To wonder how people feed babies this revolting stuff day in day out

[moogy1a]

Had to give a mindee a jar of food today ( mum particularly wanted her to have it).
it smelt rank and I couldn't bring myself to try it.
Little one wolfed it down though so obviously used to the taste and it wasn't "off".
AIBU to think that except in emergencies babies should be fed food you would be happy to eat yourself ( or is Heinz food particularly revolting?)

That really dosent mean your being bullied moogs. It really dosent.

You've picked a pretty unpopular bandwagon that's all.

Any of the posts you've felt crossed a line - report them, they'll get dealt with.

Fuck my old boots are we still flogging this one?

I've just skipped straight to page 37 and apparently we are.

Strange, when it's a perfectly obvious yes YABU and judgemental too for good measure.

Which children do you know who were weaned on jars that now won't eat home cooked food?

And really and truly, every single meal your children has had has been homecooked?

FWIW I can't understand how babies can enjoy formula it smells so rank, but it has all the nutritional properties needed just like jarred food.

(BTW, nothing against formula feeding at all - but I think we'll all agree it doesn't smell pleasant to the adult palate!)

It's not to nice in a cup of tea either.

I have tried. One desperate night.

Sorry

Because its bullying enough for piano to describe it as such but not enough to report, convinient

Still don't see what's convenient about it? I've read the thread and remarked on something.

I haven't sent any pms either - I don't devote huge amounts of time to the forum I tend to just post comments or comment on things that catch my attention.

I don't spend ages mulling it all over or getting emotionally invested in threads. It just wouldn't have occurred to me to report tbh.

So, my dc are therefore 'poor buggers' are they QueFonda?

And I should have just 'mashed up a banana' when I was severely depressed?

well, thank you so much for your medical opinion! Can I ask for your medical qualifications or are you just from the school of patronising?

You don't know me. You didn't know me when I was suffering every fucking day. So don't offer me 'aww sorry you were ill but it's not hard to mash a banana'. I did mash fucking bananas but babies can't live on bananas alone.

And my dc all enjoyed their food, jarred or otherwise. They didn't smell 'rank' or 'vile' (apart from the cauliflower cheese variety), they tasted and smelled perfectly bloody fine. My dc weren't crying and having the food forced down their necks, ffs.

And as for the whole 'linked to obesity' bollocks. Again (for about the fourth time - is there an echo in here?), my THREE dc are all completely average height and weight for their ages, so no obesity here, thanks.

Moogy your whole OP was designed to kickstart all this off and you damned well know it. If your only intention was to discuss the one jar of food and how 'rank' it was you could have said 'AIBU to think Heinz (insert name of jar) tastes horrible?'. That may have led to a civilised discussion regarding which jars are nice and which ones aren't. That was no your intention so stop pretending it was.

I'll tell you again. My reason for feeding my dc this 'revolting stuff day in day out' was because it was all I physically could do. They were happy and fed and neither the Health Visitor or my GP (who is also a fully qualified pediatrician, rather than a judgy fucking childminder) had a problem with my choices. So, rather than constant links, please answer me this: what medical qualifications do you have to judge me on how I weaned my dc?

If you see a bullying post then report it piano and if HQ agree then it will be deleted, nothing to do with how much you post here

heartbroken - don't fret. You did fine.

I agree it'd be good to know which particular jar of 'revolting, rank' food the OP had to feed her charge. But i don't think we're ever going to be told.

Its a cop out piano, it bothered you enough to comment. Que Fonda have you read the thread? I dont jar feed so im not offended because I feel criticised far from it

Theres ANOTHER one que?

Heartbroken I do think you're taking it a tad too personally, if I'm honest.

I recognise that it can be distressing when someone slates your parenting choices but it happens all the time on big parenting forums and you do just have to shrug it off. I DO think people have a right to say they think X is better than Y, or Z is preferable to W, without people taking it personally.

My concern here is the fact that the OP is identifiable and so are her clients. I think this is unprofessional in the extreme.

MoonInJune

QueFonda actually replied to me upthread saying that I should have just mashed a banana. As that was directed to me personally, as were some of the OPs comments yesterday, and as there have been comments from other posters talking about 'lazy' Mums, yes, I'm afraid I AM going to take it personally.

QueFonda please don't refer to my kids as 'poor buggers' because they had jarred food. They weren't abused or neglected, just fed jars. They were (and are) happy children. As I said, they didn't ever cry or refuse their food - they enjoyed it.

And if the thread is about what people 'choose' to do, why doesn't the OP ever acknowledge that? She hasn't said that anywhere throughout the thread.

Well yes, Heartbroken but just don't get upset about it. All any of us can do is our best after all.

But there is nothing wrong with discussing things in the abstract - that is how many of us learn. I just don't like the WAY this thread was introduced.

If you see a bullying post then report it piano and if HQ agree then it will be deleted, nothing to do with how much you post here

Ah OK I thought the report button was more for stuff like direct threats etc...

No its not Que, it's about all jar feeders. How do I square with your guilt theory, why do you suppose I'm objecting?

No piano, it is for anything you think is 'not quite cricket.'

Look:

*I'm a childminder and on a few occasions parents have requested I give their DCs jarred foods. I'm happy to oblige but I have to admit, the food didn't smell appealing at all!

In fairness, this has never bothered the babies, who have always wolfed it down, but it has got me wondering - surely on the whole it's better to provide babies and toddlers with home cooked food you make yourself than jars? I know they are good for emergencies but I can't really understand the reliance we seem to have on them in this country.

AIBU?*

The above would doubtless have got the odd 'fuck off' (it IS mumsnet!) but more likely a PROPER discussion about jars and home cooked meals without naming (or as good as) parents and children and without using unpleasant turns of phrases.

It isn't hard moogy

You can report anything, if you see a post that you think goes beyond the pale or you think a thread has turned bullying you can report the whole thing or just an individual post, totally anon. and it will get looked at. I guess if a person behaves badly enough times they will get themselves banned.

I hate it when someone starts an innocent thread and gets jumped on for spurious reasons myself, but in some cases if enough people disagree with a poster the word bullying does get bandied about.

From what I see of Moogs she is giving as good as she is getting but I have skirted all over any general child minding or discipline bits.

If someone is saying raaarrr jars are full of crap and salt, I am going to disagree. I buy them, sniff them, taste them and read the labels.

I am very happy with what I feed my baby, so this isnt getting to me on a personal level.

I really dont like the Alpha Parenting style of thread which I feel this one is. I really just dont understand people that judge people for this type of stuff. It always gets me going, be it what car seat, drinks, formula, anything.