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Original poster

To get my dc up every morning and drop them at breakfast club at 7.30?

69 replies

Whitegrenache · 22/10/2013 09:09

They are only 4 and 7!
I feel so awful waking them up from their snuggly warm beds and getting them dressed half asleep.

They have been fantastic and dp is working away so I have no other choice but I feel so damn guilty...Hmm

Please tell me I won't do any long term lasting damage to them??

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Pobblewhohasnotoes · 22/10/2013 10:59

My 20 month old has to be up at 6.15 and out the door half an hour later to be at nursery for breakfast at 8am. He does this twice a week.

It's what has to happen in order for me to work. He loves nursery too.

yoniwherethesundontshine · 22/10/2013 11:00

is it always luck when people are sahms? bumble?

LookJohnLookJanetLook · 22/10/2013 11:02

My 8 year old gets on the school bus at 7:30 gets to school for 08:15 finishes school at 18:00 gets school bus arrives home 18:45. 5 days a week, sometimes he wishes that the 7.30 start was later but survives, and always looks forward to going back to school after the holidays.

edwinbear · 22/10/2013 11:06

I get a not quite 2 yr old and 4 yr old up at 6am to drop at the cm for 7am, they get collected at 6pm Mon-Thurs. It's far from ideal and I am wracked with guilt over it, but DH and I both work long hours so really don't have a choice. They are both happy, healthy well adjusted kids.

Bramshott · 22/10/2013 11:15

My DDs are constantly hassling to go to breakfast club - they'd go every day if it was up to them!

Mumsyblouse · 22/10/2013 11:18

For some reason, breakfast club seems exciting in a way that after-school club is not. Eating your breakfast with your friends is cool!

ohmymimi · 22/10/2013 11:39

At under 8, I was up at 06.30, cycled two miles to the local station, travelled for an hour by train, walked 1/2 mile across Worcester to catch a 'bus, with another 1/2 mile walk to school after the 'bus. I was in bed 20.00 every school night and buzzing with energy all day. O lasting damage caused!

hettienne · 22/10/2013 11:44

DS is 3 and doesn't go to breakfast club, but he starts nursery school at 8.45am and stays for afterschool club until 5pm or 5.30pm.

Yes, he is exhausted! It's a really long day for a 3 year old, but he enjoys it. He definitely enjoys it more than I enjoy staying at work til 5.30pm and not getting home til 6.30pm anyway!

LittleRobots · 22/10/2013 16:34

Gosh that's a really long day lookjohn! Do they get to do sport and dancing and things at school? I've often thought that would be a plus of private - doing the brownies and dancing and sport on site rather than ferrying around.

Blissx · 22/10/2013 17:11

Wow. My DD is at her childminder for 6.45ish as I have to be in work for 7am. My childminder then drops her off at school. Never occurred to me that others might judge so negatively. OP, you are NBU.

blahblahblah2014 · 22/10/2013 17:26

From the ages of 3 - 11 my DS went to breakfast club in his school at 7.45am and then after-school club until i collected him at 6.30pm - Never done him any harm, I was working so didn't really have a choice.

soislife · 22/10/2013 17:36

My DD is 2 & since she was 10 months she's been in private nursery 3 days a week. I drop her off at 7.30 (have to pay an extra fee - ouch!) & I collect her at 5.30.

I don't feel I'm damaging her, contrary I believe I'm giving her a well rounded upbringing. She loves her nursery, the activities, her friends etc & she gets to have lots of experiences with me that I couldn't provide if I didn't work.

If they're happy what's the problem? :-)

WetGrass · 22/10/2013 17:41

I have to do this because the bastarding council allocated my DC ridiculous school places at the four corners of the city.

Please direct any negative comments you receive my way & I can compile them into my appeal dossier!

Ragwort · 22/10/2013 17:43

People will judge you whatever you do, I am frequently 'judged' for being a SAHM - if you are confident in your parenting choices you can just shrug the 'judginess' off Smile.

soislife · 22/10/2013 17:50

Absolutely Ragwort :-)

LookJohnLookJanetLook · 22/10/2013 18:13

LittleRobots yes it's why it suits us - an hour of sport every day and an hour of chosen activity (art/drama/fishing/archery/chess etc) as well as normal lessons.

solveproblem · 22/10/2013 18:31

I went to breakfast and after school club when I grew up. I loved it, can't ever remember wishing I was home instead.

Retropear · 22/10/2013 18:32

I don't think you're damaging them but I think it's too early for a 4 year old and not ideal for a 7 year old.

If you have no choice there isn't a lot you can do so pointless beating yourself up about it.

We all have to subject our dc to non ideal scenarios at times.

Original poster
Whitegrenache · 22/10/2013 18:52

Wow thank you all for the messages! I feel so much better tonight, and keep thinking about half term next week when we can have more of a lie in!!
So the overwhelming result is IANBU!!

Grin Kids are happy happy happy tonight and asked To go to breakfast club tomorrow again..

Now the dogs on the other hand.....are not impressed being shut in their kennels in the dark!! Still they had a good walk tonight so don't feel so bad.

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treadheavily · 22/10/2013 19:02

I am going to have to do the same next year. My 11yo will be on her bus at 7.15am and the 6yo at breakfast club by 7.30am.
I think we shall have to adjust with earlier bed times and fewer after school activities

JenaiMorris · 22/10/2013 19:05

Most people despair at their young children being wide awake at 06:00 - or worse.

LittleRobots · 22/10/2013 19:25

Look John sounds perfect! I'd love my daughter to do more sport. They only do an hour a week! I take her to gym etc. But its not the same.

There is often talk of increasing state out of school provision but so often its a room of minimum wage staff doing colouring and tv. I'd be les s concerned about leaving them if it was formal sport etc.

Around here I think people are a little judgey if you aren't there to drop off and pick up your own kid, and go to the meetings and assemblies etc.

S must admit I would love to go private.

wordfactory · 22/10/2013 19:30

OP, I couldn't get my DC to stay in bloody bed at that age!!!!

We used to go to breafast club because we were all up so bloody early we used to take advanatge of the lovely cooked breakfasts on offer (i certainly wasn't up to grilling bacon and tomatos at that time).

Admittedly I went with them, but that's what we did Grin.

overitalready · 22/10/2013 19:35

My poor dd has to be up at 0330 to be dropped to my mums for 4am for me to be at work for 5am Sad It's rubbish but such is life..

She sleeps in the car on the way to my mums and then I carry her straight back into her bed when I get to my mums. Although its getting harder to carry her as she's 10 now!

If we want food and heating then it has to be done

Chusband · 22/10/2013 19:41

I think breakfast club is better than after school club so you're doing it the right way round, as such. They're more tired after school I think.

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