To think that MIL has just been outrageously rude?

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MIL is visiting for a couple of days to meet newborn grandson. (9 days old)

There have been all sorts of issues with MIL who has had lots of personality problems and a chaotic lifestyle. DH has gone no contact with her on and off. She's here on grace tbh

She can be lovely and funny, jokey and warm too. No recent issues but I have just come in from hanging washing out, the neighbours dog was barking...

When I came in she said 'was that you barking in the garden periodfeatures?' and laughed.

I said 'i'm just going to pretend you didnt say that' she said she was only joking....

DH said that she was joking and probably didn't realise what she had said. He did say he'd have a word with her but I said I'd let it go.

I'm

letting it go but honestly can someone really say that as a 'joke'? am I being uppity to feel all tight lipped and offended?

I know exactly what you mean, OP!

My MIL is a very difficult person, and so if she says something like that to me, I wouldn't find it funny, whereas if almost anyone else in the world did, I probably would.

So vent away! But to us, not to her!

Eh? Are you limplying that she was calling you a dog?

I think you've got baby-mentia and have lost your sense of humour and your sense of perspective.

It was nothing. Get over yourself. Congratulations on your baby boy btw.

I think you've come in for some harsh criticism OP

Whilst I'm not sure your MIL meant to be as rude as she sounded (it was a crap joke), it was a hurtful thing that most normal people would think twice about saying.

So I think it's her

It wasn't funny so I'm not sure it was a great joke

If this was a one - off then it'd be easier to see it as a joke and just laugh it off

When somebody has a history of swearing in your face, and violence, and behaviour which has led to cutting contact, then this sort of comment is likely to make you feel uncomfortable. And you are tired and sensitive anyway. Tbh I think your response was fine.

It was an ill thought through joke but not outrageously rude. Repeatedly calling you a 'skanky slut-whore' in front of people would be my idea of outrageously rude but not this, no.

I'd think it was funny and probably would have replied "yes having you here for 9 days is making me barking mad".

I was sooooooo hormonal after birth I would have turned round and said

"OK - so which am I, in your humble opinion, a bitch or a dog!"

I think your being a little over sensitive. Chill out.

My grey matter wouldn't even register "jokes" as unfunny as that, far less spend time getting steamed up replaying it.

But you know the history.

I also think you're being oversensitive on this as a stand alone remark. But hey you had a baby only days ago and you're mil is staying with you That allows you to be as oversensitive as you like.

I had my dc years ago and mil's seemingly inoffensive comments still wind me up no end. Often it's not the comment taken in isolation but all the other things that have gone before which skew them into a different light.