To think this man at the cinema was plain nasty?

[WombatCat]

Dh and I watched a film at the cinema on Saturday night.

There was a young man a few rows back from us with very vocal Tourette's. Obviously it was distracting to most people around him, but once the film started I didn't find it an issue. However, one man decided to tell him to shut up and "isn't there a special showing you could go to?"

Quite a few people appeared to be in agreement with him. I now wish I said something.

I said early on that I would be pissed having paid to enjoy the film and it was disrupted.

I don't see that as disablist.

I wouldn't leave, I wouldn't askthem to leave, I would tolerate the noise but I would be pissed off really as I don't go very much.

I didn't ever say there should be special screens or disabled people shouldn't go out.

I don't see anything disablist about being annoyed at a noise disruption :/

whats your solution then sonly

At the risk of getting my fanjo kicked can someone please explain why they're not interested in special screenings.

I ask as I'm currently negotiating with a fostering group to do exactly that. We already have one arranged at our local cinema for children with autism. We now want one for a whole range of children with disabilities - and my mate who looks after adults is trying to get one for adults with disabilities.

The cinema have been really keen so far, a lot of the earlier showings are empty anyway.

Is it just that you think that it's patronising or that you think people should just have mixed showings and not complain?

Cos that's not my experience - we want separate showings so the arseholes who tut or look disapproving aren't there.

It's all very well saying they shouldn't be arseholes but frankly it makes the people with disabilities more comfortable and able to relax if there's no tutters.

special screenings are good..if they are to provide a better environment for the person with the disability.

They are not good if suggested so that the person with the disability is kept away from "regular" people so they don't annoy them.

HTH :)

(wasnt a sarky HTH either)

ie dimmed lights and noise turned down for person with autism.

Having them so that people can be free from tutting arseholes is just WRONG too, as there should be tolerance, not segregation so the tutting arseholes never learn to accept those with disabilities

Of course it's wrong that there are tutting arseholes.

But it would just be nice if the children/adults could go somewhere there was automatic catering for their needs and acceptance without always having to put up with it/argue back etc.

I'm not arguing with you by the way. I'm just pretty keen on getting these special screenings at the moment.

for those quoting a part of my first post, please could you read the rest of it and my subsequent post. I am not an arsehole, I am trying to think this through and understand a situation which is outside my own experience.

I've not been to the cinema for years, but could be enticed back only if there were special screenings for people like me; people who can sit quietly throughout, go to the loo before it starts so we don't get up in the middle of the film, don't mess with our mobiles, don't chat to our mates, don't loudly munch bucket loads of shite "food", don't slurp drinks, don't kick the chair in front, and don't take up more than our fair share of space. Yup, I'm intolerant, which is why I far prefer to sit in the comfort of my own home with a DVD than put up with other people. I'd love a special "everyone STFU and keep still" screening . Oh, and they can turn the sodding volume down a few notches too, I don't want to end up with impaired hearing!

Laurie..it would be nice, but it shouldn't be needed, it is sad

Hullo all,

Can we remind you all of our talk guidelines?

I dont think there is much of a solution and lets face it, it isnt likely to happen often.

but I think some people are being painted as disablist when all they have said is they would be annoyed at a noise disruption.

I have only read one page but god some of you lot need segregating.

SPecial showings are lower noise level and lights still on as this can help people with autism feel more relaxed and less likely to panic. They are not intended to segregate people so the disabled child does not annoy the other paying guests.

IME the really rude people who tend to shout at disabled people or mutter under their breaths are not disabled or 'suffering' with a learning disability they are just self-centered twats who think they are more entitled.

NotYoMomma..well if you read the OP, the people being annoyed were kind of supportive of the utterly rude disablist man.

Instead of being rightfully outraged as all decent people would be.

I mean this thread should really just have been full of posts saying what an arsehole that man was,, in a decent world, not defenders of his annoyance.

Notyomomma, your first post on this thread was disabilist.

the man was rude - no one is disputing that

no it wasn't disablist. I said I would be pissed. I would, but I wouldnt say anything and I would toerate it because I am not an arsehole.

tell me how it was disablist.

If you can't see why,there's not much point explaining .

no really I would appreciate it if you would. I am absolutley all for people going to everyday things like everyone else. I dont think special screenings are appropriate.

however people can feel annoyed with the fact that noise is disrupting their experience without being disablist surely?

well, maybe a nice thoughtful person would keep that to themselves on a site where people with disabilities/children with disabilities post

Lots of posters on here have children that grunt,squeal and shout.

Do you think that they want to read how pissed off you would be if you encountered their children?

I also mentioned about my grans coughing tic (I will describe it as a tic as she has had lots of tests but it seems to be a compulsive trait rather than something causing her to cough)

I can actually ignore it quite easily to thw point I dont notice she is doing it, but my mum really really struggles. she can't help but notice and cant switch off from the fact she is coughing

it is just something you have to accept as part of life. we would never segregate granny for others convenience!

so I wouldnt say I was disablist, but I can understand it can be annoying, having had the discussion many times with my mum

yes..it's basically saying, if you go to the cinema with your child it will piss me, and lots of the audience off. Lovely to read.

MrsOakenshield - I responded to the bit of the post you wanted to think about. I was answering your question. It just seemed a bit daft to quote the whole post.