To tell the nursery staff not to use a nickname

[MoonsMamma]

DD (22mo) is Lucy. She has recently started to refer to herself as "Lucy-Lou" when asking for things.
This irks me. I know it is an innocent nickname / affectionate term, but DH and I never use this at home. Today when we picked her up, another child said "bye bye Lucy-Lou-Lou"

Do we let it ride and keep correcting her at home or do we tell the nursery staff to use her proper name?

By the way, I've known 2 year olds who have thought their names were Chubs, Binky and Princess. I'm pretty sure they'll know what their actual names are by 4.

She'll know her name. My brother couldnt say my name as a toddler so called me a shortened version. He's never used my full name, and my family used the nick name too even now, 30 years later.

I know my real name.

So please, lighten up!

My 2yo gets called chicken poo. I don't think there will be lasting damage as siblings disasterama and potato poo have done just fine.

DD1's Pre school key worker used to call her Izzy whizzy lets get busy. It used to make me laugh.

She's never been known as that before or since (not even Izzy), even though the Pre school was attached to her old Primary school and a lot of the other children from the Pre school moved up with her.

I think YAB a little bit U. My eighteen month old can hold in her head that she's called 'darling', 'sweetie', 'angel', 'Lucy' and 'Lu-Lu' without getting confused or thinking anything other than Lucy is her real name.

Disclaimer - Lucy isn't her real name :)

YABU and PFB, it doesn't matter what she thinks her name is at 22 months.

Yabu my kids have all had all sorts of nicknems,'my ds4(5) gets called sushi by dd(2
He is rudi and both he and dd know what his actual name is but she calls him sushi,its sweet :)

My DS had a similar cute name at that age - he is 10 now and people only ever call him his known name. (which is a nn of his real name but we always intended for the nn to be the one he used on a day to day basis - his full name is in case he plays cricket for England).

That sounds really complicated.

Oh and one cm he had when he was 3 used to call him Johnny Johnster the monster. It did not stick but I used to quite like it at the time.

My 21 yo BIL is still known in the family by the name he had for his own rather longer given name that he couldn't pronounce as a toddler. So sometimes they stick!

Really?

You can't just be glad she is now talking when she wasn't before?

Save your 'having a word' for something that actually matters or you will get a reputation for being a right pain in the arse and not listened too.

We always call my brother Nelly or Nells but he knows his name is Neil - although to be fair he should do, he's 34!!

I understand where you're coming from. I always call DS by the long version of his name. The nickname version is by far the more popular though, and lots of people give it to their sons as 'full' first name, IYKWIM, think 'Alfie' rather than 'Alfred'. It does annoy me when I introduce him as Alfred, and he immediately gets called Alfie. I get that he can choose how he is called when he is older, but right now, I'd prefer that it were me making those decisions on his behalf rather than strangers, or nursery workers, or anyone else. DH and I have a nickname for him, and it's totally unrelated to his actual name e.g. Billy for Alfred.

I'm not sure what you can do about it though without (from this thread sample) most people thinking you're a bit precious. I'm well aware people would mostly likely think I would be making a fuss over nothing if I objected as well. Mostly I just get annoyed on the inside.

Veering OT a bit, we always call DD by a random affectionate nickname unconnected to her actual name. The nursery staff overheard this and decided to call her the same thing, and she blew a gasket and made it very clear to them that nobody except her parents were allowed to call her by anything but her given name. The nursery staff were a bit , as were we.

YANBU to feel this way OP, but I think you would be ill-advised to complain, as it will drive a wedge between you, your DD, and the nursery staff, and damage the bonds of trust and affection.

DS is a Theodore, everyone but me (I call him Theo) calls him Dory. It's just nicknames, it's fun for them, no harm in it!

Oh god! My charges have had many a nickname, including little legs, munchkin, lamb chop, Dufy darling, Connie (a little boy!) moo, bunter, Crockett, spud, spinach, Benny bunny, Lou, zuzu, Adoowa, jago, mitzy moo. Along with sweetie, lovely, darling, munch, trouble, angel, gorgeous, and various others that I can't think of right now.

It is just a term of endearment, sometimes my bosses end up using them but none of them said they didn't like it, now I am worrying!!!

koala my ds1 is a Theodore, he gets called Theo, when he was little we called him theodorable :) but he is 14 now and doesn't like that anymore :( I still do it occasioannly tho

My DDs both get called all manner of silly affectionate names. See it as a pleasant thing....they're terms of affection.

Let it go, it's just a nickname, my DD was called "sausage roll" at that age and it's done her no harm

My kids are known as Moo, Bear, Squashy and Roo. Not their real names funnily enough but used quite often by people close to us. I think its nice

If it's any consolation, my 23m DD thinks her name is baby! No amount of telling her what her name is seems to be working so I'm just assuming that by the time she starts school she will have worked out what her name actually is.

You are been really precious get over it

YABU.

Is she happy? Does it matter?

DS1 was Yum Yum for years and DS2 is often called Nex.

Obviously both to do with babies/toddler's mispronounciation.

They know their names.