To not want to start the day with this?

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DH telling me that I make promises I can't keep, criticising my food choices (not great ones tbh) and just generally commenting on me and where I go wrong in life.

6.30am and already he starts. He probably thinks he just says what he sees but give it a bloody rest. Or at least wait half an hour.

YANBU.

oh, sounds fun. Not so much.

That's not nice.

Is this is a regular thing?

Its not even promises about big things. I said I would repump the exercise bAll 2 days ago and start bouncing on it. I haven't yet. 36 weeks pregnant btw. To me DH should just roll his eyes and keep it to himself. Save your nagging for important stuff.

Way too early in the morning for all of that. YANBU. I hope your day improves.

omg I think that is awful :(

this thread would probably be better in relationships tbh.

has this just started or is it a regular thing? its so cruel

and 36 weeks pregnant!
what a knob.

About once a week he'll stArt this early. He really just does see it as being honest. I know my character flaws thanks I don't need them pointing out quite so much.

Is he as 'honest' about himself?

How does it affect him whether you bounce on the exercise ball or not? Surely it's entirely up to you? Maybe I'm missing something.

I am quite sensitive as well and I just wanted a small moan before I get out of bed and get the other two DCs ready. I'm now a bit late!

It's because I say I'll do things and then don't do them. Not really about the ball itself I don't think.

isn't it a bit early to be bouncing on the exercise ball? what good does he think its going to do?
if he appreciates honesty let him know if the ball does need pumping up he should do it! (i'm still not sure why you need to bouncing on it now though?)

"Fuck off with your patronising bull shit" would be the appropriate response. Does he have any good points or does he put all his energy into putting you down so he can feel all Big Man instead of pathetic little bully?

is it that you don't do it, or that you don't do it within his specified time frame?

Mmm hmm 'being honest'.

I have friends with 'honest' husbands.

Does he take criticism well himself?

Does he also pass his criticisms or swipes as you off as a 'joke'?

All red flags if so.

It's that I don't do it. I say I'll do something in passing and then don't for about two weeks. It is annoying but shut up at 6.30am. I rolled over and ignored him and then he started talking about something else.

My husband wouldn't be my husband for much longer if he acted like yours.

i think it sounds irritating, i think there's also a chance you could be feeling a little hormonal and hugely stressful and therefore not dealing with what you perceive as a criticism as well as you normally would.
if you have a good relationship normally i think you should talk to him and tell him how your feeling (if he appreciates honesty, he'll be happy to hear it! )

i didn't mean stressful i meant pregnant!

Headphones!

I often say I am going to do something, but then don't do it for ages.
That is because a) I am often wildly optimistic about what I can get done b) other things come up which are more urgent c) the children need my attention - so we do sticking instead of re-organising the books etc.

Pumping up the Gym ball is so unimportant in the scheme of things, you have so many far more important things to do (such as finish cooking that baby).

If you want we could send round the MN posse?

I must admit I find it frustrating when people say they'll do things then don't do it. Why bother saying you'll so it in the first place??

That said, if DH started criticising me at 6.30am I wouldn't take it well. Does he think he's 'helping' you? Is he ok generally?

Can you find a few of his flaws to chuck back at him??