TrueStory sorry I didn't see your question.
The Amish think us (non amish) most cruel and unkind to our children because we wait on them hand and foot, then suddenly expect them to be able to cope with running all aspects of life,
An Amish toddler, is given the great privilege of the responsibility of keeping the kindling box full, if and only if they do that job justice, they might be allowed to stack the wood, or sweep the path,
You are only allowed responsibility for a task if you always carry it out perfectly, without input from others, that includes being reminded or supervised.
It is a massive honour to be trusted with an essential task, so as a child ages they want to be allowed to do the next job up, so as to be recognised as capable.
I was raised by Quaker feminists, we lived in remote parts of Asia (Hebrides,up mountains,amish communities,war zones) , where all children contribute from the moment they can walk,
my children have from the moment they could walk, wanted to be allowed to join in any group effort going,
I would never say to a toddler who has been scrubbing a cupboard front with some (ecover) soapy water, oh well done darling, if it wasn't perfect, I would ask if they could see any bits they had missed, and let them rectify it, that way they get genuine self satisfaction in their achievement, false praise is rude, demoralising and insulting, it tells the receiver you don't think they are capable of better, and they will never trust your judgement again.
watch one, do one, teach one is how you learn in this house,
People tend to only do special cooking (cakes) with their children, mine from the start are involved with every meal, to be allowed the massive privilege of the use of ingredients,it is an honour only bestowed on the highly accomplished, it's a huge responsibility, they have to convince us of their abilities, before they can have access to precious food.
They have all cooked solo from a young age, far surpassed my abilities quite sometime ago. It's considered the highest honour to feed the household.
All children can easily sort laundry, identify what fabric requires what care, untangling arms on shirts if they have the reasoning explained at the time of watch one, do one, teach one.
Always explain the reasoning behind any process, nothing should be a mystery.
Because they are always involved in all tasks, they like any adult just naturally do things as they go, from the little things like emptying their pockets, doing up zips, as they put items in the hamper, because they know it will make later actions easier.
We are a very active family, we would rather be out climbing, surfing, doing stuff, if everyone didn't muck in naturally, then the time and energy would not be available to do those interesting things, they choose to enable our time to be used for fun stuff.
I was brought up to think it was incredibly rude to put someone in the situation where they felt they needed to address your contribution, if someone put me a position where I had harangue them to do a task, I would resent been put in that position, I don't want that relationship with anyone, let alone someone I live with, I would never want to live that way,far too stressful, we have lots of additional children, and guests, because we have a culture of joint effort they all quite naturally join in.
I was on a thread where the OP was struggling with mornings, and looking for suggestions, I suggested her children when they got in from school, get their bags and clothes ready for the following day, she couldn't even consider the possibility of a nine year old and a five year old doing such a simple task. Once you own a skill it's never hard or a bind to do, you don't notice you are doing it.
I can't imagine spending my life doing everything for able bodied people, I wouldn't want to disadvantage them, I wouldn't want them to ever feel that simple things are beyond their capabilities.
watch one, do one, teach one.