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Original poster

to ask your opinion on this? (Wedding gift list related)

43 replies

IfIDontKnowAndYouDontKnow · 22/10/2013 22:46

Just wanted some advice on this scenario:

So you receive an invite. You decide you want to buy a gift, however are unsure of what to buy.

So you contact to ask. The couple would like you to cook your favorite recipe for them & write the recipe down for them. Not for the wedding food. Just for them to take home.

Thoughts please?

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InsultingBadger · 22/10/2013 22:48

That's awesome - I'd love that!

mikkii · 22/10/2013 22:48

How big is their freezer?

CoffeeTea103 · 22/10/2013 22:48

That seems an odd request. But you don't actually have to cook it, just write it from memory

InsultingBadger · 22/10/2013 22:49

Would be nicer if it was for wedding food but a food hygiene nightmare!

TeWiSavesTheDay · 22/10/2013 22:50

Take it to the wedding?

Would be awkward for us to transport. Just the recipe card is a lovely idea though.

steppemum · 22/10/2013 22:50

I love the idea of them collecting all their friends' favourite recipes as a wedding present.

Wish I had thought of it Grin

emsyj · 22/10/2013 22:50

I would think it was a bit bizarre and would be asking them to brace themselves for serious disappointment as I am a terrible cook. Then I would very probably buy them some John Lewis gift vouchers.

TwoLeftSocks · 22/10/2013 22:50

So, what, you make them a takeaway?

Weeweegate · 22/10/2013 22:51

The recipe thing is fine, but cooking it?! What, do you give it in Tupperware or what?

I'd give them the recipe, and invite them round for dinner some time for you to cook it for them.

Yankeecandlequeen · 22/10/2013 22:51

I'm no great cook so I'd get them takeaway voucher!

Laquitar · 22/10/2013 22:55

Hmm they got s massive freezer and they are planning to stay a month in bed having hot sex. Just getting downstairs popping homefood in m/w and back to bed for next session.

zoobaby · 22/10/2013 22:57

Be thankful they didn't write that request in some dreadful poem.

zoobaby · 22/10/2013 22:58

I think it's a nice way to say don't buy a gift.

Inertia · 22/10/2013 22:59

Bit nervous about the food hygiene issues around this- are people supposed to turn up to the wedding with a tupperware tub of chicken casserole sloshing around in their (unrefrigerated) handbag?

HorryIsUpduffed · 22/10/2013 23:05

Hmm they got a massive freezer and they are planning to stay a month in bed having hot sex. Just getting downstairs popping homefood in m/w and back to bed for next session.

Biscuit

Told you, OP!

I think the recipe card collection is a completely brilliant and wonderful idea though.

youretoastmildred · 22/10/2013 23:08

There is a certain hands-off non-committal quality to the OP that makes me think she is considering doing this at her wedding. No?

I would find it stressy to lug a big domed silver dish of salt and vinegar crisp butties to a wedding. On the upside it would take me no time to write out the recipe.

(It is a nice idea but I quail a little thinking about the reality of managing the food, my heels, my outfit, the dcs - oh you could just not invite dcs? ha ha no controversy there)

drawsofdrawers · 22/10/2013 23:10

Recipe card good idea. Cooking it is weird.

Original poster
IfIDontKnowAndYouDontKnow · 22/10/2013 23:10

Yes you did Horry!

Ok well the idea is a flawed one I suppose. Blush

Didn't really think it all through. Yes it would be awkward I suppose, juggling casseroles in your heels and nice dress.

Perhaps just ask for peoples favorite recipes then?

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IfIDontKnowAndYouDontKnow · 22/10/2013 23:11

youretoast crossed post.

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FuzzyWuzzywasaWoman · 22/10/2013 23:11

Think the recipe card is a fab idea, but I would hate to have to cook a meal the night before a wedding to take in a Tupperware pot. Why not ask for a couple of dry ingredients from each recipe, so a fancy bag of pasta or an unusual spice, depending on the recipe of course?

Ms23 · 22/10/2013 23:13

If it was me who was giving the gift I would think it was lovely of them to ask for something so personal and inexpensive. I would buy a fancy tin/pot/storage container and gift that to the couple along with the food. I think this couple might end up with a LOT of new tins/pots/stores containers if that is what they ask of everyone.

Original poster
IfIDontKnowAndYouDontKnow · 22/10/2013 23:13

Oh and yes, it was an idea for our wedding. However obviously a no go one.

Just finding the whole gift list thing a challenge.

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TheBigJessie · 22/10/2013 23:13

Won't you end up with a collection of takeway leaflets from all over the country?

youretoastmildred · 22/10/2013 23:15

I think you could ask close friends to do this in the weeks after the wedding instead, so they can just pop round with all the salt and vinegar crisp butties in their jeans, and you don't have 100 dishes all at once. Everyone else can just give you their recipe and you can keep them in a book.

drawsofdrawers · 22/10/2013 23:15

So don't do a list. Confused At all.