mil and fil visit weekly and when they leave im left with a mess, which is getting worse.
mil is messy,dirty and doesn't care for anything.
in our house we take off shoes and ils always have, over past 3-4 weeks mil has stopped removing her shoes, she doesn't wipe her feet and literally leaves dirt on the floor.
she went to the toilet and didn't move dd2s step stool (thankfully the trainer seat wasn't on) and left wee on the seat and step stool and floor.
she took her cardigan off and shook it and folded it on arm of chair leaving collection of dog hair and mess.
she holds her teacup loosely over one finger so it hangs and frequently spills on the carpet.
she leaves dirty fingerprints on the doors on her way in.
I dread her eating anything as she wont use a plate, sits with her legs open and pushes crumbs onto the floor.
when she puts her teacup down she spills tea over pictures on fire.
she is the same at home, thinks nothing of spilling tea and rubbing it into carpet which is dirty and covered in hair. throws the dog ball up the newly wallpapered walls.
aibu to want dp to either tell his mom to take off her shoes, clean up her wee and be careful with her tea, or to clean all this mess up afterwards. or am I being a complete cow because mil is in her 70s and is this normal mess to expect from older family?