Back story; my OH and I have been saving for years for a deposit on a house. We finally found the first home of our dreams and, after a few cold-feet moments on his part, placed an offer which was accepted.
In preparation, we handed in our notice at our lovely rented accommodation - he will be moving in with his parents with the dog at the end of the month and I have moved in with a friend who also happens to live considerably closer to my work. (There's not enough room at his parents for us both, plus thats a situation I wouldn't want to be in!)
OH started to have wobbles (about his work life mainly) and it resulted in some serious arguing and a real contemplation as to whether we should go through with the house buy. But its all resolved and everything is hunky dory.
Friend - let's call her Jane - knows about everything.
The original plan was for me to move in with Jane for about six months whilst we renovate the house, OH would stay at his parents. However Jane has been having a lot of problems recently; a (not close) family member died and she broke up with her boyfriend (thus the need of a housemate).
I moved in about 5 weeks ago, and was a little shocked about the house. It had never been a clean house - quite student-accomodation like - but liveable. However the place is now a tip. Kim & Aggy, don't take your shoes off, don't touch the walls shit tip. The carpet looks like someone has given birth on it, you can't really tell though through the inch thick layer of black dog hair from her (extremely large) dog. Betty (the dog) was sick the other night and Jane simply scraped up the sick bits and left it at that.
I cannot explain how filthy this house is, but trust me it is disgusting. She works from home so I have no idea how she can cope with it.
Unfortuantely I'm never there long enough to clean significantly (I basically only stay overnight - back about 6pm leave at 6am) and I certainly don't have time to add to the mess ( I eat dinner at work because I'm a bit frightened off the kitchen which is crawling with dirt) I study in the evenings a lot.
On top of this, Jane seems to have flipped. Before she was the nicest person I knew, now it seems like I can't say anything without her trying to twist it into an argument. Everything I say gets a huge inquisition and (being quite insecure) I'm finding this really hard to cope with.
The house sale is due to complete in 4-5 weeks.
Jane desperately needs a housemate (though clearly doesn't want one) and probably will struggle to find another after me because of how big and badly behaved Betty is and the state of the house.
But I really don't think I can stay there any longer being belittled and having to shower at work because I can't seem to get clean in her bathroom.
WIBU to give her 4 weeks notice on Monday and move into the new house (which is liveable, all problems are cosmetic) and leave Jane in the lurch financially?
(I have endless sympathy for her re: her current circumstances (boyfriend, family death) but this happened months ago and she just seems to be getting worse.)