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To tell the nursery staff not to use a nickname

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MoonsMamma · 07/10/2013 19:02

DD (22mo) is Lucy. She has recently started to refer to herself as "Lucy-Lou" when asking for things.
This irks me. I know it is an innocent nickname / affectionate term, but DH and I never use this at home. Today when we picked her up, another child said "bye bye Lucy-Lou-Lou"

Do we let it ride and keep correcting her at home or do we tell the nursery staff to use her proper name?

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Sleepthief · 08/10/2013 07:13

I was amazed that DS1 learnt his actual name, so rarely was he called it . And for ages DS2 referred to himself as Finny Mack (well Pinny Mack, to be precise), to the point that DS3 started calling him Mack-Mack as he learned to speak and continued for about a year. Now, maybe six months on - at the advanced ages of 4 and 2.5 - they call themselves and each other by their given names. Kids grow out of it, so no need to stress at 22 months

I still call them a thousand and one variations on dingbat, mall and piglet, though and probably shall for ever many years to come

Sleepthief · 08/10/2013 07:13

I still call them a thousand and one variations on dingbat, malloonbar and piglet, though and probably shall for ever many years to come

Sleepthief · 08/10/2013 07:16

Poo

LiegeAndLief · 08/10/2013 07:25

My name is Lucy (great name ) and one of my friends has called me Floozy (occasionally shortened to Flooze) since we were teenagers. Now that really would be inappropriate for a nursery. I think I'd let Lucy Lou go.

My mother calls me Locksy Pops .

Wheresmycaffeinedrip · 08/10/2013 07:28

Why a ridiculous thing to get annoyed with. For heavens sake kids call them selves all sorts of names. I had to spend weeks calling dd1 our cats name. It's just an affectionate nick name. Be glad she's happy and they like her and gets on well with the kids.

Seriously, people have all sorts of oroblens with nurseries, their kids are left to cry or they ignore food instructions or kids are left unattended or whatever and you want to "have a word" over a nick name? She will be calling herself princess la la in a week , get over it.

Jaynebxl · 08/10/2013 07:34

Once she gets to school they will just call her Lucy and she will get used to that. But I'd be surprised if her nn lasted til then. Kids are very adaptable. We have used the middle name of both of our children rather than their first name since they were born but they both know what their first names are and respond to them at tje doctor's for example. There's loads of opportunity to chat about nn's as time goes by and your little one will get the idea that people have more than one name. Just like you are called mummy sometimes and Moonsmama at other times

BooCanary · 08/10/2013 07:44

When my DS started nursery school he didn't know his full name, which the teachers insisted on calling him. He had no idea they were talking to him . We, friends and family, and creche had only ever called him by a shortened version.

Luckily school now also call him by the shortened version, but he does now realise its him when they call his full name!

greenfolder · 08/10/2013 07:47

she will grow out of calling herself by her nickname- my oldest 2 did, and little one is just doing this now (5). she will always be kitten to me though!
a mum that i was friends with when my oldest was a baby insisted that her was called Christopher and not Chris- even to his friends in primary- she would correct them! he is now known as Fer to all his mates- its like a continual reference to his mothers unreasonable- now that makes me laugh.

Sokmonsta · 08/10/2013 08:04

Going against the grain it appears... I did have a quick word with nursery when the staff started abbreviating dd1's (pfb) name. 4 years on no one has given her a nickname since and we decided that when dd came home asking to be called x or y instead, then we would. But it irked me that another adult saw fit to change the name we had chosen for her. Had dd come out with it herself we would not have minded.

MiaowTheCat · 08/10/2013 08:58

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WorkingItOutAsIGo · 08/10/2013 09:33

I too will go against the grain...your DD's name to most of the world will be determined by what her school friends call her. It will become how she thinks of herself. So if you want her to be called Lucy you do need to go and very sweetly and apologetically explain to the nursery staff. Don't tell, ask.

(I have several friends still known by the most ridiculous childhood nicknames to everyone including their employers to the great chagrin of their parents. Nip it in the bud now if it matters to you)

Arion · 08/10/2013 09:37

My dd is 6 this month, she often wants to be known as either La-La (yes I named my daughter after a teletubby ) or flower or petal!

She's actually called Charlotte which her little brother can't pronounce yet so often gets called La-lot!

DS knows his name (he's 2 1/2) but also answers to rat bag and monkey! 'Are you gorgeous?' 'No, I a monkey!'

She'll know her own name, especially if you just use Lucy at home.

Shakirasma · 08/10/2013 09:48

When I leaned to talk I never referred to myself by my name, I decided that I was called "little leefort".

I have no memory of this and my parents have no idea where it came from, I seem to have made it up myself and told everybody that "little leefort" was my name.

I did apparently answer to my real name so I wasn't confused by it and I simply grew out of it.

It's nothing to worry about. My DD2 is called Kira, she answers to us calling her leelou or Elsie. She's nearly 11 now.

PissesGlitter · 08/10/2013 09:58

I only use their real names when they are in trouble tbh
My 3 get all manner of nicknames thrown at them

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