To feel I'm just playing at being a grown up

[Me2Me2]

36 with two small kids and still feel just out of uni. I imagine everyone is a bit like this but, I mean, when I compare myself to my parents at my age, well they were just so much more adult - the table was laid for every meal, they always dressed well, including around the house, they used 'the silver' for special occasions, the house was always tidy (not just when they couldnt take the mess anymore), their finances were in order, etc etc. Life was organised, in other words.
We're fine and very happy - I even think we're ok parents. But we're not grown up

Who feels like this?

Students make me feel old! I'm a uni lecturer. I like mature students

Last week I realised we'd been stepping onto towels when we get out of the shower. The grown up thing to do would buy a bath mat. So I did. Made me feel better for five minutes

My house is constant chaos too - I feel vaguely pleased and proud if we have food in the fridge and not just 4 bottles of cheap red bull and some mouldy cheese

Everything always seems to be "Well one day we'll..." "It'll be better when..." and none of it ever happens I've just had a conversation with DP about choosing a set bath night for DS because otherwise we keep on forgetting/not being bothered and the poor boy has spots he's only 5! He's perfectly happy at not having a regular bath, of course

Am making a mahoosive stew today though - so big I had to use two pans because I didn't have one big enough. That makes me feel a bit accomplished and grown up...

I felt the same until about 35. Now I feel like a fully paid up adult. Perhaps it's because my son has just turned 16.

I still bite my nails. In my early twenties I tried to stop as adults don't bite their nails. Now I know they do

I write status' about freshers, 9am lectures and being skint. I also do the same as the other lady- leave at 7.15am, back at 6pm. I'm in my final year and struggling already. A lot. Maybe I'm not grown up and organised enough.

If it helps, I am nearly 43 with no children and I DEFINITELY don't feel like an adult!

I felt a bit more adult when my DM died when I was 27.

ALthough I think the ultimate test of adultness is having to do your tax return which I started 2 years ago (44 now).

Meh, it's just numbers.

The first "age" I remember my Mum being was 36 and to me (then) that was old.

Now she's 67 going on 87, I'm 44 feeling 19 mentally