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To have lied about ds's diet to these Mums at a birthday party after I saw their reaction when I fed my DS some cake with icing?

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Teeheeheeheee · 22/09/2013 16:54

I gave my nearly 2 year old some cake with icing on top and a mother exclaimed:

"You're giving your son sugar?!!!!"

So I sat there and lied that I give him all sorts of junk food because he won't eat fruit or vegetables like his sister just to relish the shocked look on their faces.

Then I was asked if I thought I parented differently and was more laid back with the second child by one of them who was pregnant with her second. I said yes, because I give him every biscuit and crisp he asks for. . The woman didn't talk to me properly for the rest of the time and gave me strange looks.

Am I bad?! I blame MN for giving me the confidence to do things like this :)

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Teeheeheeheee · 22/09/2013 17:27

Tee he'd already drank about 2.5 cups of orange squash infront of them and handfuls of cheesy puffs and quavers .

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ToysRLuv · 22/09/2013 17:36

DS had his first taste of (iced) cake soon after he started BLW at 6 months. I think the woman would have fainted with disgust.

edam · 22/09/2013 17:40

what on earth does the daft cow do with cake - lick the icing off before giving it to her son? (More likely just scoffs it herself... which would be fine and dandy if she didn't lecture other people.)

mrsjay · 22/09/2013 17:42

good for you next time tell them you also put sugar all over his coco pops as he finds them a bit bland

mrsjay · 22/09/2013 17:43

the birthday party mum must feel the same as you cos she provided cake

SkinnybitchWannabe · 22/09/2013 17:45

Brilliant response...Well done

HeartsTrumpDiamonds · 22/09/2013 17:46

I how I wish I had been there just to see the expressions on their faces! Well done OP.

Tee2072 · 22/09/2013 17:47

I'm surprised her head didn't explode TeeHee.

PoppyWearer · 22/09/2013 17:47

Arf.

My BIL recoiled in horror recently when I tried to give DN2 (aged 18mo) some cake at a family party. "Oh no, we don't let them have sugar", he said, pulling a catsbumface.

This was after an otherwise-healthy/balanced meal.

(Yeah, well BIL, maybe you should tell that to MIL who minds your DCs all the time and pours sugar, sweets and crap - fruit shoots? tick! - down their necks constantly.)

Jellybeanz1 · 22/09/2013 17:50

Finola I love this haha..........,
don't forget the deep fried mars bars

picnicbasketcase · 22/09/2013 18:01

For fucking fucks sake, never giving kids sugar is just going to make them obsessed with it when they're old enough to buy their own food. I know a few people who were never allowed sweets as a child - they are variously addicted to Red Bull, chocolate, and take six sugars in a coffee. Everything in moderation! It's called 'too much' of something for a reason. People are mad.

That probably made no sense but judging and hysteria over a bit of birthday cake is just bloody stupid.

weirdthing · 22/09/2013 18:02

I am the product of a sugar free/knitted lentil/apple for breaktime when everyone else got a biscuit childhood. I am a size 18 and cannot walk past a biscuit. It became a bigger thing than food - it became about rewarding/loving myself etc It's become really fucked up. My kids can eat whatever they want and thus can take a biscuit, eat 1 bite and leave the rest or ask for a fruit salad when they're out rather than cake. Food doesn't have all those loaded messages that it does for me and I am really glad. All those po-faced food-nazi mummies really fuck me off. I often think it's less to do with the child and more to do with one-up-manship anyway.

Lavenderhoney · 22/09/2013 18:09

A birthday cake with icing at a party? How unusual! Did they have their own organic carrots for their dc? Well done op, I think I would have mumbled " well, its a party" and slunk off:)

I was at a wedding once and there was a lovely chocolate cake on the table being sliced - plenty to go round. As I got the front of the queue, the bride snapped at me " that chocolate cake is for the adults. Children can have the carrot cake" ds looked horrorstruck:)

So I said, " its ok ds, lets take the chocolate cake for me, and I will share a bit with you" thinking the bride was worried there wasn't enough to go round.

The bride turned on her heel back towards me and shouted(!) " I said no chocolate cake for children! No sharing! Put it back!" Lunatic. We left shortly after.

PoppyWearer · 22/09/2013 18:25

I am also the product of a household where we were mostly only allowed carob chocolate (bleurgh) and going to eat fast food was deemed a "treat".

I'm not huge in size, but I do find it incredibly difficult to walk past a bar of chocolate in a shop or past a Burger King without a strong urge to go in.

Everything in moderation. Agree completely.

plentyofsoap · 22/09/2013 18:30

Birthday cake at a birthday party! What is the world coming too.

gintastic · 22/09/2013 18:32

Goodness, they'd hate me! I let my 10mo eat chips in the pub...

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 22/09/2013 18:36

PoppyWearer and weirdthing - my mum was very co trolling about food - what we ate, portion sizes, sweets etc - and I have grown up with a very dysfunctional relationship with food, that has undoubtedly contributed hugely to my obesity.

ep1977 · 22/09/2013 18:40

This is what puts me off spending any time with my dd s friends mums outside of school. The one-upmanship does my head in. Everyone lies about what they do and say the most ridiculous things.. a party is a treat not an everyday occurrence. Let them eat cake I say!!

ChunkyPickle · 22/09/2013 18:43

Minidipper - DS had his first ever Mr Whippy at a similar age, and we had plenty of disapproving looks (luckily no interference)

Perhaps they were even worse because he was wearing reins at the time too!

Is it wrong that I was so proud of him when he fell over while eating it, but kept his arm raised, and ice-cream safe (rugby player saving his pint style)?

Rachel778 · 22/09/2013 18:45

Hahaha good on you OP.

Some parents are just ever so "precious" I note . .

EhricLovesTeamQhuay · 22/09/2013 18:47

Lavender that is insane! Did you put the cake back?

NaturalBaby · 22/09/2013 18:50

Have their children never eaten a baby rusk? They've got sugar in. Fruit? Packed with sugar.

Where were you? Are you likely to see these mothers again to wind them up further? Why can't I meet mothers like that? Such fun.

TrucksAndDinosaurs · 22/09/2013 18:56

A woman grabbed an egg sandwich off DS at a party when he was almost 1 after asking his age.
Said he shouldn't have eggs or wheat.
It turned out she had made the sandwiches. For her GS birthday party: he was 1.

BrianButterfield · 22/09/2013 18:57

I'm happy parents round here aren't like that - I've been to half a dozen 2nd birthday parties this summer so have seen a lot of 2-year-olds stuffing their faces with cake, party rings, own-brand crisps and Fruit Shoots. No cat's bum faces here, either, everyone just laughed at them cramming in as a much junk as possible! DS (who is not exactly treat-deprived) was the last one to finish eating every time, too.

honeybeeridiculous · 22/09/2013 19:30

love it! my SIL didn't let her DC consume junk of any kind when they were preschool age, she used to bring carrot sticks and carob shit to parties, my niece is now in her 20's and extremely overweight, as soon as she left home she stuffed her face with all the crap she could get her hands on! At Easter their eggs used to last till August, they used to share a mars bar between 4 of them

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