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Oh god, I'm going to have to kill her aren't I?

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Ozziegirly · 24/09/2013 08:14

My MIL and FIL are here, are lovely, have given me loads of time off from kids, have been fab in every way, but earlier MIL called my 9mo DS a "sexy little man" and earlier said "that's a sexy little laugh".

Obviously after I threw up in my mouth a little and wahed my ears with bleach, I didn't actually SAY anything, but omg if she says it again I shall have to kill her. Which is a shame as she is nice.

Sigh

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Ireallymustbemad · 24/09/2013 09:24

Yes you are actually going to have to kill her, I'm sorry, Just explain to DH that MN told you to do it, it'll be fine Grin.

In reality, I have a friend that does this and it is really grim. She just thinks of it along the lines of cute but I can't stand the use of that word in relation to kids, it is just wrong. This friend ordinarily is lovely, no other 'dodgy' things but it makes me cringe each time.

Wishfulmakeupping · 24/09/2013 09:27

I've had this with my dsis and sil calling my baby dd 'sexy girlie' FFS really?! My dsis has been warned never again but I'm hopefully my horrified reaction was enough to stop sil saying it again urghhh 'sexy'

CeliaFate · 24/09/2013 09:31

Just ask the person who says it, "Do you know sexy means sexually arousing?" and smile benignly.

MadBusLady · 24/09/2013 09:41

They must know it means sexually arousing. Surely the clue is in the... word Confused I must be getting old.

CeliaFate · 24/09/2013 09:44

I think the word has been appropriated by people to mean gorgeous. Like "lush", bears no relation to the dictionary meaning.

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Ozziegirly · 24/09/2013 09:45

Thanks for making me throw up again at the thought of calling my FIL "sexy man" Grin

I mean, she's 70 and NORMAL and just a nice oldish lady. Why why why?

I am slightly on edge waiting for the next "sexy". Aieee

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eatriskier · 24/09/2013 09:46

it seems such a shame to waste a good mil. I agree with the water bottle technique. if that fails then I am afraid she has to go.

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Ozziegirly · 24/09/2013 09:47

Why not "cute" or "sweet" or "adoreable" or "lovely"? There are a plethora of words to describe a baby, none of which involve any sexual desire at all.

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HesterShaw · 24/09/2013 09:50

Oh God how horrid. Surely the definition of "sexy" means, well you know. So clearly she doesn't see her grandchild as sexy. WHY SAY IT THEN WOMAN?

anon2013 · 24/09/2013 12:52

I'd say "he must get it from his sexy grandma" every time she says it Wink

TheBigJessie · 24/09/2013 13:07

Act really Shock, as if you didn't notice her saying it the other times, and then threaten to give her name and photograph to Rebekah Wade if she says it again. Grin

Inertia · 24/09/2013 13:15

Why on earth didn't you say anything?

Just keep telling her how creepy and inappropriate it sounds.

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Ozziegirly · 24/09/2013 13:40

Well I was taken aback and obv grossed out and was about to say "sexy? Yuk, he's 9 months old!" And I realised that she would be hurt and sad that she'd offended me and as I like her I don't want to make her feel hurt and sad.

But if she says it again I'm going down the "sexy! Heheh, granny means cute doesn't she, a baby can't be sexy, that would just be weird"

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IceBeing · 24/09/2013 13:51

that is an awesome response! Go to it!

MissDD1971 · 24/09/2013 13:54

Say you think calling her grandson "sexy" is verging on incestuous.

Or another thing - say you don't mind if he's called "bonny, handsome, cute" etc but that sexy has other connotations to you that you'd rather not go down....

also if she insists then just say pointedly that you'd rather she didn't refer to him in sexual terms and that she should wash her filthy mouth out LOL Grin

MissDD1971 · 24/09/2013 13:56

CeliaFate - EXCELLENT.

But maybe this grandma is one of those who is oblivious to the word's meaning and heaven help OP if she carries on regardless.

lifesgreatquestions · 24/09/2013 13:58

Bang together some pans loudly in a frightening way, or pinch her and scream, each time she does it. She'll learn.

boschy · 24/09/2013 14:01

My MIL is not that nice, but has never referred to our DC as 'sexy'.

Can I kill her anyway? Grin

Alisvolatpropiis · 24/09/2013 14:03

Yes,it's a necessary evil.

NorbertDentressangle · 24/09/2013 14:03

I've heard people use 'sexy' in this way a lot in the Midlands.

Is that where she's from by any chance?

MummyBeerest · 24/09/2013 14:08

Eww. Gross.

If it happens a third time, yes, kill her.

Beastofburden · 24/09/2013 14:21

ewww.

She has to die.

Or snog your OH, in front of her, with tongues. Gross out his own mother with the thought of her little boy being sexy.

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Ozziegirly · 24/09/2013 15:02

Nope, she's Irish (but lived in the south of england most of her life). Can't even blame it on geography...

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SoleSource · 24/09/2013 15:34

Put blue dye in the water bottle spray

Linerunner Grin

Beastofburden · 24/09/2013 15:36

you could of course ask her lots of deeply personal questions about her own sex life...

bless her, she's not thinking, is she? she sounds a nice lady, I think your original idea of a gentle pisstake is the best one.

if she carries on, bribe your DS (once he can talk) to ask innocently, "Granny, what's sex?"