to think the women in "Don't Tell The Bride" should go through the day their OH has organised? [contains spoilers]

[MardyBra]

Like the woman on the last one.

She didn't like the dress her bloke chose, so she had a tantrum to get another one.

And then she didn't jump out of the plane he so thoughtfully organised her.

I mean, if you're going to prostitute your big day and accept thousands of pounds of our licence fees to get a free day, you should go through with the premise of the show.

Otherwise the brides should pay the money back.

I love this show. My favourite was the tattooed skater guy with slightly older OH she was beautiful with black hair and she had a kid from another relationship that he totally doted on. They were such a lovely couple and he really did his best by her and put on a really fun summer fete type day with coconut shys etc and the kid loved it too.

Anna or orange if that was you congrats and your husband made me cry!

I love DTTB.

I have actually wanted the bride to walk away from the whole thing on a couple of occasions, when the groom has been so incredibly thoughtless. I have also wanted the groom to walk away when he has been incredibly thoughtful and the bride has thrown a tantrum.

Then there are probably a higher proportion of really nice couples and what the groom is doing is made to seem a bit bonkers and disorganised at first, but then it all comes right in the end.

We would never have been picked for DTTB as DH would be very organised and pick stuff I liked, and I was laid back about my dress anyway, and would have been overjoyed for DH to organise everything. It would probably make for a very boring non-controversial episode!

I saw the parachute wedding one.

He was an idiot. He was. If he wanted to spend a day out parachuting he could have picked a better day than his wedding day to organise it.

And he let her get all dressed up, wedding dress, jewellery, hair and make-up, by 9am, so she could go to some airfield and mess it all up again by putting on a boiler suit and grubbing about on the floor.

And then he wanted her to get on a plane, get married without any friends or family to witness it, and then fling herself out, probably ruining more hair and make-up, before putting her dress back on and going off to the reception.

No. Just no. Almost any bride would be pissed off by that. And I was the least precious bride ever, but I could still see why she had a problem with it.

On the other hand, she was a bit of a nightmare. The dress tantrum was one thing, the refusing to walk down the red carpet because it was all a joke wasn't nice, but saying "this is his day now, I don't care, I'll just do whatever because it's nothing to do with me and we'll deal with the consequences later" was all a bit passive aggressive.

I did meet someone who has been on the show and they are still married. I haven't seen the show they were on though so have no idea how well or badly it all went.

MrBolton the crying annoys me as well.

Nobody died, nobody left the country, nobody got sent off to war.

Someone's just spending three weeks at their mums house while someone else spends twelve grand of someone else's money on a free wedding. What's to cry about?

It bugs me when the bride to be says things like 'if I don't like the dress, I'm not going to marry him. FFS. If you love someone you'd marry them in a plastic bag if need be.

My shout-at-the-telly favourite was the recentish one where the bride was a wedding photographer so everything she thought she wanted to make a "unique" wedding was bloody obvious and conventional.

He got her married in a tree house. It was stunning.

She had a major dress tantrum too. As far as I could tell, the dress he chose and the dress she stamped her foot for were identical...

Someone's just spending three weeks at their mums house while someone else spends twelve grand of someone else's money on a free wedding. What's to cry about?

but they missed them does my head in as well all the wailing i am like fgs calm down

What about the ep where bloke insists on Vegas wedding but can't afford to fly her family out??
I was AMAZED she went through with it.....

Note to self...read page 7 of the thread, FLB!!

Three weeks living with my mum would see me in an institution, and not the institution of marriage. No wonder the brides are stressed.

I often think this programme is like some lottery winners. They just dont know how to spend it!

I am staggered at the average cost of a wedding. Why do people spend such a lot!!

Sorry but I thought the parachute bride was vile. What a nasty nasty cow. So he booked a parachute jump..not the best idea but the way she stomped up to him and literally gave him the coldest look she could. how awful.

....and they'd only been together 18 months. that won't last!

Love DTTB. I also liked the one where the groom flew his brother in law over from Australia to give the bride away. The look on the bride's face and that of her mother was priceless. I hope they are still together

That one where he flew the brother over is the only bit on DTTB that had ever made me shed a tear - it was lovely

That made me cry too.

I used to love watching this show but now feel it is just horrible and exploitative.

They seem to choose the roughest couples, the stupidest men who have no experience of managing money and it becomes an exercise in watching a 18 year old princess from a council estate have a meltdown about her dress while her drippy dumb fiancé 'Lee' tries to organise a piss up in a brewery. It's a total mockery.

The formula is grim and I just can't bear to watch more bumbling non-verbal grooms or shrill underage teen brides.

I just watched the last 2 episodes on iplayer. I loved the derelict church one, I thought the groom 'got' the brides offbeat personality.
Parachute bride - well, she was a bit of a cow. Having said that, there are some people that are never ever going to jump out of a plane. I'm one of them, and I really wouldn't take kindly to anyone who tried to make me. So I can understand her anger on that point.
She shouldn't have been allowed to change the dress though (though I hated the one the groom chose).

I was at a wedding a few weeks ago and the photographer looked so familiar and because someone further up mentioned one bride was a photographer I googled and it was that bride ! Thank you, I've been stalking wedding blogs ever since trying to work out how I knew her

Bit off thread, but my guilty secret is the programme where they have the 4 brides & they have to judge each others weddings. Love the whole tackiness & bitchiness of it all!!!

I'd like to discuss the role of the best man on DTTB. Sometimes it seems like a battle between the bride and the best man, with the groom stuck in the middle but going along with the BM because the bride is "out of sight and out of mind".

Ummmm bit of a generalisation there Jetfighter.

Neither me or my DH are how you describe and the show didn't portray us to be so either - quite the opposite in fact.

Not that being from a council estate, a teenage bride or being called Lee is a problem in my eyes.....

Sorry orange I wasn't talking about you but the many episodes I've seen recently have followed this same formula and in most instances the entertainment comes from laughing at the daft groom and shrill bride which I don't think is much entertainment frankly.

I watched the parachute episode tonight on I player because of this thread. Loved it. Give the marriage 6 months though...

I can think of one specific episode that sounds how you describe Jetfighter (the bride was young with black hair) and I agree that episode made cringe - she was in no way ready for marriage. I guess it's a formula that works; although they do try to differ the couples slightly it wouldn't be entertainment if the groom didn't make any mistakes and the bride wasn't at least a little bit diva-like.

MrsCakes they make the best man/men an integral part of the episode - in fact ours had to attend almost as many auditions as we did and sign the same contracts....I think the producers use them to encourage the groom for their own means. They are encouraged to move in together and basically joined at the hip for the three weeks! If course if the bride doesn't like some of the things she hears during the process (certain info is drip fed throughout to create drama ofc) then that makes the producers v. happy!