To think dh is BU about the cat

[Dancergirl]

A couple of years ago we started thinking about getting a pet for our dds (12, 10 and 6). They really like animals, as do I, I didn't grow up with pets but really wanted one. After considering various furry things in cages, rabbits, guinea pigs, hamsters etc, we thought about getting a cat. The dds were really keen and I always loved cats as a child.

The problem was dh. He didn't grow up with animals and doesn't particularly like them now. However he reluctantly agreed to getting a cat as long as a) he didn't have to do anything, and b) the cat stayed out of the kitchen.

We adopted a gorgeous kitten from CP who is now 2 years old. She is an absolute joy, the dds love her as do I. It's been a revelation to me how much you can love a pet

However, dh won't stop moaning about the cat.

'I don't want a cat'
'Can't we get rid of the cat' etc

I have kept my side of the bargain, he never feeds her, I organise vets visits etc.

I think he's BU to constantly moan when he (albeit reluctantly) agreed to the cat. He's driving me mad.

Fair enough
As I said just wondering if it would affect those posters positions of you had.
It doesn't have any impact on my opinion which I've made fairly clear

Whites, you sound like you have a phobia though - which is quite different. I just find that people that actively dislike animals lack empathy. People who can take them or leave them are ok :)

It wouldn't change my position, as no means no. If every time the cat thing was brought up, he said "no, and that's that," I'm sure OP would've stopped asking at some point!

I had an ex DH who whinged about a cat (he is not my ex for kitty related issues, just to clarify). He moaned and moaned, till I went into hospital for a few days.By time I came home, cat and ex DH were great mates and this happened cos I wasnt there to give her tons of affection. She won him round with her cuteness

Every time the cat goes out the door say, "The Cat has left, enjoy."

every time it returns say,"Never mind next time maybe"

I live with a cat, we have a lot of other animals which I like, other people in this house like cats, it doesn't bother me, it does a good job of ratting, so I take no notice of it.

A friend of mine met a man, who was almost the one, except that he was adamant he would never live with animals, she decided to take drastic action before she threw in the towel, as she knew she needed animals in her life,

She took him on a romantic getaway, stayed in a lovely place, and everyday(almost) they went out trekking at this place, they are married living the good life on dartmoor, with a full menagerie and children.

Her bloke had because he had never had a relationship with any animal, just didn't get it, once the penny dropped, he made up for lost time.

If you could get him to feed the cat everyday, and no one else do it, the cat will start to respond and interact with him.

In all seriousness I'd be starting a conversation about his inability to take responsibility for himself and his actions and suggesting he consider seeing a life coach to help him gain control over his whining.

It's a cat he agreed to. He has to live with it just as he would an ill-considered car purchase or expensive phone contract. Or if he bought a sofa and didn't like the colour. Moaning about these things is immature and creates an atmosphere of negativity.

DH never wanted a cat and only gave in to our DD after much pleading for a kitten from her friends cat. Cat is now 14 and DH adores him. DD has left home leaving HER cat behind

I bet in time the cat will 'grow on him'!

quote that is a good point about interacting with the cat.

Very early on in our relationship I made it clear to DH that I didn't want to live without a cat. Luckily he's pretty easy going and went along with it, based on the rule that he never has to do litter tray (though in the end he's done it all the way through my pregnancy, and also when I've gone to stay with friends and he's stayed home...)

At first he wasn't interested in the cats at all, but there was then a period when he was WFH and was basically alone with them all day. Since then he has loved them to bits and wouldn't be without them. If you're not a cat lover, it does take time to build a relationship with them.

buy him this (not for the children,) so it is always a novelty for the cat, bring it out when you are watching TV after the children have gone to bed, get him to catch the cat.

Oh my god quote, that looks amazing. And I don't even like cats! Would love to play with that with my in laws cat.