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Original poster

To not bother eating when I am on my own.

40 replies

FortyDoorsToNowhere · 07/10/2013 17:26

I am sick of DH saying I should eat in the day time.

I can not stomach breakfast and when the DC are in school I really can't be bothered to make myself something to eat, I mainly have coffee or water in the day time.

I do the kids tea around 5 and then does mine and DH ( if he is not working) around 7. If he is working I tend to have a tin of soup or something on toast.

I don't eat when the DC do as meal time is a nightmare and I rather sit and make sure they are eating.

OP posts:
NotScared · 07/10/2013 17:28

Are you underweight?

A tin of soup all day? That sounds like an eating disorder? Or have I read that wrong?

NotScared · 07/10/2013 17:28

Plus you must be extremely tired?

Fuzzysnout · 07/10/2013 17:32

Coffee and water do not have any nutrition. YABU not to eat all day, it's not good for your body and health. You owe it to yourself and your family to stay healthy.

It seems you are quite set about this, not wishing to pry but do you have an eating disorder? If so please see someone for some help.

You also need to consider what message you are giving your children by not eating.

SuburbanRhonda · 07/10/2013 17:32

Agree, notscared.

OP, are you ok? Do you think you should discuss this with your GP?

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FortyDoorsToNowhere · 07/10/2013 17:40

I am ok, do get tired.

When DH is here I do tend to eat. But I really can not motivate myself to eat.

I am actually over weight 12stone and 5ft3in

OP posts:
SuburbanRhonda · 07/10/2013 17:41

You can be overweight and still have an eating disorder. Please go and see your GP.

NotScared · 07/10/2013 17:43

Your metabolism's probably shot right now. Agree see your GP.

How's your mood? Are you happy? I'm not going to shout depression but when I had that I hardly ate, no appetite. I wanted to stay in bed too though so it's probably not that. It can still be mood related though. Are you like this in the summer or just darker days? SAD's another possibility?

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FortyDoorsToNowhere · 07/10/2013 17:45

What could the GP do as I don't feel hungry until the evening.

I do take multivitamins and iron tablets

OP posts:
NotScared · 07/10/2013 17:47

Probably nothing?

Original poster
FortyDoorsToNowhere · 07/10/2013 17:47

I am happy, I do get my off days where I feel low.

I do have anxiety and panic attacks that the GP knows about.

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WorraLiberty · 07/10/2013 17:48

OP I think the less you eat, the less you want to eat.

Therefore it's best to break the cycle and just start with something very small around about lunchtime.

Perhaps you've just fallen out of the habit and now it's difficult for your body to get back into it.

Original poster
FortyDoorsToNowhere · 07/10/2013 17:50

I don't think it is an eating disorder as I really don't care about my weight.

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WorraLiberty · 07/10/2013 17:53

Why not start with a cup of soup tomorrow lunchtime?

By next week you can build up to having a slice of bread with it.

I'm sure if you start slowly, your body will adjust.

Alisvolatpropiis · 07/10/2013 17:55

Is this a phase OP?

I go through phases of this. I often don't eat breakfast (would rather extra sleep on a weekday) and occasionally won't have lunch either,if I'm working through my lunch hour.

Always have a substantial dinner.

I don't like eating on my own, I enjoy the social aspect of food as much as I do eating the food itself.

Are you hungry and not eating or not eating despite being hungry? I only ask because in terms of hunger, everybody is different and I don't think many people genuinely need 3 large meals a day. However feeling hungry and ignoring it can be indicative that there is an issue at least forming.

CaptainSweatPants · 07/10/2013 17:56

Do you binge eat in the evenings?

Alisvolatpropiis · 07/10/2013 17:56

*are you not hungry and not eating even.

meganorks · 07/10/2013 17:56

If the kids are a nightmare at mealtimes I think it would help for you to be setting a good example and eating with them. I don't see how you can expect kids to eat well if you don't.

MrsTerryPratchett · 07/10/2013 17:58

You can not care about your weight and still have an eating disorder. What about having food in the house that is easy and healthy. Fruit bowl to start?

WorraLiberty · 07/10/2013 17:58

I don't think there's anything wrong with not eating dinner with the kids. Lots of couples eat later in the evening, due to work etc.

Hopefully you all eat as a family at weekends OP?

Damnautocorrect · 07/10/2013 18:02

I'm the same, it's a real struggle to bother (and find time!)to cook something than clean up after me! I tend to live on toast.
But what I have found is by forcing myself to eating something (even toast) during the day I've lost weight?!

ithaka · 07/10/2013 18:02

YANBU, it is up to you when you eat. You are obviously eating enough, overall, as you are not underweight so it is entirely up to you how you time your meals.

MortifiedAdams · 07/10/2013 18:03

Hmm....I know someone like this. She drinks tea and coffee throughout the day, and will eat dinner with the family. When she does eat, she will pack the food away if its something she likes. Its almost as if she just doesnt get hungry, more just eats when it suits. Sye is built like a sparrow, but is extremely fit, and never tired from lack of energy.

Do you feel hungry, and surpress it with coffee, or do you simply get to the end of the day and think "oh, I forgot to eat!" ?

I rarely eat breakfast. 10am would he the ideal time for me to have my first meal, but as I am at work, most days I dont hace an opportunity to eat til 11.30/12. I then have dinner at seven. Im the same height and weight as you and I simply couldnt cope on a tin if soupa day.

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FortyDoorsToNowhere · 07/10/2013 18:05

At weekend we do as we have more time.

I am taking on board the suggestions. It has been like this for years now. I don't want to get ill.

I don't tend to binge eat, just have the 1 meal.

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WorraLiberty · 07/10/2013 18:07

YANBU, it is up to you when you eat. You are obviously eating enough, overall, as you are not underweight so it is entirely up to you how you time your meals.

The OP is tired, overweight and suffers from anxiety and panic attacks.

Merely not being underweight, does not mean that she's eating enough.

NotScared · 07/10/2013 18:14

Are you on any medication for PAs? Citalopram can suppress your appetite. It hasn't mine though I still eat. Also suffer PAs and anxiety if not on meds. It's horrendous Thanks