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Original poster

To be pissed of with a yr 6 child strangling my 6 year old...

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ghostspirit · 20/09/2013 20:41

My 6 year old had to go breakfast club this morning he has only ever been once before today and that was couple of years ago. and a child from year 6 strangled him. I spoke to the head about it and she agreed its not on. anyway i went to pick up my older son from keystage 2. and she walked up to the boy and told him stop messing about with your orange then she just walked of and did not say a thing to him....and because of all that being on my mind i forgot my 3 year old and almost went home without her!

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Vivacia · 20/09/2013 20:50

I think you should put all of that in to a letter, and point out how bad it is that she made you forget your three year old.

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ghostspirit · 20/09/2013 20:51

lol me forgetting her not their fault was just ranting

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Vivacia · 20/09/2013 20:51

And write a letter to the strangler's mum, about the strangling and the orange peel.

DoJo · 20/09/2013 20:52

I'm not sure I really understand your post - do you mean that the head said they would discipline the child who strangled yours but didn't do it in front of you? Perhaps they thought it was inappropriate to address them whilst you were there.

Vivacia · 20/09/2013 20:54

Also, it's not right that your son had to go to breakfast club, especially if he gets strangled. Your the mum, it should be your choice.

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ghostspirit · 20/09/2013 20:54

true... i do need to give it a chance to see if anything happens

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Vivacia · 20/09/2013 20:54

Argh, "you're the mum".

Sirzy · 20/09/2013 20:55

I am lost as to what happened.

Perhaps the head chose to deal with it later. Perhaps he wanted to talk to the breakfast club staff before diving in.

bundaberg · 20/09/2013 20:57

yes i agree, the head wouldn't necessarily have gone and told the boy off straight away.
i suspect she'll want to talk to the people running the breakfast club to see how they dealt with it/if they were aware of it and then will take it from there

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ghostspirit · 20/09/2013 20:57

true sirzy i just have to wait i guess. what has pissed me of more if the fact that it was a year 6 on to a year 2

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littlewhitebag · 20/09/2013 20:58

What exactly do you mean by 'strangle' and did this happen this time or the last time 2 years ago? And what do the orange and the 3 year old have to do with anything? Confused

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ghostspirit · 20/09/2013 21:00

lat time 2 years ago??? what you mean... it just seemed it was more important to talk to him about an orange than it was about what he had done to my child... but as others have said i guess if i was still around it would have been difficult

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Vivacia · 20/09/2013 21:01

It was the three year old's orange that the year six was eating, I think.

propertyNIGHTmareBEFOREXMAS · 20/09/2013 21:05

Your son was strangled. That is very bad and yes, kick off about that. I would follow it up with head in a week and ask for confirmation that the strangler has been spoken to and your 6yr old apologised to.

lizzzyyliveson · 20/09/2013 21:06

Send the Head an email asking for a follow-up to your verbal complaint. It is a serious matter as the breakfast club staff should have been aware and they clearly weren't. Mention that your child does not feel safe at the school now. This will flag to the Head that you are unhappy and that you will be ticking the wrong boxes if Ofsted arrive.

littlewhitebag · 20/09/2013 21:07

But i still don't actually know what happened. Strangle is a very emotive work. He obviously did not kill your DS so did he hold him tightly, what did he use, was your son injured, was it a game? So much more information needed here.

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ghostspirit · 20/09/2013 21:09

thank you lizzyy i will do that.

littlewhitebag no he was not killed that does not mean he was not hurt though. you dont say lets wait till his dead then i will complain...

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littlewhitebag · 20/09/2013 21:12

No, i don't mean that at all, but strangle can mean so many things and i have no idea what actually happened. I work in a job where i need to get to the bottom of things and find out exact details. I could never, ever accept the notion of 'strangling' without being precise about what happened.

Vivacia · 20/09/2013 21:13

It's curious that the staff did not notice, but the OP did. Why didn't you stop the Strangler?

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ghostspirit · 20/09/2013 21:13

well i asked my son to show me what he did on my arm and her got both his hands and squeezed my arm really hard...

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littlewhitebag · 20/09/2013 21:14

I assume this was around the neck. Is he marked at all?

Original poster
ghostspirit · 20/09/2013 21:16

not now but this was between 7.45 and 8.30

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poppingin1 · 20/09/2013 21:17

Oh my god!

A child strangled yours Shock

When i see threads like this one it makes me nervous about my DD starting school. Thank goodness she is only 2.

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ghostspirit · 20/09/2013 21:17

oh yes and round the neck

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Alisvolatpropiis · 20/09/2013 21:18

What the older child did was wrong - Yanbu

Yabu to expect the child to be disciplined in front of you.