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Original poster

Its not okay is it? sitting/ standing in the shopping part of the trolley?

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Feminine · 30/09/2013 11:46

I'm sure this has been done many times.

I'm thinking about it today though Grin

If your child is too big to want or can't fit in the seat part you don't then let them climb in the other part of the trolley?

Filthy dirty feet where I'll put my food.

Standing up (dangerous)

I'm not being unreasonable to suggest that its the seat, or walk right?

I saw this with several families yesterday...it got up my nose Wink

Oh and I know there are germs everywhere... this makes it worse

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BabyDubsEverywhere · 30/09/2013 16:42

To add to my family outing to the shops with all three dc in one trolley - My and DH like to jump on the back and push our separate trolleys in a race if its quiet - and we start at the bakery part and grab a pack of Jam doughnuts to eat on the way round... we do pay for them at the end.

My DC can behave perfectly when we are out (home is a separate issue!) Unfortunately their parents are quite immature and don't get to go out often so get a bit excited in the supermarket!! Grin

But don't worry - non of you will ever encounter me and my rabble with two trolleys being tits in the supermarket - I shop at Asda Wink Grin

Devilforasideboard · 30/09/2013 16:42

DH fell out of a trolley as a small child and has wonky front teeth as a result. Completely preventable accident that has affected him for the rest of his life. How can you be sure your child won't suddenly decide to stand up or start arsing around and why would you take a needless chance on it?

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Feminine · 30/09/2013 16:47

Well obviously Anais

I didn't mean to sound offensive. I apologize. My younger son has mild SN too.

My post was never about parents coping with SN in the supermarket.

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BabyDubsEverywhere · 30/09/2013 16:47

Well one of us has the Dc trolley and one of us has the food trolley - so we are with them all the time - they never stand up - they are lazy buggers like their Father (mother!) Grin

HopeClearwater · 30/09/2013 16:47

Absolutely wasn't being rude. I was deliberately restricting my argument to children without SN so that I (hopefully) wouldn't get a load of posters saying 'But what about children with SN?' Not that all SN children are the same in their supermarket behaviour or abilities, obviously. But OP is just talking about children in trolleys. Children who in all likelihood could just walk about. So AnaisHendricks I'm not talking about SN. I'm not being rude to you. Unless you want to see rudeness where there isn't any.

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Feminine · 30/09/2013 16:50

And annais thinking about it. Why should children with additional needs be 'forced' to ride there anyway? It actually isn't very clean.

I said earlier that more adaptable trolleys/chairs should be made available.

This thread has made me think about that a bit more.

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AnaisHendricks · 30/09/2013 16:50

Actually DS' weekend shoes are cleaner than most. They rarely touch the ground outside. He is also the type to read quietly in the trolley so not too liable to fall out. But I'm aware that's just our individual circumstances Smile

MissDD1971 · 30/09/2013 16:56

Pachacuti - that's so sad. It wasn't that long ago (you can guess my age by my name).

I think hearing loss was not made aware of much nor eyesight.

AnaisHendricks · 30/09/2013 16:58

Your second comment seems reasonable Hope. I must have picked up something in the tone of the first which wasn't there. OP I am certainly in agreement that autistic children shouldn't have to travel this way.

jamdonut · 30/09/2013 17:03

Its not the hygiene aspect that is worrying,it is the safety. I've seen a trolley go over with a child in it. They are not designed for children to ride in the basket part. They are not completely stable,especially if kids are not sitting still and jumping about in them.
My DH works for Tesco, they are expected to challenge people with their children in the basket. How many of them do that, do you think, if they are going to get a lot of grief back from customers? I wouldn't want to ,and yet they can see accidents waiting to happen. Especially on the smaller,not very deep trolleys!
A five year old should be perfectly capable of walking around a store. And definitely an 8 year old!!

HopeClearwater · 30/09/2013 17:04

And yes, though there are many more types of trolleys available than some years ago, I can't think of one that would be suitable to use with a Maclaren Major. Difficult for lots of people.

HopeClearwater · 30/09/2013 17:05

Anais I'm definitely not having a go at you!!

flatmum · 30/09/2013 17:08

I really dont think the hygiene aspect applies - trolleys are left outside in the rain, get fished out of ponds etc so are filthier than the average kid to start with and supermarket food comes wrapped in several layers of cellophane and or cardboard.

Also - someone told me about the trolley guy at their local shopping centre who was regularly seen round the bag pleasuring himself and then going to collect all the stray trolleys ........

I'd rather have a small-child soiled trolley tbh

MissDD1971 · 30/09/2013 17:10

flatmum - thank you for that image I now will not be able to get possible jizz contaminated trollies out of my mind.

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takeitonthegin · 30/09/2013 17:18

It was probably me you passed in the supermarket. Toddler in the actual seat and half way round DS (3yrs and 9 months) decides his legs are tired.

Maybe I should have abandoned my shop there and then, left a trolley full of food for a staff member to put away and left the store, maybe I should have took DS 1 back to the car to sit alone and wait for me or maybe I could sit him in the trolley for 10 minutes while I finished shopping?

HopeClearwater · 30/09/2013 17:29

Oh come on!! They all say their legs are tired!! Say oh dear, mine are too, just a bit longer now and then we will be out of here. Or whatever. His legs being tired doesn't mean they'll stop working. You can deal with this!!

AnaisHendricks · 30/09/2013 17:31

Hope, sorry, I'm probably still feeling defensive after last night's thread on which me and several other posters were told to stop complaining about disablist language.

Thankfully deleted due to use of disablist language Grin

HopeClearwater · 30/09/2013 17:34

Anais how horrible for you. Sad

breatheslowly · 30/09/2013 17:40

There is a significant risk of falling out and supermarket floors are very hard. I won't let my DD ride in the main part of the trolley as I don't want her to have permanent damage from falling out. She either walks or goes in the seat. Other parents letting their children ride in the trolley make life difficult. Last week a man let his two children (about 5 & 7) hop in and out, stand on the sides, swing from the handle and generally act like monkeys on his trolley. My DD had a meltdown over it. Obviously that is my problem but it was very frustrating.

takeitonthegin · 30/09/2013 17:42

hope he rarely says it actually, usually walks round fine despite not even being 4 and I have never had to make the decision before. I did tell him to suck it up and walk but after lots of asking and a major meltdown, I decided to put him in, as we were at the end of the shop.

I would do the same again in a heartbeat if it was the same situation. People criticise regardless...child has a tantrum so you tell them to suck it up...people tut and criticise, put them in the trolley to prevent another major meltdown and people criticise. Cant please everyone.

MeAndMySpoon · 30/09/2013 17:53

I can trump children who ought to be walking round under control standing in trolleys - a few weeks ago I was in Waitrose and a mother was in the process of lifting a McLaren buggy (i.e. smallish) into one of those 'high' trolleys - the ones you don't have to bend into to get to the bottom. Her toddler must have been, I dunno, nearly 3? She lifted the buggy up into the trolley, he sitting strapped in the whole time, and then pushed the trolley off. His head was higher than hers! And no room for anything else in the trolley. I thought she was so barking I might have muttered something as I went past.

HopeClearwater · 30/09/2013 17:55

takeitonthegin I do remember those days. I was pretty good at ignoring people who tut at children having meltdowns. Having said that, there are plenty of people out there who will smile at you sympathetically! I find the very old ladies are the ones who are the most tolerant, funnily enough.

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Feminine · 30/09/2013 17:59

takeit was the seat broken?

You say he is 3 yrs 9 months?

That is quite old enough to walk. My youngest is 4, she has to walk or sit in the seat. My daughter is not the easiest of characters.
If the eldest children are 'trained' it makes it a hell of a lot easier when the others come along Wink

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Feminine · 30/09/2013 18:01

Sorry , I just saw you had another one in the actual seat.

Still he is almost 4 , be starting school next year I presume?

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takeitonthegin · 30/09/2013 18:05

feminine Yes, as per my post, there was a toddler in the seat (DC2). He is fairly well trained thanks and yes this was in readiness for the arrival of DC2. DS1 usually walks beautifully and I've never had to make the decision before to put him in the trolley, but yesterday was one of those days and there was no reasoning. Its not nice to think that so many people would make a snap decision about our parenting and child based on seeing him in a trolley for 10 minutes. Hope im never as judgmental as that.

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