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Does this deserve a headbutting?

32 replies

MintyChops · 16/09/2013 10:07

My DS1 has just started school and there is a little girl in his class whose mum I know, not very well but quite well. This morning she was complaining that the school hadn't given enough notice to parents of a coffee morning this morning as they had only sent notes home on Thursday about it. I said well there was a notice on the door all last week. She went quiet then said "it might be worth mentioning these things to me so I know about them"!

WIBU to have headbutted her?

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DaleyBump · 16/09/2013 10:08

YABU. Drop her and move on.

McNewPants2013 · 16/09/2013 10:09

why headbutt her, there are a million notices on DD school door. I really dont have time to read them.

Thankgod for the school's facebook page.

nancerama · 16/09/2013 10:11

YABU to waste your energy managing her diary, or indeed head butting her.

Boaty · 16/09/2013 10:11

Serious question...do you think she saw it and it didn't register or maybe she can't read herself? Maybe notes home are read to her...

BrianTheMole · 16/09/2013 10:11

I never notice those notes they stick on the door. Although its not down to you to tell her but yes YABU for wanting to headbutt her.

ImTooHecsyForYourParty · 16/09/2013 10:14

Did she mean you should mention these things to her (in which case she's off her rocker, it's not your responsibility to make sure she's personally aware of everything that happens in the school) or that she thinks the school should have at some point said hey parents, we put notices up on the door, remember to look out for them (in which case yes, they should have. Schools have loads of crap pasted all over every wall, door and window, it's easy to think it's not actually aimed at you Grin )

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MintyChops · 16/09/2013 10:22

No she definitely said it meaning I should have told her. It was like she was ticking off an employee! I said mmmmm, it's a good idea to have a look at what's posted on the door in case it happens to you again.

She definitely does not have issues with reading, she owns her own company, has 2 degrees etc. maybe she got confused and forgot that I'm not her PA....

I wouldn't actually have headbutted her by the way, it just irked me this Monday morning.

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Dobbiesmum · 16/09/2013 10:26

Our school is wonderful for getting messages to parents, truly stunning at it.
They have a huge notice board that's kept up to date constantly with all the latest news.
Unfortunately the school is a large site with 3 exits for the children plus the office entrance, none of which are anywhere near the notice board. The parents don't stand near it to wait for the children and it's not on the route used for getting in or out of the playground. You have to make a detour to have a look at it, which is fab when it's pissing down and blowing a gale...
Truly outstanding..

Dobbiesmum · 16/09/2013 10:26

Oops, sorry, meant to say YANBU, cheeky mare should have checked herself!

Fakebook · 16/09/2013 10:33

It's just a bloody coffee morning Confused...what's so important about it? Do people really attend these and are gutted about missing them?

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MintyChops · 16/09/2013 10:38

Her DD is an only child and this woman and the husband are there together for the drop off and usually both again for collection. They are very protective of her (don't take their eye off her at birthday parties for example) and she already does tennis, swimming, some sort if creative art class thing (she is 5). She seemed upset that she is missing it and asked me to let her know what is said by the teacher even though her DH is going, "in case he misses anything". Bonkers.

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OctopusPete8 · 16/09/2013 10:40

I thought someone had actually been headbutted?

I feel mislead and deprived of jeremy kyle goodness :'(

FruOla · 16/09/2013 10:43

"asked me to let her know what is said by the teacher even though her DH is going, "in case he misses anything". Bonkers."

Mmmm, yes, I think she must think that you are her PA!

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MintyChops · 16/09/2013 10:43

Sorry Octopus, I could give it a whirl at pick up time if that helps?

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MintyChops · 16/09/2013 10:45

FruOla Perhaps as I am a SAHM she thinks I have nothing better to do than her admin?

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ImTooHecsyForYourParty · 16/09/2013 10:48

I really do think you should nip this in the bud. Make it clear that you are not her PA.

If you don't, then don't complain if you suffer years of this Grin

Floggingmolly · 16/09/2013 11:03

She's too used to having staff, by the sound of things. Nip it in the bud now, or she'll have you assume the role of chief bottle washer to both her and her dd.

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MintyChops · 16/09/2013 11:05

Hecsy, was hoping my "have a look on the door so you don't miss anything else" would let her know that am not her PA but perhaps I need to be more forceful. Are you endorsing a headbutt? (Just need one person to agree with me.....)

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ImTooHecsyForYourParty · 16/09/2013 11:06

Nah. A kick to the shin should do it. Grin

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MintyChops · 16/09/2013 11:06

molly, perhaps you think I should?

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MintyChops · 16/09/2013 11:07

Shit! Am going to be late for bloody thing now....

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PTFO · 16/09/2013 11:15

YABU. Your kidding right?! How does something like headbutting some women even go through your head!! move on and stay away from her if she really pushes you to that level!

EldritchCleavage · 16/09/2013 11:32

Headbutting is too much. Just scrape your foot down her shin like footballers do when they want sneaky revenge..

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MintyChops · 16/09/2013 12:23

Yes PTFO I am kidding.

Shins, eh Eldritch and Hecsy? (bows to experience)

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DaleyBump · 16/09/2013 17:15

You could always make stuff up to mess with her.