to be able to tolerate incorrect usage of "...and me"...

[someonestolemynick]

...but to want to gauge my eyes out when people use "...and I" in the wrong place.

It's easy:

Say: "and I" when you would use "I".

I am going to the shop.

You and I are going to the shop.

Say: "and me" when you would use "me" in a sentence.

This is for me.

This is for you and me.

You wouldn't say: "This is for I", so what makes you think a second person makes a difference?

Feeling better already wearing my smug face.

Don't you mean unable to tolerate?

No, I don't mind and incorrect "...and me".

I think people who use "and I" when it should be "and me" get to me, because I think they're over-eagerly trying to avoid mistakes. Possibly even for reasons of un-warranted snobbishness.

Argh!

I find that irritating too.

I think OP is saying they can tolerate and me being used correctly but and I boils her piss.

Bah incorrectly.

Oh yanbu-dh and I roll eyes at each other frequently when someone does this on the telly. Kirstie and Phil are big offenders. Surely someone edits their scripts?

Do you mean gouge your eyes out? Gauge is a different word.

I think you need a nice lay down in a dark room and a hobby.

opposiblethumb well done, you found my token spelling mistake, to show I'm only human

lemonlies and birthday: yay, i might be unreasonable but at least i'm not alone

juney precisely

sockreturningpixie this would most definitely help

no op yanbu I feel the same.
It comes across like people using "I" in that way is because they think saying me is incorrect or bad grammar in any context

And myself is even worse.

Oh, and it's gouge, not gauge

BOF sorry, but opposiblethumb claims that prize.

Agree with you on "myself"

I agree.

It's because people who incorrectly use "...and me" don't realise they're saying it incorrectly, whereas people who incorrectly use "...and I" think they're speaking correctly and have made an effort to do so!

It's on a par with holding your knife like a pen...

Incorrect use of subject and object makes me stabby. They are always doing it on masterchef and it makes me shout at the telly.

And don't get me started on holding knife like pen!

My pretentious ex-boyfriend used to misuse "myself". He had management aspirations and finished with me because I wouldn't make a good manager's wife.

He was right

I generally hate these threads but I am entirely with you.

Some pretentious arse (note, pretentious arses everywhere, this is not how you get your girlfriends' mates on your side) corrected my 'and me' to 'and I' the other day.

AND HE WAS WRONG DAMMIT.

I always think people who do this have Hyacinth tendencies.

Yes, that's it Chaos. It's the Hyacinth tendencies.

I read a fantastic online dating profile the other day where the man prided himself on his education and intelligence. His sentences were verbose, poorly constructed and largely meaningless as a result.

And then he misquoted Oscar Wild [sic]

What an arse!

Totally agree, YANBU. And don't even get me started on "hence why..."

It only ever grates when someone I don't really like says it. A guy at work was on the phone to reception asking if his appointment had arrived, "Has x arrived for my colleague or I". It jarred, but only because I don't like him and I revelled a bit in his public mistake!

Oh yanbu-dh and I roll eyes at each other frequently when someone does this on the telly. Kirstie and Phil are big offenders. Surely someone edits their scripts?

Yes, those 2 are big offenders. Doesn't exactly make me want to gouge my eyes out, but I can't help thinking that all that money on private education was wasted on that pair.

and me/and I i can cope with

it's the myself/yourself that really really winds me up.