Childcare and friends - am I unreasonable in thinking you shouldn't have to pay them?

[beansmum]

I need before school childcare for a week in November, I've advertised at uni for a student to do it and of course I would pay them. I mentioned it on facebook and a friend says she'll do it, for the same pay.

I would have been a bit annoyed anyway, I wouldn't ask a friend to pay me. Also, a student would come to my house and do breakfast etc, my friend would want me to drop ds off at her place and she'd walk him to school with her son. She's going to school anyway so I'm not sure what I'd be paying her for.

But to make it even worse, last year I looked after her son every morning for a term, gave him breakfast, got him ready and walked him to school and didn't even think of asking for money.

I've just replied on facebook - "um, no thanks, unless you want to pay me for looking after your ds last year?"

Unreasonable? Or a bit snarky but not unnecessarily so?

YANBU given that you did the same for her for a term as opposed to a week, for free!

Cheeky cow. You werent rude at all but she may take it that way. Hope you find someone to help you out.

Some people just don't think. We had had a similar scenario with a friend, he was taking people home from a party 2 miles from our house. He offered us a lift for £20, yet the previous party was 25miles from his house and we had driven him home with no expectation or offer of cash! I was at him, and having had a few drinks, pulled him up on it. He apologised, and said he just hadn't thought. Swings and roundabouts with favours is my belief.

tell her you will pay her if she does what the student will do (brekkie etc)

YANBU. Even if you hadn't helped her last year I would saying she wasn't a good friend to ask for money as it's only for a week if you would drop him at her house so she not really being inconvenienced. You would expect a friend to do that for free for a short period of time.

I find it strange that you didn't ask her in the first place considering that you have obviously done favours for her in the past.

Ballstoit, I think thats only for more thn 2h a day