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Original poster

to worry that DH's rather large penis has caused me an injury?

27 replies

CantHandleABigUn · 09/09/2013 21:32

My DH of 20 years and I had a 'sexathon' today as we were, unusually, both at home alone as our DC were at college, school and nursery and DH had an unexpected day off. Our sex life goes through periodic droughts due to teenage DD never going to bloody bed, so today we made the most of it!

After 4 hours of rampant sex, I am now in quite a state of discomfort with stomach cramps and back pain. I have just Blush remembered that I have a vaginal pessary in due to a mild womb prolapse and I am now worried that the pessary may have been pushed somewhere it should'nt be Shock. DH is rather well endowed and very excited today and out of the many positions we were in, him being behind me was quite, ahem, fulfilling for him.

He is obviously a little worried that I am in pain as I am but says that it can't possibly be due to the pessary being knocked out of kilter. I am worried that it may be a problem.

I can hardly walk into A&E to get checked out and tell them about our escapades of this afternoon Blush. I am an upstanding (well now I am) mother of 4. Do you think they would accept it if I tell them that have been to an extreme spin class? What to do??

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Sparklymommy · 09/09/2013 21:34

If you are realy worried then I think you should go to a and e. they are professionals, I'm sure they've seen worse. And I wouldn't lie either! I'd be proud of my day of fun!

StitchingMoss · 09/09/2013 21:35

Are you in enough pain to require A&E or could you wait to see a doctor in the morning?

Doctors have seen it all and more besides - I would be honest. They'll probably be quite impressed Grin.

iwantanafternoonnap · 09/09/2013 21:35

We'd know you were lying LOL. I would assume the sex would have just melted the pessary but that your pain might be due to your prolapse. If your concerned then go up but be honest but I warn you Mondays are the worst day in A and E. I would take some painkillers and see your GP in the morning and then if necessary he can refer you straight to the gynae team.

SaucyJack · 09/09/2013 21:36

Stealthboast.com Wink

KirjavaTheCat · 09/09/2013 21:37

Grin at your username.

I'm sure they'd know you were lying. Be honest, say you had sex and you're worried you may have jostled the pessary because you're having some pain. They won't bat an eyelid.

acer12 · 09/09/2013 21:37

Take two paracetamol and go see the nurse tomoro if still bad, I wouldn't clogg a&e up.

My tummy hurts if dh had been energetic I swear he is banging my cervix! Dull achy shit!

QuintessentialOldDear · 09/09/2013 21:40

Of all the injuries they see in A&E, I bet it makes a cheerful difference to see people injured because they have been having a really good non-alcohol/drug induced time - if there is such a thing as a good injury, this must be it...

Sorry you are in pain though.

WorraLiberty · 09/09/2013 21:42

You're an adult and a Mother of 4

Surely you can look a medical professional in the eye and tell them you're worried your pessary might have been dislodged, during sex with your Husband?

Ezio · 09/09/2013 21:43

Trust me, they've seen animals up backsides, what you describe is pretty normal.

Atleast see the GP.

And well done on your bedroom adventures Grin

northernlurker · 09/09/2013 21:47

How bad is the pain? If it's really grim then you need to be a big, grown up person and say 'I've had a lot of vigourous sex today and now my abdomen hurts. Please can somebody check out my prolapse before things get any worse.' If it's not too bad take some painkillers and see if it settles.

And be sure to log off mumsnet properly. Your teenagers do NOT want to read this thread by accident.

Easyonthetonic · 09/09/2013 21:49

A ring pessary is much like a contraceptive diaphragm, it sits at the top of the vagina and helps hold up the uterus. Positon wise there is nowhere else for it to go, you should be able to feel it.

See GP practice nurse if you are worried.

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CantHandleABigUn · 09/09/2013 22:03

Oh thanks *EasyOnTheTonic and all the other replies. I was winding myself up into a panic imagining it being lodged up into my womb, causing an infection and it having to be pulled out! The pain is like a very bad period and having been kicked hard in the back. I will leave it until tomorrow and if the pain is still there, see the nurse.

Well the drought will carry on for a good while after this. I obviously can't handle 'it' anymore Grin.

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Debs75 · 09/09/2013 22:18

Oh OP you have had a day much like meGrin
All 4 dc's in school meant a lovely long morning in bed. I recently had a coil fitted though so I made DP slow down abit just in case.

I hope you are OK tomorrow. The first time me and DP had sex I couldn't walk for 3 daysGrin

Famzilla · 09/09/2013 22:24

What on earth happened that meant you couldn't physically walk for 3 days? How did you go to the loo?

My days I've lived a sheltered life...

RhondaJean · 09/09/2013 22:27

Could it be cystitis? Caused by vigorous sex and very painful.

LeoandBoosmum · 10/09/2013 01:08

Get checked out. I think adults assume other adults have sex. Where's the shame in it?

Debs75 · 10/09/2013 10:00

Famzilla I could physically walk but it bloody hurt so yes |I stayed in bed. The loo wasn't far away

InSpaceNooneCanHearYouScream · 10/09/2013 10:29

I would think its all just caused a bit of congestion and inflammation, maybe due to your prolapse. I'd give it a couple of days to settle down and he might have to go a bit gentler in future. Envy

MrsWolowitz · 10/09/2013 10:34

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KellyElly · 10/09/2013 10:36

Stealth boast post OP Grin. Seriously, most people would just go to the doctor rather than post on MN about this. I am assuming you want to boast a bit about your husbands massive todger and afternoon of sex Grin Grin

TheUglyFuckling · 10/09/2013 10:43

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BadSeedsAddict · 10/09/2013 10:45

I had this - it was more down to position than size, although he's above average...anyway it hurt a lot in the night then I had a bit of pain later the next day but only a twinge really. No pessary. Doctor will prob say always good to be safe; although if the pessary is supposed to absorb anyway then it's probably not a problem. There aren't many 'wrong' places it can go up there Grin

BadSeedsAddict · 10/09/2013 10:48

Ooh and, I quite often feel like telling someone about having had great sex, but can't - is there a MN 'I just had great sex' thread, where we can all virtual-high-five each other? - because there should be.

MrsWolowitz · 10/09/2013 11:51

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kelda · 10/09/2013 11:54

As someone has just said, could be cystitis. Drink loads of water and to to the GP tomorrow.

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