Am I? I dont think so

[mariomadmum]

Hi, i want to know if IABU re a night out..

basically me and a friend have planned a night out for saturday, we planned it weeks ago. today she texts me and says she has invited her boyfriend and his friend do i mind? i said honestly, yes.
i dont get out much at all was really lookin forward to it just being me and her, her and her BF havent been together long so they are always all over each other and although she wont mean to i know i will end up being ignored.
so anyway i tell her this and she says "aww ok shall we re arrange for another time then?"
so shes goin to go out with her boyfriend and not me even though WE planned it.
I feel so angry!
AIBU?

Cheeky mare!

YANBU

Yanbu. Very irritating

yanbu, how rude

YANBU! How rude

That's rude. Phone her and say "no lets not rearrange, let's stick to the plan."

No YANBU - that is incredible rude and I think you should tell her!

Yanbu, it is very rude considering the intention was for you to catch up just the two of you. Do you even know this friend that's coming along?
What's even more rude is that she now asks if your date with her can be rescheduled rather than the one with her bf.

YaDnbu - I'd do what Pancakeflipper has suggested - text/phone her back and say "I'd rather we didn't rearrange the night, let's stick to the plan we made" and see what she says after that.

No you bloody well are not BU.

Feel quite annoyed on your behalf, actually. She'll be mortified about it when she looks back, but right now the new BF clearly fills her horizon.

What a silly selfish self absorbed friend. I would be enraged. Can you find someone else to go out with?

thank you i didnt think i was. i text her and said im pissed off why cant we stick to the plan just me and her, she said "well i cant really un-ask my boyfrind"
what but its ok for me not to go??
And no, i dont know the friend thats coming.

I'd be deeply irritated.

That's really bad of her, YANBU.

Ask her how come she can't 'unask' him but it's fine to bump you?

You are certainly not being unreasonable! She is being a cowbag! I know people get wrapped up in a new relationship but that is no excuse!

I would be saying 'I see, it is not on for you to un-ask your new BF but it IS ok to ditch an old friend in his favour when we have had plans for weeks? ..interesting lesson learned for me on how you see the world'

I have text and said that I'm not happy, and asked why is it ok to ditch me instead of telling him he can't come. I've had no reply.

very irritating.

Yanbu, she is very rude.

YANBU, she is! Def text and say 'nah, that date works for me, let's just stick to our original plans and go out together'

She doesn't sound like much of a friend.

Can you arrange to go out with someone else?

Yanbu second what you the cat suggests.

YADNBU! How irritating! I hate it when people change the line-up like that well done on saying what you said!

I agree with YouTheCat and Kibeth. Hope you get a fab night lined up.

She's giving you a very clear message.

I would take the hint and let the friendship go.

Well done for texting her and saying how you feel. Much better than stewing on it!

Cheeky mare! Well done for saying something - not surprised she hasn't replied. She knows she's been rude and probably didn't expect to be called out on it.

That's a total dick move. Yanbu.

I'd find someone better to go out with.