To tell the MIL I'm pregnant by Facebook message?

[ShootMyMIL]

Namechanged as this will out me

Found out I'm pregnant a couple of week ago, OH is against having baby and wants me to get rid. I've decided that I'm keeping it.

I don't get on with MIL but think that she has a right to know that she has a grandchild on the way.

I told her via Facebook message as this is the only way I have of contacting her.

She's now messaged me a lot of abuse, telling me I have to get rid as her son doesn't want it. She's now taken it upon herself to spread around everyone that I'm forcing her son to commit his life to this.

Wish I hadn't posted now.

I wasn't asking for opinions on the fact I told her or the fact I told her before 12 weeks

Just if it was wrong on Facebook

ilove exactly if this is the type of people they are why on earth would you put yourself in such a stressful position dealing with it face to face.

if you read my post properly, i said not to contact her at all.

OK OP, well the stage you are at does make a difference to if you are right or wrong to say so early, because being only 10 weeks pregnant, means that you do have another 30 weeks before she "needs" to know. Within that time there's a good chance your OH would want to take the opportunity to tell her face to face, or if he wouldn't, you might see her to say something.

There was no rush. If there was a time constraint, then facebook messages is acceptable way to let someone know they are going to be a grandparent, that wasn't the case here.

You are obviously having a tough time, but dial it back - just invite people in to discuss it who will be supportive to you. Yes once the baby is born, your MIL will probably be part of that baby's life, but until then, there's no need to invite her into yours if she's not going to add to it.