open any more.