Whenever I go out for a night out, it's always a MASSIVE deal to dh. I have to prepare to ask him because I know there will be hours of huffyness.
I don't go out without him that often, maybe once every 4/5 weeks and when I do I am very rarely out past 1am.
If he wants to go out I always say 'yeah sure have a nice time' I'll ask him a rough time he'll be home but that's just so I know, that's not me telling him to be home by a certain time.
When I ask to go out I get 'oh I thought we were going to be spending the evening together? We never see each other' (not true, I see him every evening after work obviously, not really sure how much more time we can spend together without him quitting his job?!) and usually I'll say ok fine I won't go, then I'll get a huffy 'no its fine, what time will you be back? It won't be past midnight will it? Why don't you get the half 11 bus. Can you make sure you're on that bus' etc and then he'll be in a mood until I go out, but say he's not.
He recently went on a business trip (like team building type thing) in a very posh, nice hotel. I stayed at home with the kids who misbehaved so badly I spent the evenings crying until I went to sleep.
I was meant to go out with course mates yesterday but decided to stay in with him instead as I hadn't seen him for a few days. But same course mates are going out again tonight and I want I go because I need to just get away from the house, the kids are really playing up at the moment and I just need to be somewhere else for a while you know? We had no other plans tonight other than staying in and watching tv and I'm almost weighing up the whether its worth the fuss of his moodiness.
I will also say that to be fair I am going out next week for freshers (which tbh was almost not worth tha hassle but I was determined).
In other aspects he's great, does more than his fair share on his days, offlooks after us etc.
I can't work out if I am being unreasonable. He doesn't go out much but he never seems to want to, but when he does I tell him to go have a good time. He's never turned around and said 'yeah sure go out have a nice time' it's always a massive effort. I don't understand his objection, I could understand if it was every week/2 weeks but its not!