To think 'D'P is a grown man?

[ParisianTrialByFire]

And not a teenager who has just discovered alcohol?

It's bad enough that I had to cancel my night out because of his work do. But then he comes home stupidly drunk, proceeds to fall asleep across 3/4 of the bed, then gets snippy when I a) ask him to move so I can get into bed and b) ask him to catch a daddy long legs that got into our room, because they completely freak me out.

All this because the girls from his work made him do shots. I'm not buying it. He could have refused. Surely he should know his limits by the time he's 30!

You sound controlling and martyred OP.

I had to cancel mine, even though it was planned first, because his was a work thing. Mine was just social.

I sound controlling? How so?

You agreed he could do out after cancelling your own plans, he got drunk, you used that fact against him the next day. Though I can see why.

Work drinks are not important, don't let him tell you otherwise. I've been on plenty - colleagues getting wasted together is not important. And that is all that happens in reality.

Tell him no next time. And go out.

Whichever night out was arranged first should take priority, so what if it was a work thing? Next time stick to your plans then you can go out and get drunk instead

Parisian contact your friends and organise another night out. Have back up childcare arrangements incase he conveniently wants to go out the same evening. Go out, have fun and don't let him take the piss out of you again!!

YANBU to be pissed off you cancelled your night out.
YANBU to want him to sleep elsewhere.
YABVVVFU to expect him to stay sober so he can remove a daddy long legs from the room.
HIBU to 'blame' other people for how drunk he gets.
I got fairly pissed last night, but I got up with the DC looked after her today, I still have to bear my responsibilities, and he should be able to realise that.

A work thing that involves heavy drinking and is short notice isn't the same as a work event that would usually take priority.

A work thing?

Bit unprofessional of him to get drunk during a work event. Was he being paid for this evening? Were the company's clients present?

Or do you mean a social night out with people who happen to be his work colleagues?

In which case exactly why is that more important than your social night out?

Hecsy, it was a leaving do apparently. Why he couldn't beg off, or even just go for one drink, is beyond me.

He's had to go in today as well, and is late back. Hooray.