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AIBU?

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Original poster

to want my neighbour to put her bins out at an earlier time?

33 replies

onlysettleforbutterflies · 01/10/2013 13:54

Sorry dull topic, but I end up in a rage about it every Monday night and thought I should see if its me being silly or if actually she is being a bit thoughtless.

Our bins are collected on Tuesday mornings, majority of people put them out the night before, they aren't allowed to be put out before 7pm,
AIBU to think she should put them out before 11pm and that 11pm is too late for making such a lot of noise?

Every week without fail she does it at 11 or just after, she drags them down the passage between our houses and makes so much noise (sometimes it can be 3 bins) it wakes me and DS (2.9) up every single week. DS starts crying as the noise levels are quite startling and it takes me ages to settle him again, I am sure she must be able to hear him crying.

I am reluctant to mention it to her, as I think she might take it the wrong way and we do normally get on, but she can be a bit funny about things and has fallen out with other neighbours over various things.

I know in the great scheme of things its a minor problem, but it really annoys me!

Ahh its nice to get it out!

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CocacolaMum · 01/10/2013 13:55

YABU, maybe she has a good reason not to do it earlier?

Weeditandreap · 01/10/2013 13:56

Offer to put her bins out when you put yours out?

SillyTilly123 · 01/10/2013 13:57

The man next door to me does them at about 2am! Its not just the bin noise either, he empties all his cans/glasses into it making a right racket, which wakes the dog up who then barks at the noise.

Could you offer to put them out for her when you put yours out?

catsmother · 01/10/2013 13:58

It's not silly - who wants to cause their neighbours any sort of upset if it can easily be avoided ?

It might well have been that she was originally just being literally thoughtless - but if she can hear your DS crying each week then to continue making a load of noise so late is really unnecessary.

However - for the sake of not getting her back up if she is prone to touchiness, I'd approach her with a "don't know if you've heard or not but unfortunately the bins are waking DS up each week and I'd therefore be ever so grateful if you wouldn't mind putting them out before (whenever)".

CocacolaMum · 01/10/2013 13:58

emptying glass bottles into a bin at 2am would put me right on the warpath.

littlemisswise · 01/10/2013 13:59

There's a lot worse things she could be doing at 11pm!

Sometimes DH puts ours out later than that, especially if he is on leave, because we forget what day it is and suddenly remember it's bin day the next day.

YABU.

GhoulWithADragonTattoo · 01/10/2013 13:59

You could ask her if she could do it earlier / the next morning I guess. She probably doesn't realise that it disturbs your DC so much.

littlemisswise · 01/10/2013 14:00

Our neighbour does emptying bottles in to the bin thing too, Silly. Last time it was 2:45am, we were fucking raging!

ElleMorte · 01/10/2013 14:01

Is there a reason she does it so late? I take mine out about that time when I take the dog for a last pee, but I'm mainly trundling mine over grass. If she's working until late, I think the best idea id for you to offer to take hers out and suggest she brings yours in?

specialsubject · 01/10/2013 14:01

most people are utterly clueless about noise and it may not even have occurred to her that it is a problem.

ask her nicely. Or even offer to help do it earlier, when you put yours out. Perhaps she doesn't get home until late.

Jolleigh · 01/10/2013 14:02

YABU.

Plenty of people have perfectly legitimate reasons for their schedules being the way they are. Surely your double glazing at least muffles the noise?

Though I'd say if they were filling a bottle bin and had a noisy dog (as another poster has mentioned) it would cross the line.

Someone has suggested you offer to move their bins? If this is possible, I'd say it's the best way forward.

Chopchopbusybusy · 01/10/2013 14:02

I think the only way to handle it without upsetting her is to offer to put them out earlier for her. Our council also has the rule not to put them out before 6pm. I ignore and put mine out earlier as I work on a Tuesday evening and I don't want to start doing bins at 10pm.

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onlysettleforbutterflies · 01/10/2013 14:05

She doesn't work and seems to be in, so I don't think that's the reason, it just seems to be her job to do before bed thing.

I can't get access to her bins, so unfortunately can't do it it for her.

I realise it could be a lot worse and it is only once a week, but its annoying me all the same.

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hettienne · 01/10/2013 14:05

If it wakes your DS up at 11pm, it'll wake him up at 10pm or 9pm too. Does it make that much difference to you?

ICameOnTheJitney · 01/10/2013 14:07

I think YABU. I put mine out at 11 because I like it full...and if you and your son wake that easily, you might look at some kind of sound proofing.

DoJo · 01/10/2013 14:10

We take ours out last thing at night because that's when everything that needs to go in them is in them. I would be happy to change the time if it was bothering someone else though - you can't really complain if you've never said anything to her.

LessMissAbs · 01/10/2013 14:11

YABU. Its a minor issue, and lasts for a few minutes. Surely you must hear other noises too?

As an excuse, I must say I was driven mad by experiences as a student in Edinburgh - a neighbour complained to the council and we got notes through our doors for putting our bins out at the time you suggest, the night before. Apparently, we were to get up before 7am and put them out then.

Then the binmen split open a bin bag full of newspapers and rubbish and left it littering the garden - I cleaned it up, yet got another note from the council through my door accusing me of littering, because I was a student.

THEN, on buying a flat, I used to be wakened at 6.30am twice a week by the council binmen who were contracted to clear our private bins. Man, that was noisy. I had some very "animated" discussions with them, which resulted in personal insults on their part. I did persuade them to do it at 8am however.

So, in relation to all that, YADBU!

SilverApples · 01/10/2013 14:14

I put my wheelie bin out around midnight before I go to bed, I don't make much noise and it means I get to do a full sweep of the house bins before the collection. We eat around 9pm.
Sometimes I forget and put them out at 6am when I get up.
Neighbours mean the potential for all sorts of annoyances, like small children being noisy in the garden, or wailing in the night.

gobbynorthernbird · 01/10/2013 14:15

She may well not realise she's disturbing you. If she's inclined to be funny with neighbours, just ask her very nicely. Blame the baby for being a poor sleeper if you have to.

SaucyJack · 01/10/2013 14:17

I think YABU. Noise from other people going about their business is just one of those things.

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onlysettleforbutterflies · 01/10/2013 14:19

Lesmisabs I can see why the bin issue is contentious, sounds like you have had your fair share of bin problems!

We're not that light sleepers, its just that part of the passage way goes under our bedrooms, so it amplifies the noise.

Okay I accept IABU, I just need to put up with it. I had no intention of falling out with her over it, I just wanted opinions on whether I was over reacting by getting so annoyed each week, I will try and relax about it now and not see it as being thoughtless, just her doing her jobs when she likes.

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Beastofburden · 01/10/2013 14:23

DS will get used to the noise. And unless she gets back in time to put them before his bedtime (not very likely) it's going to wake him up and make him yell anyway, just at 8pm instead of 11.

She is probably thinking, how can I talk to my annoying neighbour about her blasted kid crying just when I want to go to bed Grin

Have her round for a drink but dont get your hopes up.

OldBeanbagz · 01/10/2013 14:24

I feel your pain.

My neighbour has been know to take his bin to the top of our shared close at 1am in the morning.

Why on earth his wife/teenage son can't do it at a more sensible time is beyond me.

I'd go with gobbynorthernbird's suggestion of blaming it on your DS being a light sleeper and maybe offering to help her put it out earlier.

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onlysettleforbutterflies · 01/10/2013 14:25

Grin Beast, yeah she probably wonders why my DS cries so loudly every Thursday!

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onlysettleforbutterflies · 01/10/2013 14:25

*Monday

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