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To just want to smoke until I become the smokiest thing ever!

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IfYouLoveSomebodyLetThemSleep · 18/10/2013 19:40

Got a BFP on Monday! Brilliant news but I am soooooo missing smoking and drinking :( I didn't even do it that much, about 3 tabs a day and occasionally a couple of glasses of wine, but now that I can't it's all I want.

DP is still smoking and that's not helping at all.

I just want to puff puff puff puff puff puff puff puff!

Any tips for getting past this? I've got at least another year and a half left of no smoke or drink, feels like forever.

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Hawkmoth · 18/10/2013 19:42

Give it three weeks. You'll be as sick as a dog and wouldn't be able to smoke if you wanted to!

monkeysox · 18/10/2013 19:45

Get do to stop too that is doubly hard for you. Gogood luck

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IfYouLoveSomebodyLetThemSleep · 18/10/2013 19:46

That can't come soon enough. I just can't relax at all :( and I know life could be much worse, but hat doesn't help.

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aturtlenamedmack · 18/10/2013 19:47

Ughhh god ot won't be long before the tiniest wiff with have you chucking your guts up!

CoffeeTea103 · 18/10/2013 19:48

Just hang in there, and keep in mind your beautiful baby. Your DH should smoke as far away from you to support you.

HumphreyCobbler · 18/10/2013 19:48

get your dh to smoke outside for a start, he should get into the habit now as you won't want to be breathing in his smoke.

I sympathise, it is really hard. But you will get past this.

Congratulations on your BFP

HumphreyCobbler · 18/10/2013 19:49

you can have the odd drink you know

even when breastfeeding

HellonHeels · 18/10/2013 19:49

Access some NHS help to stop smoking. I think there might be special programmes to support pregnant women to stop.

Hypnotherapy? You can afford it with the money you'll save on fags.

SaucyJack · 18/10/2013 19:50

Pahahahaha!!

I'm 21 weeks now (haven't smoked since I tested) and I STILL want to smoke all day, everyday.

DollyTwat · 18/10/2013 19:51

Could you vape instead?
I have no idea if this would be harmful, just not AS harmful surely?

MaBumble · 18/10/2013 19:51

Get your husband on e cigs, that way at least you want smell them!

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IfYouLoveSomebodyLetThemSleep · 18/10/2013 19:52

That's not helping Saucy! I bloody love the action of smoking. I love blowing smoke out, it makes me feel like a dragon. I miss being a dragon

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ems1910 · 18/10/2013 19:52

NHS help as suggested, your gp or mw can help.

DH also needs to smoke outside and brush his teeth, wash hands and wear a coat over his clothes when smoking.

Good luck op! :)

ems1910 · 18/10/2013 19:53

Sorry but I miss being a dragon just made me laugh out loud! I think I scared my son!

Sallyingforth · 18/10/2013 19:56

Your DH should stop as well. He shouldn't be teasing you with his side smoke.
When the baby is born neither of you should be smoking near it, so now is a good opportunity and incentive for you to both give it up.

Sammie101 · 18/10/2013 20:16

I smoked about the same amount as you but after about 2 weeks the thought of smoking made me want to throw up! By the 2nd trimester I craved them so badly. I never caved though, knowing that I was giving my little girl the best start in life was the ultimate motivation from me, and I'm so proud of myself to say that I did it Smile

OHforDUCKScake · 18/10/2013 20:19

Hopefully you have more than a year an a half not smoking, the rest of your life would be a great aim. I mean, you have to go through this difficult bit it would be daft to start again.

Extra strong mints and pints of water (not at the same time, ouch) got me through.

Good luck and comgratulations!!!!

Tweasels · 18/10/2013 20:27

Oh I've been there. Was on my hen night on the Friday night smoking my way through a pack of 20' the following week no period, test and wahhhhh suddenly no cigs. My DH didn't stop and it really pissed me off.

It's worth trying to get a grip on it though because as soon As I stopped breastfeeding I was back on them which I could have kicked myself for.

I've stopped now (except the occasional one for special occasions Grin

Sorry, that is no practical help but an I understand your pain sort of hug.

comewinewithmoi · 18/10/2013 20:28

Obviously dh needs to give it up. Tut

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IfYouLoveSomebodyLetThemSleep · 18/10/2013 21:08

He was meant to give it up, but yet he's still smoking Confused it's so tempting when I can see them sitting there! I could quite happily punch his big stupid face.

Can you get e cigs that don't have the nicotine? I'd be happy to have no nicotine but still have that smoking action.

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Footface · 18/10/2013 21:14

I gave up when I found out I was pregnant, all you can do is remember why you stopped. Guilt will keep you a non smoker.

BOF · 18/10/2013 21:15

Get one of those vapour inhalers- they're brilliant.

Footface · 18/10/2013 21:16

Have you read Alan Carr? Also Someone told me about a scan video of the baby curling up when the mum was smoking, I ised to think of that and it helped

kinkyfuckery · 18/10/2013 21:24

Yeah you can get nicotine free. Just have a quick Google.

I'm 10 weeks off the ciggies, but love being able to still puff away like a dragon lol

Shellywelly1973 · 18/10/2013 21:38

I smoked 20 a day for 22 years. I gave up nearly 9 months ago.

I was a hard core smoker. Pregnancy or illness wasn't enough to stop me - I loved a fag.

I gave up because I was pregnant but I was worried about the pregnancy so decided to try to stop smoking. I hadnt tried to stop for 16 years. Sadly, I had a MMC just a few weeks after I stopped smoking.

I was devastated. I decided I wouldn't smoke again so at least my little baby would have a lasting positive effect on my life. It would have been so easy to smoke again.

Then less then 3 months ago my beloved mil was diagnosed with terminal lung cancer. It had already spread to her brain & liver. She had been a heavy smoker for about 40 years. The tumours in her brain caused her to lose her vision. So someone would light her cigarette for her. I realised I was starting to look forward to taking her out for her fag so I could have a sneaky pull on her fag as I lit it...

So im sitting in an Onocology ward with 4 women all dying of cancer. Also im pregnant again & all I can think is 'God- I want a fag'. That was a defining moment in my life. Yes I want to smoke BUT I chose not to. Its selfish to smoke whilst pregnant & im embarrassed that I smoked during 4 pregnancies.

I don't know if I will ever stop craving but its in my mind. Smoking is such a complex addiction-it should never be underestimated. I realised that I wanted some of the poison that was killing 4 women in front of me on that oncology ward.

My mil was like a mum to me. I watched her go from being a funny, lively, fit, 'naughty' & amazing grandmother to a doubly incontinent, non verbal, blind & in vegative state within 2 weeks of being diagnosed. She died 7 weeks after her diagnosis.She was initially given 6 months to live. She died 4 weeks ago...

I will never put a cigarettes in my mouth again.