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Original poster

To think 'D'P is a grown man?

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ParisianTrialByFire · 14/09/2013 03:08

And not a teenager who has just discovered alcohol?

It's bad enough that I had to cancel my night out because of his work do. But then he comes home stupidly drunk, proceeds to fall asleep across 3/4 of the bed, then gets snippy when I a) ask him to move so I can get into bed and b) ask him to catch a daddy long legs that got into our room, because they completely freak me out.

All this because the girls from his work made him do shots. I'm not buying it. He could have refused. Surely he should know his limits by the time he's 30!

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OldLadyKnowsNothing · 14/09/2013 03:11

And you're how old and you need a man to sort out a completely harmless insect? A drunk man? There are deeper issues here. LTB.

AgentZigzag · 14/09/2013 03:19

I would get DH up from his death bed if there was a whopping spider in the room OldLady Grin

It depends on how many times he does this Paris, occasionally, or every weekend/month?

Occasionally would be OKish, but all the time's probably a bit wearing.

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ParisianTrialByFire · 14/09/2013 03:20

I'm 23. I know it's an irrational fear. Doesn't change the fact that I hate the damn things.

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ParisianTrialByFire · 14/09/2013 03:25

Zigzag, it's at least once a month. It just bothers me that I spend all day cooking, cleaning and looking after a toddler, then I have to cancel my own free time, and then he doesn't even have the decency to come home in a relatively sober state.

Looks like I'll be up all night. I swear, if he complains about a hangover, I'll redefine throwing the book.

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OldLadyKnowsNothing · 14/09/2013 03:33

OK, Paris, you are quite rightly pissed off with him. I was joking when I said LTB, but you two have to have a very serious discussion.

AgentZigzag · 14/09/2013 03:35

I got told I was childish because I didn't want a medium sized spider on me, (even though me not being keen didn't impact on the person saying it in any way ).

Why does not liking something mean I'm childish/immature? Confused

I loathe big ones, but only a bit bleargh about smaller ones, and I did say that to her and it doesn't make me childish (which is such a put down, she may as well have said I was showing off/attention seeking). She must have been thinking about it because she text to apologise later on, and she never texts me Grin

I would also be unreasonably irritable if DH asked me to do something after a few bevvies and I was trying to lapse into unconsciousness get to sleep.

Don't ask him to move, shove him Wink

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ParisianTrialByFire · 14/09/2013 03:42

Ha, wish I could! He's a great bear of a man at the best of times, and he turns into a great lump of dead weight when he's asleep. I'd have more luck shifting everest.

I got "for god sake, woman!", followed by some garbled nonsense about a lift. That'll be the booze Hmm

OldLady, I know. I always get defensive over my fears. I do apologise for snapping.

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AgentZigzag · 14/09/2013 03:48

Daddy long legs are just so random in their flight plans though aren't they?

I am glad I'm not fussed with them because if the eight legged freaks flew about like that I'd be a gelatinous mess spring/autumn.

But DLL's are as thick as shit, easy to get them out.

What's your DH got to say about his monthly indulgence Paris?

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ParisianTrialByFire · 14/09/2013 03:59

Right now, not much [tired smile] it's never his fault, according to him. It's always other people buying him drinks or making him stay at the pub. And to think I would ever consider sleeping in my own bed a luxury!

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MisselthwaiteManor · 14/09/2013 05:37

Starfish on the bed before he comes home and let him sleep on the floor.

Roshbegosh · 14/09/2013 06:20

She can't LTB because then what will happen if a daddy long legs comes in the house. That is a new reason to keep a marriage together.

LindyHemming · 14/09/2013 06:27

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Screwfox · 14/09/2013 06:30

Christ. At 23. You sound about 80

HarryTheHungryHippo · 14/09/2013 06:37

And you're how old and you need a man to sort out a completely harmless insect?

Lucky you, guess your not scared of anything?
Arachnophobia is just that,a phobia. Irrational or not its completely different from choosing to get fucked out your face on alcohol.

Roshbegosh · 14/09/2013 06:58

Well harry she could get treatment. It's not a reason that justifies husband being constantly available, on guard and sober for daddy long legs duty. That's just fucking mad.

MissMarplesBloomers · 14/09/2013 06:58

Why did you have to cancel your night out?

Get a babysitter next time & tell him to sleep on the sofa.!!

SilverApples · 14/09/2013 07:07

It's irritating to have a partner who comes home very drunk.
I've done this a few times, OH doesn't drink.
Was the works do at very short notice, after your arranged night out? Why did you cancel and have you rearranged it?
You need to discuss why he's pissed once a month, and what you'd like to change. He sounds immature and you sound somewhat martyred.

KatieScarlett2833 · 14/09/2013 07:20

I'm sorry.
I will deal with spiders, snakes, wasps, mozzies, etc. without a blink.
Daddy long legs and moths freak the fuck out of me though. I will run from any room if either are present.

mayorquimby · 14/09/2013 10:03

With the yabu camp
He's come home drunk and gone to sleep.

Alisvolatpropiis · 14/09/2013 10:42

Yabu

So you're saying he gets drunk once a month? And?

Why did you have to cancel your night out for his?

sooperdooper · 14/09/2013 10:59

YABU you could've gone out and got a babysitter, so what if he's had a few drinks, it's not against the law and I'd be pissed off if I was woken up by an adult to deal with a spider!

sooperdooper · 14/09/2013 11:00

Christ. At 23. You sound about 80

And this, relax a bit!!

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ParisianTrialByFire · 14/09/2013 13:19

It was short notice, so much so that I couldn't get a babysitter. Trying to rearrange for another night, but me and my friends all having the time at the same time is such a rarity.

I have no problem with him getting drunk, I have a problem with him getting so drunk he can barely stand.

I now have a grumpy DP with a hangover. Still making him handle DS, though he isn't happy about it. I'm determined to have a lazy day.

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Alisvolatpropiis · 14/09/2013 13:33

Whose night was short notice? If it was his why didn't you tell him no?

Lj8893 · 14/09/2013 13:34

But why did you have to cancel your night out if your night out was planned first?

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