To expect a thank you for a wedding gift

[Bingersandtoes]

DH and I have been to 8 weddings over the past 2 years. Each time we have bought a present off the list / donated cash as requested by a bloody stupid poem

We have received 2 thank you notes.

AIBU in being surprised by the fact that 75% of our aquitances (the 2 thank yous came from people I'd class as friends) are rude and ungrateful???

Please tell me it is still 'normal' and expected to write a thank you note??

Yes, but not customary in Yorkshire where you don't flash your brass.

I DO expect a thank you. I never see the gift, the only way I know it has gone is John Lewis charging my credit card.

3 weddings recently, one thank you card. The other two - never a mention of the gift, although thanked generally for coming. All in same age group but clearly one couple better brought up!

looks like the next lot may be out of luck.

leaves a bad taste. If there is time to fart around with chair covers and favours, there is time to write thank you notes after even if it does take a few weeks.

Handmade thank you cards, photos, thank you cards for play dates, dinner dates. Sounds like a competition or a bit full on.

I have never sent a thank you card in my life, and never received one neither. Just isn't done in my circle. Usually a thank you when handing over the gift is enough, or if not handing over face to face, perhaps a text/call/fb. And if someone doesn't say thanks at all, I'd just consider it oversight, and assume that they were grateful but forgetful. Certainly wouldnt hold it against them though or think they were rude.

Do you mean you won't buy a gift for the next wedding you attend Special or you won't go?