AIBU to want to tell people to F*** the F*** of when they comment on my crying baby in public.

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Colic, reflux, a grouchy baby on the bus..... Why do so many people feel the need to pass judgement on your parenting skills every time your baby crys in public. My own experience range from old women leaning over to shake my buggy all the way to men asking what's wrong with my baby?!! Worst of all, a bus driver warning all boarding passengers that there was a crying baby on the bus.

ps, the good thing was, because she was screaming in my ears, i couldn't hear most of the judging.

It is very hard to see a baby crying & the adult with it doing nothing about it - for the baby's sake, not your own. It's the way humankind is programmed!

Elderly lady did this to my DSis in a supermarket whilst DN was having one of his melt downs. Told her to feed him! DSis was so shocked she just smiled and walked away. We still joke about the old lady waiting around shelves to tell her off for starving him!

I agree that the sound of a crying baby has been designed to be heart rendering but surely no more so than to the mother. When people offer advice in these difficult situations they should consider the fact that poor stressed mother has already thought and tried the basics, e.g 'feed it, cuddle it, put it down for a nap'.

As for rocking the pram or making soothing noises in a crying situation, I feel this would only be for the public to show I'm doing something. As the other mothers of more sensitive/ touchy babies know, doing such things does sweet F* all in a serious crying situation.

I'm don't want to sound overly defensive, just trying to explain that those mothers of the public criers are not heartless cows!

I would never judge a mother with a screaming baby but if it were me I would do my best to comfort my baby to intercept these nosey buggers. But saying that, some old people don't speak to many in the day and it's a way of making conversation.

It's the ones with the toddlers upto school age, last week I met up with a friend in Costa and a load of yummy mummys came in with their offspring. I thought 'Mother and toddlers' have come along way from the days when I used to go, (used to be a freezing church hall). Then one little 'angel' started to demand something and proceeded to scream and cry for the best part of 20 minutes. It literally cleared the shop. I couldn't hear my friend talking to me because the boy was so loud. We went outside. You could see people grimacing and chuntering under their breaths. A poor old lady opposite was sitting there on her own trying to have a little cake and coffee in peace and she left.

It's those little darlings that get on my nerves, not you OP.

oh YANBU

so annoying

why say ANTHING??? there is just no need

I have only had two people make comments when I had a crying baby. the first couple suggested my baby might be comforted by a dummy, I bought one there and then and they were completely right. the second time ds was and 14 months and a lady gave me a full sized mars bar to keep him quiet, it worked!