to post a photo of my own child taken at a school assembly on FB?

[Tinklewinkle]

I'm not the world's most prolific Facebook user, I've got about 40 friends on there at most, I live away from my family so I mainly use it so my parents can keep up with what my children up to

I took DD to school this morning and got a telling off as it had been reported to the head that I had posted a picture on Facebook that was taken at school. I couldn't think of any pics that I had on FB that they could possibly be talking about but apologised and said I'd take it down.

Since getting back home I've trawled through my pics, and DH's pics to remove the photo but there's only 1 that we have on there that was taken at school and it is only of my own daughter.

My youngest daughter won an award at school a couple of weeks ago and I took a photo of her with the award at school. I cropped it before posting it so there was no one else in it - you can just about make out a bit of the shoulder of the child she's standing next to in one corner and you can see the wall of the school hall behind her (just a plain brick wall). No faces or anything, you can't even see the uniform logo on her jumper as she's holding up her certificate in front of her and it covers the logo

Now, I have never, and would never post pics with other children in on FB, but my own child?

Re a violent ex um surely the op would know if he had one and act accordingly.

There are no other kids in the pic.

YABU

School says you must not post photos on social networking sites. You have flouted that rule. They don't say it's ok if it's your child only.

Would you be allowed to email the photo to friends and family instead? Or do they not allow that either?

School says you must not post photos on social networking sites. You have flouted that rule.

School rules say you shouldn't take your children out of school in term times, and look at the outrage on MN and elsewhere then they try to enforce that.

That's a ridiculous argument. Even if one rule is not ok it shouldn't mean you shouldn't try to abide by the others.

Sometimes in exceptional circumstances taking children out of school during term time is unavoidable. But posting a photo on Facebook is completely avoidable and unnecessary.

retropear um I am aware of that. Um I think it's quite clear that my post is not discussing the OP's specific situation, but replying to another poster's views on whether it is reasonable for schools to ban parents from photographing other people's children. So um I hope it's more clear to you now.

Why are you not more bothered about wondering who "reported" to the head what was on your fb page? Thats what would disturb me.

sashh, dancergirl, but she hasn't broken a school rule; the school rule has been quoted and is that you can't post photos without the consent of parents of all children included. She has.

*the issues that are usually associated with photography bans such as looked-after children, domestic abuse, witness protection ... the very real issues that many children face.

The presumed issues that a tiny, tiny number of children face. These rules are weakly enforced and are not even attempted at secondary schools. Cases in which children are tracked down via photographs posted on Facebook by third parties are unimaginably rare (has there ever been one?)*

I think we are on the same side here - I was specifically referring to the article posted which completely ignored the reasons usually given by schools for a photography ban. I believe that schools who have a child who is in such a situation should be vigilant in doing whatever they need to to protect them, but that schools where there are no children in any of these categories need to let up a bit and stop being so heavy handed about the way they treat parents.

BOLD FAIL! Sure you can work out what I was trying to do .

DoJo I think the graun's standards are slipping. That article wouldn't have been out of place in the Heil's yearly tirades against modern elf and safety standards. Could have gone next to the article about how the writer had never known anything more serious than a crippling life-long injury to happen to a child from playing on a Witch's Hat in a playground!

"Oh that photo, that wasn't taken at school, we took that when we got home"

There, sorted.

If it was me I'd then take photos of the empty school from outside, take photos of my kids anywhere except school & photoshop them all over the school pics.

Fuck 'em, they're being ridiculous & if you find the snitch give them a reality check!!

you have broken a school rule

..and where do schools think they get the authority to make rules for for what happens outside school?

Yes, C&P a copy of the photo, with a copy of the School Rule regarding permission, write yourself a letter giving yourself permission and send the whole lot to the Head with a cover letter that includes the phrase "People who don't understand Facebook, shouldn't complain about Facebook"

why fuss, just ignore...

Utterly stupid lunacy. I'd tell the school to bugger off and stop being so ridiculous.

These stupid rules that assume most people are potential peados are causing much harm to our society.

Our school allows photos of plays, sports days etc. If they didn't I wouldn't send them there.

And If my kids school had such stupid rules I'd write letters, complain and take it up with Govenors and generally cause a stink.

Anyway, the Guardian piece has a sensible statement from the chap from the Gov who says schools are taking it too far - so its clearly not in the spirit of things to be so legalistic.

I'd tell them to naff off. Sorry this sort of thing makes me so angry that people aren't allowed to record their own kids' milestones.