To be pissed off about DH ruining my new vans...

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Got these:
www.google.co.uk/search?q=vans+slim+yellow&client=safari&hl=en-gb&tbm=isch&tbo=u&source=univ&sa=X&ei=bqpEUuKQK6ny7AbN14HoAQ&ved=0CDEQsAQ&biw=320&bih=505&dpr=2#biv=i%7C10%3Bd%7CUriOH_-7QmZgeM%3A
And I love them. Wore them once, kept them immaculate. Husband wore them out (despite me asking him not to). Went to a nightclub and now they are filthy, covered in black stains and booze despite best efforts to clean them. Grrrrrrr! Am I being unreasonable to kill him for destroying my new face shoes?

Mind you, it could be worse. Before I opened the thread I thought this was about vehicles for the transportation of goods. Which would be a lot more expensive to replace or fix up.

I always thought they were more men's shoes than women's and mostly seen them on teenagers.

My OH has done similar...we are both size 6 so he pinched my Van Trainers and has worn them out in a year ...I had previously had them 10 years with hardly any wear on them. He is now banned from my trainer stack.

Whats with all the "OMG, how on earth can a man fit into your shoes?" stuff? Hardly the oddest thing possible, is it?

He did look good in them, he is a very trendy chap. Lol at the teenage marriage, I'm 30 and he is just about to turn 40!

He is going to replace them. Although when that will happen nobody knows.

And as for being gay, he would have caught that from sharing a bedroom with his big gay brother during his teens I would imagine. I suspect I am safe in the knowledge that he prefers a lady. Although I am tall with big fee tang a gruff voice and I swear like a trooper, maybe he didn't realise I was a lady?

Is he normally so disrespectful to you?

You asked him not to take something of yours, he took it anyway and wrecked it. You are incredibly tolerant, I would be really angry that my husband thought he had the right to totally ignore and overrule me.

Damn right he replaces the shoes so that you get the new pair. He can keep the old ones
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He wore your shoes without your permission and ruined them.

He owes you a new pair of shoes.

"My husband has smaller feet than me it's not uncommon"

Sorely it is. Not in any judgement or insulting way but in the literal meaning of the wire I would have thought it uncommon.

IF you borrow something of someone else's and break/ruin it-you should fix it or replace it.

no, its literally not uncommon. Lots of men are the same height as women, lots of women are taller than men, shoe size tends to correlate with height, having the same size feet or smaller than your missus is not at all unusual.

The problem with replacing them is that the money will come out of family money anyway - he could've bought his own pair then.

I think it's really disrespectful to take your things and destroy them. I know you're being a bit flippant about it, but I wouldn't be - you bought them, you liked them, you asked him not to borrow them, he did borrow them and he destroyed them. He did a really horrible thing there, OP.