To think that my son wearing girls clothes is normal childs play he's 6

[ghostspirit]

my son wears my daughters clothes a lot. i think its normal childs play and that he will grow out of it at some point.

my friend thinks i should stop him from doing it and tell him its not normal. and thinks he will grow up as a cross dresser maybe even want a sex change. i said if that's what he chooses to do then that's his choice. i think she is over thinking over a 6 year old dressing up.

Is this really a norm you want to enforce all? You didn't create it, but you can challenge it.

being gay would also of been neither tolerated or legal at the time

allforone - I don't see anyone on this thread arguing that the op's son or any other boy should be used to pioneer males wearing girls/women's clothes . People are simply saying it is nothing to worry about. In my experience, boys soon learn from their peers what is 'the norm'.

why challenge it? Girls clothes for girls and boys clothes for boys - it's worked since clothing began, there have always been differences - I like it that way

So if your son's favourite colour is pink he can just suck it up?

toffeewhirl - I said the same thing earlier, he's just playing and will learn it's not the norm when he goes to school or whatever, harmless kids play - but they keep saying "why shouldn't it be the norm, why isn't it challenged" etc

But why be so strict about it when children are just playing, allforone? They are simply dressing up, which is all about fantasy and pretending to be someone else. What are you afraid will happen if they dress up in the opposite gender's clothes?

i agree toffee they do learn what is the norm. they then choose if they want to follow that norm

X-posted, allfor. I don't think anyone is saying that.

"Girls clothes for girls and boys clothes for boys - it's worked since clothing began, there have always been differences - I like it that way"

I agree. I know its not very cool these days but I like dresses on girls. At least while they are little... god knows it wont be long until they are teenagers and dressing like androgynous goth types. Ugh.

allforone was it being surrounded by pro-gayness, as you put it, that resulted in it being socially acceptable to wear trousers? It sounds as if it is you who has been socially conditioned. It is not so many years ago that someone like you would have been arguing against the right of women to wear trousers!

But at 6 years old, Id laugh. So long as he was inside!

I must fight through the swathe of 'pro-gayness and liberisation' that surrounds me to put the kettle on.

Apart from the fact that it hasn't.

yes strokey dont laught at children in the street save it for indoors

Your friend (and alas she's not the only one, as it seems from this thread) is a wacko.

Incidentally, op, I recommend 'The Boy in the Dress' by David Walliams. Wonderful funny and moving book about a boy who started to dress up as a girl. Your son is probably a bit young for it at the moment, though. My DS2 has read it twice and loved it (he's nearly eight now).

it is funny, it is NOT the norm (majority/standard method of clothing for a boy) and I think as a parent he has a right to be told that! If you explain it to him and he understands and still wants to wear girls clothes then that's another story, but he's not even aware he's doing anything certain people, including his school friends who would have a field day with him, would find weird and tease worthy

Absolutely agree, Mog.

thank you toffee. i will look out for it. my other son is coming up 11. he might read it.

Oh good, it's worth the read, ghost.

Yes, if their parents have always told them it's weird and funny...

allforone if the time comes that i need to have a chat with him about the norm then i will till then. he is just a kid dressing up.

agreed! But still mentioning that certain items are girls is purely educating him, he has that right, and if he choose not to wear girls stuff in front of his school mates, he has the right knowledge to know that

"Girls clothes for girls and boys clothes for boys - it's worked since clothing began"

Except it hasn't