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Original poster

Car parked outside my house is my neighbour being reasonable?

29 replies

havingamadmoment · 25/10/2013 14:35

SILs car is parked outside my house and she has taken my children for a walk so isnt here (in front of our gates). The neighbour opposite has just told me that if I allow people to park ever again he will call the police as she is obstructing him. The road is quite wide you can EASILY fit a car past it, he is not obstructed as he has now pulled off his drive and driven off. He has been really nasty ringing the doorbell repeatedly waking the baby etc. I cant decide if I am being unreasonable to think that she is fine there or if he is for being so odd about someone parking on the road opposite his house.

OP posts:
DevilsRoulette · 25/10/2013 14:39

I'd just tell him to go ahead and do that.

They will tell him to not be so stupid.

(I'm assuming there are no parking restrictions, etc)

I just googled and apparently it's not illegal to park opposite a dropped kerb. I always thought it was.

StoorieHoose · 25/10/2013 14:40

if he comes back to your door hand him a phone so he can phone the police - they will tell him to get lost

CoffeeTea103 · 25/10/2013 14:40

He is just being difficult. Tell him he is welcome to go ahead. As poster above said it's not illegal.

PrincessKitKat · 25/10/2013 14:42

Agree - encourage him call the police, and if they do respond (unlikely) be sure to mention to them that he's harassing you - doorbell ringing etc.

Might be a good time to start keeping a log if you feel uncomfortable or intimidated in your home OP?

pictish · 25/10/2013 14:42

Just say "feel free - why not waste their time instead of mine?"

ercoldesk · 25/10/2013 14:47

The woman who lives across from my DM does this. She doesn't drive, but she worries that if her DS decides to visit, it might be tricky to get his Range Rover in off the street from the direction he prefers to arrive from.

DM offered to do it for him if it was too difficult for the poor love.

mayorquimby · 25/10/2013 14:56

I wouldn't be polite as others
I'd quite simply tell him to fuck off

Original poster
havingamadmoment · 25/10/2013 14:56

thanks :( I fell really upset about it. I dont think it helps I managed to slip over in the kitchen about an hour ago (I cleaned the floor and forgot it was slippy!) and have really hurt my arm. Then the doorbell rang and its him oh well as long as I am not being majorly unreasonable i feel a little better!

I dont drive and I cant get hold of SIL (they have gone walking so are probably not in a good signal area).

If he actually was obstructed I would see his point but he clearly isn't!.

I dont drive, dont have keys to the car so even if I wanted to couldn't move it.

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Morgause · 25/10/2013 15:01

If the road has a curve or is at the top of a hill then the police may well agree that there is an obstruction. So it's not as simple as telling him to get lost. Check the Highway Code to see if your SIL is parking legally when she parks there.

Original poster
havingamadmoment · 25/10/2013 15:02

There is no curve or hill at all its in the middle of a widish flat road. Its a 50s council estate so its open with loads of space on the road.

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ShatnersEmptyCatacomb · 25/10/2013 15:06

What an idiot. If he can't get off his driveway with a car parked on the other side of the road he either needs to practise his driving or stop using his driveway.

Hegsy · 25/10/2013 15:07

Tell him to fuck the fuck off. If he can't get out he shouldn't be driving at all. My mum had problems with a neighbour over something similar and it ended with my brothers friend being assaulted by her sons(TBF he is a cheeky fucker and he involved himself on the basis of overheard conversations and it had nothing to do with him) now her sons have been charged and its going to court and my mums moved all because the woman thought everyone should park on 'her side' and do as they were told. Hmm

GhostsInSnow · 25/10/2013 15:11

What Hegsy said. Taxed, tested and parked legally. Offer him the number Wink

MaxPepsi · 25/10/2013 15:27

He's being a knob.

Driving and parking - it brings out the worst in people.

We have issues on our street. Ex council houses, some with, some without drives. Our NDN and the house opposite us drive me fucking doolally with their petty one upmanship with their vans. They both have drives with enough space to park ALL their vehicles on but they insist on parking on the road so no one can get past either on the road or pavement. Karma paid a visit last week though and both had their wing mirrors hanging off due to some other knob driving to fast between them.
I honestly tried to look very sympathetic and outraged when they told me whilst inside I was laughing and thinking tough bloody shit!

mysteryfairy · 25/10/2013 15:58

If someone parks directly opposite my drive there is not enough clearance to get my car out without inching backwards and forwards for ages. It's quite irritating when it happens especially if i need to be somewhere but fortunately rarely occurs. If I see someone who has done it I do mention it to them but only in a would you mind parking a bit further along way not in a threatening way. There is no house opposite and normally when people look they realise its awkward and just say they'll go a few yards further up next time.

YellowTulips · 25/10/2013 16:01

Tell him he ought to worry more about you ringing the police for harassment - which you will do if he calls again.

He is being an asshole.

Doyouthinktheysaurus · 25/10/2013 16:02

It's tough! You are fine to park there, he has to suck it up.

I reverse in because on the odd occasion someone parks opposite our drive, I can't get out very easily or at all. It's our choice to have a big car so we just suck it up too! No big deal at all.

I would call 101 and log it if he does it again, it's harassment!

ColderThanAWitchsTitty · 25/10/2013 18:12

Offer to call for him, he is being a knob

ShinyBlackNose · 25/10/2013 18:19

Agree, tell him to ring the police, then. I'd be amazed if they were remotely interested.

2tiredtoScare · 25/10/2013 18:31

I have to reverse out of a sloping drive into a main road with cars parked either side as is their right and I manage just fine, he needs to get a life

SauvignonBlanche · 25/10/2013 18:35

What an arse!

maddening · 25/10/2013 19:37

I'd tell him that parking a car on a public highway with all correct tax etc and where there are no parking restrictions is not a crime - harassment and threatening behaviour is.

soapboxqueen · 25/10/2013 19:39

I'm sure someone will correct me if I am wrong, but I think the police won't get involved even if you are parked across someone's drive unless they are parked in their drive and can't get out.

So parking on the otherside of the road won't get much attention I don't thinkGrin

GhostsInSnow · 25/10/2013 19:52

Depends soapbox, I think (happy to be corrected!) technically its only an offence if the car is on the property, but that said who's to know if it's in a garage.
Some Officers will get involved and have a quiet word, local PCSO's usually take an interest in whats going on locally.

AnyBumFuckerPotato · 25/10/2013 20:07

2tired I may be wrong it has happened amazingly enough but I thought you had to reverse into driveways on main roads.

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